Stonewall the QUEER SUMMER 2019

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i sorta missed the parade this year but the streets were closed down and everything was shoulder to shoulder from downtown to midtown regardless

Fuck the NRA (ulysses), Monday, 1 July 2019 15:40 (three months ago) link

i'm a bit more of a Folsom Street Fair type, tbh. Pride often just seems like a bunch of corporate hooey and a lot of people getting way too fucked up. i find it depressing, and have felt this way even before i started really cutting back on drinking and partying.

blue light or electric light (the table is the table), Monday, 1 July 2019 15:42 (three months ago) link

(for reference to those who've never met me in person, i now drink approximately ten alcoholic beverages a month. i used to do that in the space of 48 hours, on a regular basis, for years).

blue light or electric light (the table is the table), Monday, 1 July 2019 15:44 (three months ago) link

There was an anti-corporate Queer Lib march apart from the big one, but I attended neither.

Folsom Strett East is two blocks long now... I did go to that a week ago, but just spectated for two hours.

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Monday, 1 July 2019 15:49 (three months ago) link

the SF one was shut down in the middle yesterday for 50 minutes by anti-police /anti-corporation protestors

Dan S, Monday, 1 July 2019 15:51 (three months ago) link

I don't go to Pride because I try to go outdoors in the summertime as little as possible.

Herman Woke (cryptosicko), Monday, 1 July 2019 16:00 (three months ago) link

yeah, heat + crowds + lots of music I don't need to hear again

spent about two hours in bar both Sat & Sun nights, that was my limit

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Monday, 1 July 2019 16:02 (three months ago) link

i know about the protests at the SF parade. know one of the folks who was in that line.

but that disruption still won't get me near anything like a Pride parade. it's just not my thing— you can drag me to a party or something, yes, but a parade? fuck no.

blue light or electric light (the table is the table), Monday, 1 July 2019 16:05 (three months ago) link

I went to one once but it was in Berlin, just last year, as it happens. The Christopher Street Parade, they call it there. I had so much fun but I was extremely drunk and it was Berlin and was very ridiculous. I fell out with my friend who had decided to wear a dress but wasn't confident enough to be a guy in a dress so I had to supervise.

Actually, it was shit, apart from being wasted.

Funky Isolations (jed_), Monday, 1 July 2019 22:39 (three months ago) link

and I went into the Tiergarten after the parade ended and lots of men were cruising and that so it was interesting.

Funky Isolations (jed_), Monday, 1 July 2019 22:41 (three months ago) link

It was an experience.

Funky Isolations (jed_), Monday, 1 July 2019 22:43 (three months ago) link

see how bipolar I am.

Funky Isolations (jed_), Monday, 1 July 2019 22:44 (three months ago) link

i got excited reading about dore alley parties yesterday (i might go this year with my boyfriend) but i don't know. sometimes it's more fun to read about them, not go, and look at photos / listen to the sets later haha. i don't drink anymore so it's got to either have good music or good socializing. and not be at 2 in the morning. noncompliant is dj-ing. so is dj harvey. the harvey thing looks like a sex party maybe. i've always wanted to see him do his thing but i don't know if it's like too much work. i get tired at 10 every night lol.

xp jed i feel you, i always have the best and worst time at parties, alcohol dramatizes my mood swings.

cheese canopy (map), Monday, 1 July 2019 22:56 (three months ago) link

and I know what you mean about being there or not but looking afterwards.

Funky Isolations (jed_), Monday, 1 July 2019 23:00 (three months ago) link

fuckin' hate parades
i stayed inside all day in the AC and tried to work on music

surm, Tuesday, 2 July 2019 16:52 (three months ago) link

What goes less mentioned is that Stonewall was just two years old at the time, and when the first pride parade—then known as the Christopher Street Liberation Day March—was held the following year, the bar had already shut down after timidly limiting its drink selection to juices. The space became a bagel shop, a Chinese restaurant, and a shoe store until its current iteration opened in 1990. As much as Stonewall galvanized the gay community, that community navigated both its 1970s heyday and the apocalyptic throes of the AIDS crisis without it. Pride finds a way....

“Circuit parties [gay raves] and parades are thriving. Grindr isn’t killing them and Grindr isn’t killing gay bars. Boredom is,” posits Daniel Nardicio, an impresario of gay nightlife in New York who also runs his own gay bar and cabaret, Club Cumming, with actor Alan Cumming. “Ooh, you have drag bingo? Drag brunch? Drag karaoke? Stop. Give me something new, not just a rainbow on a bottle of Absolut or a retirement home cliché hosted by a drag queen.”

Even as gay bars have ridden the acclaimed historic visibility of television shows including RuPaul’s Drag Race and Pose, they’ve merely become “vessels for viewing parties” of those shows, adds Nardicio.

Gay bars are “stuck,” he says, and he has a theory about why.

“AIDS killed lots of artists and free spirits, but it also killed people who would’ve grown up to become mentors to everyone under 50 now. We grew up alone and without that sense of connection across generations. We lost them, and we’ve paid the price by slipping from the creative class to the consumer class. We went from radical to basic.” “Basic,” according to the Urban Dictionary of American slang, is one “only interested in things mainstream, popular, and trending.” Consider how derivative 2019 queer culture seems compared with 1967. Gay liberation pulls its punches....

In contrast to broad LGBTQ acceptance by the mainstream, queer culture itself has fought and fractured internally largely along racial lines. The idea of a united gay community in 2019 is as much a fantasy as there ever was for a demographic group whose sole uniting factor is sexual preference and societal marginalization—not, say, age, creed, career, class, color, health, or regionalism, the identities around which Americans often coalesce. So as gay bars embrace bachelorettes and other straight audiences even as they tell trans women they “aren’t real women,” or assert that centering blackness too much is “not good for the businesses,” there is actually more of a need for more vulnerable members of the queer spectrum to have spaces that feel safe to them, and exclusively for them.

https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2019-06-28/the-american-gay-bar-is-down-but-don-t-count-it-out-just-yet

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 3 July 2019 14:25 (three months ago) link

totally agree
so much basic
it's shit
i always say i wish i had grown up in new york in the 80s....without all the death.

surm, Wednesday, 3 July 2019 15:59 (three months ago) link

gratified to seem some grousing about the gross corporate hedonism of pride parades, cuz I was starting to feel like a homophobe last weekend for having similar thoughts

Οὖτις, Wednesday, 3 July 2019 16:03 (three months ago) link

are you kidding? half my contemporaries are morons, sorry ya shits

surm, Wednesday, 3 July 2019 16:04 (three months ago) link

it's a miracle i found any gay friends in this city tbh

surm, Wednesday, 3 July 2019 16:04 (three months ago) link

They don't come more basic than me, sorry to say.

Pauline Male (Eric H.), Wednesday, 3 July 2019 16:05 (three months ago) link

waitaminit, surm are you in SF?!

Οὖτις, Wednesday, 3 July 2019 16:07 (three months ago) link

you're high-end basic, dear

xp

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 3 July 2019 16:07 (three months ago) link

omg no i wish! in NYC, sorry if i confused you!
and Eric i beg to differ. you have a big heart. that's p unbasic, shocking as that may be.

surm, Wednesday, 3 July 2019 16:08 (three months ago) link

btw Happy Roundnumber Birthday, Eric!

The only thing I remember about the summer of '79 is I saw a double bill of Animal House and Putney Swope at my hometown theater.

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 3 July 2019 16:13 (three months ago) link

Round number and rounder midsection!

Pauline Male (Eric H.), Wednesday, 3 July 2019 16:44 (three months ago) link

all part of the otter to bear transformation

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 3 July 2019 17:16 (three months ago) link

I'm having Jake over tonight
There's a real spark there!
He's adorable and sexy af and I'm a little bit pinching myself
!!!!

surm, Friday, 5 July 2019 21:22 (three months ago) link

Jake Ryan?

Pauline Male (Eric H.), Friday, 5 July 2019 21:35 (three months ago) link

Lol nooooo
Jake with the floppy hair who lives on my street and wants to watch horror movies with me!!!!!

surm, Friday, 5 July 2019 21:40 (three months ago) link

damn, see what I miss by hating horror movies

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Friday, 5 July 2019 22:35 (three months ago) link

:P he let me top and now I want a burger

surm, Saturday, 6 July 2019 06:21 (three months ago) link

Horror movies, topping and burgers?! Keep that one!

Pauline Male (Eric H.), Saturday, 6 July 2019 13:38 (three months ago) link

Omg right

surm, Saturday, 6 July 2019 14:44 (three months ago) link

hooked up with a dude at a wedding I attended -- Brooklyn's good for that sort of thing

TikTok to the (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Saturday, 6 July 2019 15:19 (three months ago) link

Lol Brooklyn is so slutty. What did he look like?! Give us the deets

surm, Saturday, 6 July 2019 17:33 (three months ago) link

I don't get nuthin in Brooklyn

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Sunday, 7 July 2019 05:29 (three months ago) link

I feel lost that I haven't had my fill of Manhattan gays ever
Am I missing much?
This guy I was seeing recently gave me a dispassionate goodbye and I figured we came to parting ways but he texted last night
I'm gonna make him wait a few days before I respond.

surm, Sunday, 7 July 2019 12:20 (three months ago) link

I shaved my balls while listening to The Hidden Cameras this morning. Don't really care for the song that much but I really like the lyrics:

Hunting hair to find emotional grace
I am scared you'll see my body and know
That removing hair has taken over my life
And I don't know how to stop

I want another enema, nema, nema
Good waste is an oxymoron, moron, moron
My body is an exit wound, oh my wounds, oh my wounds
I want another enema, nema, nema

flamboyant goon tie included, Sunday, 7 July 2019 19:26 (three months ago) link

hairless balls make me sad

J0rdan S., Sunday, 7 July 2019 21:02 (three months ago) link

they also make you itch

TikTok to the (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Sunday, 7 July 2019 21:17 (three months ago) link

I flip-flop on whether or not I'm a man who is crotch-hairy or crotch-shaven but usually it's just a once-a-year thing when it gets hot. I am rollerblading a lot these days, speaking of gay. I went 13 km yesterday, with my shirt off.

flamboyant goon tie included, Sunday, 7 July 2019 23:42 (three months ago) link

video or it didn't happen

when I had my stem-cell transplant my crotch hair fell out and frankly it was traumatic

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Monday, 8 July 2019 02:02 (three months ago) link

Omg
That so is
I had a traumatic incident with hair removal last summer so this year I'm committed to being a total caveman beard and all

surm, Monday, 8 July 2019 02:15 (three months ago) link

It doesn't need to be shaved to the skin for me, but I am no fan of a briar patch down there.

Pauline Male (Eric H.), Monday, 8 July 2019 02:36 (three months ago) link

Ok admittedly I did trim yesterday

surm, Monday, 8 July 2019 02:39 (three months ago) link

But like just the essentials

surm, Monday, 8 July 2019 02:40 (three months ago) link

but Eric, it adds so much mystery

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Monday, 8 July 2019 02:41 (three months ago) link

Save that bush for Jessica Fletcher.

Pauline Male (Eric H.), Monday, 8 July 2019 02:45 (three months ago) link

Baahhhahhahhahahahhhhahahahahaha
She was (obv) just on my TV today

surm, Monday, 8 July 2019 02:46 (three months ago) link

There were superfans rushing the stage for selfies with Lily at the end. What the hell is wrong with people?

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Friday, 13 September 2019 15:27 (one month ago) link

tbh i have a limited number of people i would want selfies with but lily tomlin is one of them

Fuck the NRA (ulysses), Friday, 13 September 2019 16:27 (one month ago) link

i might too, but not in the middle of a scrum.

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Friday, 13 September 2019 16:44 (one month ago) link

no, agreed; that's always a bad look up to and including the most famous of people

Fuck the NRA (ulysses), Friday, 13 September 2019 18:20 (one month ago) link

I have a photo of myself with Lily but it wasn’t a selfie and I hadn’t planned on asking for it - on the rare occasions I meet Very Famous People I don’t usually ask for photos. But she was very nice about it.

donna rouge, Friday, 13 September 2019 22:23 (one month ago) link

so liiiiike
i'm getting together with a guy tonight who's super into this dom sub stuff
like i think he wants me to slap him around which don't get me wrong, i'm totally into
but it's been a hot minute sooo i just hope i haven't lost my touch
also i have a 4th date with a reallllly nice and handsome guy on Friday. he used to be a runway model so i have no idea what he's doing with me but I'LL TAKE IT

surm, Monday, 16 September 2019 20:07 (one month ago) link

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hOMvs_1UFCk

cheese canopy (map), Monday, 16 September 2019 21:14 (one month ago) link

:P :D :D

surm, Monday, 16 September 2019 21:52 (one month ago) link

I
Just
Took advantage of the "open" nature of my relationship for the first time in a year-and-a-half. It was a total surprise! A friend came over for lunch, he lingered, it was clear he was interested, I offered, he pretended to act surprised, etc.

I wasn't especially attracted to the guy? But I like him a lot personally? But it was weirdly, still, the best O I've had in a long, long time. It was really hot and the dude was clearly very happy about it too.

But then, of course, after he left, I became Lady Macbeth, scrubbing the condom smell from my hands, laundering literally everything in the house, showering shaving making dinner basically had an extended domestic explosion in response to this

I get it but I don't get it, really. Monogamous Sex That Is Just Fine is so perfect, problem free, reliable, easy, I am still so confused by this dynamic.

fgti (flamboyant goon tie included), Saturday, 21 September 2019 23:54 (three weeks ago) link

well, that is a very domestic goddess dynamic

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Sunday, 22 September 2019 04:22 (three weeks ago) link

“I learned to cook this good because I was always cheating on my boyfriend”

fgti (flamboyant goon tie included), Sunday, 22 September 2019 05:08 (three weeks ago) link

yeah p much

surm, Monday, 23 September 2019 16:16 (three weeks ago) link

it's also like a primitive thing tho
sex with strangers, in terms of evolution speaking, is not as safe as the one you know
it makes sense that after he leaves you would want to expound upon the safety and tranquility of your home

surm, Monday, 23 September 2019 16:17 (three weeks ago) link

not that your friend is a stranger but you kwim

surm, Monday, 23 September 2019 16:18 (three weeks ago) link

Pro-tip: if you're gonna have sex with one of your closest friends, be sure it's at least good sex and not mediocre sex like I endured Sat night/Sunday morning.

TikTok to the (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 23 September 2019 16:36 (three weeks ago) link

mediocre is often good enough.

not ready to start a fall thread yet (maybe cuz it's 89 F in NYC today) but i can't think of a good title.

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Monday, 23 September 2019 16:39 (three weeks ago) link

fuck. so ready for 65 degrees.

surm, Monday, 23 September 2019 16:45 (three weeks ago) link

ummm also Alfred that's a really good tip

surm, Monday, 23 September 2019 16:45 (three weeks ago) link

xp from my own post in the "nobody goes to the theater" thread but i love this musical and wish everyone would give it a listen so:

The OST for the outrageously good and crazy wordy "A Strange Loop" came out today - described by the Liz Phair loving playwright/composer as a musical about a black, fat, queer, effeminate theater nerd searching for meaning by writing a musical about a black, fat, queer, effeminate theater nerd who writes a musical about a black, fat, queer, effeminate theater nerd searching for meaning - and it's great.

Author is Michael (r) Jackson, so he names the lead of his roman a clef "Usher" and he's an usher at a Disney show. Highly recommended!
https://open.spotify.com/album/7vlAmEdZEOVdRUsB4fgrvC?si=1MkKwKxrSPKsLgS_qkobmg

Fuck the NRA (ulysses), Friday, 27 September 2019 16:56 (two weeks ago) link

"Inwood Daddy," in context, is fucking devastating

Fuck the NRA (ulysses), Friday, 27 September 2019 17:02 (two weeks ago) link

Ahhh hahahah that sounds so awesome!!

fgti (flamboyant goon tie included), Friday, 27 September 2019 17:37 (two weeks ago) link

i think you'll love it fgti, kinda has your name on it; would love to see you and jackson collabo.

Fuck the NRA (ulysses), Friday, 27 September 2019 17:43 (two weeks ago) link

so i just started getting furniture in my bach pad
feels so gooood

surm, Wednesday, 9 October 2019 15:29 (one week ago) link

including the waterbed?

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 9 October 2019 15:45 (one week ago) link

ha that would be the day

surm, Wednesday, 9 October 2019 15:49 (one week ago) link

summer is over, queers

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 9 October 2019 15:51 (one week ago) link

THANK GOD

surm, Wednesday, 9 October 2019 16:11 (one week ago) link

Do not accept.

Pauline Male (Eric H.), Wednesday, 9 October 2019 16:37 (one week ago) link

are you saying we need a new thread morbzy?

surm, Wednesday, 9 October 2019 16:42 (one week ago) link

i have a really unpopular title ready, so beat me to it

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 9 October 2019 16:55 (one week ago) link

No please share.

Pauline Male (Eric H.), Wednesday, 9 October 2019 17:34 (one week ago) link

Hurry up and make the thread I have sumthin to say

i could chug a keg of you (flamboyant goon tie included), Wednesday, 9 October 2019 17:42 (one week ago) link

Oh no, I was posting that in a Jazmine Masters voice

i could chug a keg of you (flamboyant goon tie included), Wednesday, 9 October 2019 18:37 (one week ago) link

--- - Oop

Pauline Male (Eric H.), Wednesday, 9 October 2019 18:38 (one week ago) link

Canceling Ellen and the NFL: QUEER FALL of 2019

Pauline Male (Eric H.), Wednesday, 9 October 2019 18:39 (one week ago) link


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