no boys allowed in the room!!!!

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not here are you kidding?!!?

i'll text it to you!
i only have a photo of the dress in a group pic and you can't see it very well but it was magnificent

Magnificent dress is a decent recompense for missing a flight, I’d say. Glad your trip remained intact!

it wasn't even really my fault i just took the opportunity to shit on myself about it

marzipan milkshake for my ice queen wedding then Royal Sundae or Spumoni as a guest (not that either suits my shape in the slightest)

I don't have pics of my capsule wardrobe in one place but the vibe is basically

https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/2446/5551/products/20180417_094358_002_1024x1024.jpg?v=1531193658

https://www.naturalizer.com/ProductImages/shoes_iaec0230530.jpg?preset=details

https://img1.wantitall.co.za/prodimages/johnny-urban-backpack-men-women-red-aaron-from-recycled-pet-durable-roll-top-daypack-18-22-litre-ruc__41z7aSv4W6L.jpg

What's a capsule wardrobe? I'm guessing like "small" but as someone who packs one pair of trousers and three shirts for a week's holiday I don't know why you need an extra term for just not having much?

My other guess is just dressing like the band Capsule, which in my head is much better:

https://i.pinimg.com/736x/d9/ba/4a/d9ba4ac85392aebd10558baf7650115e.jpg

Yeah it’s basically a pared down number of items that can all be worn together in different combos to maximize the number of outfits.

Ah, okay, the combo thing makes sense! I was thinking somewhere along those lines but I'm not into fashion and only ever wear brown so my brain didn't quite reach it.

Yes please do imagine me making air quotes over that term of art because I also was like

Lol at the other reading of Capsule wardrobe - I want to make one like that!

I get the vibe, in orbit. Love that oversized shirt, though it’s the kind of thing I could never pull off.

xp to self: ...WTF when I started to realize it was a life-style THING that people put on IG and Pinterest and so on. I guess I should have known. But I've gone down the rabbit hole a bit on this one, in what I hope continues to be a "fun" way.

I can see it being fun - I think my "non-fashiony person" status leads to people thinking I'm sneery about it all, but clothing can be great for creative expression and I'm never going to shit on that.

I guess I do get a bit sneery at fashion as a set of rules, especially one that constantly changes in order to maximise profit, but that's a more understandable reaction, right?

Yeah of course! :D I was getting really caught up in a very homogeneous set of "looks" that's portrayed on other people's soc meedz and trying to follow Porto #streetstyle or w/e.

emil.y, this is sort of a weird long shot but have you checked out the clothes at Uoozee.com? I like their kooky comfy aesthetic.

dressing as i please is one of the few pleasures in life that i indulge in to my desired degree, 100%

xp to io: I had not, just had a little browse and there's some good brown jumper style stuff in there, for sure. Some of the other stuff reminds me a little of dark mori style (I confess I only read about this on twitter the other day, I'm pretty into it but think I'd look more 'hobo' in it than cool and witchy).

apparently theres a variation of mori girl fashion called dark mori and it literally what an actual witch would wear pic.twitter.com/2Z5utAXQCX

— sleeby buppy (@pup_hime) April 6, 2019

Picking and packing clothing for travel is extremely high stress, especially if the weather will be hot. Which is why I prefer traveling to cold places.

digging the dark mori witch look in moderation. i need to go in and out of dark witch mode.

there aren't many non-self-destructive things i could do that would bring me as much real satisfaction as wearing what i want when i want.

speaking of dresses, the dress i mentioned above is sort of an autumn-colors forest maiden halter dress (i wore a crop top under it so it was more like a dirndl?) with lace accents, a tulle underskirt, a corset back, and a giant bow that ties in the back. it's not something i could imagine anyone else i know wearing but it was there waiting for me! perfect condition, could be handmade? wearing it on a trip was SO delightful and i enjoyed it immensely. i didn't even feel unchill in my crazy dress because it was totally comfortable. even thinking about it makes me mildly happy.

agree about packing being stressful. i am always cold and have a pathological need to feel fly on vacation.

also now i have a bunion that i have to baby so that makes it harder! boo

I had never heard of this dark mori but I think I like it. Cozy goth otm.

I also sometimes get fb adverts for an insanely expensive line of clothing by a company called Demobaza. I think I can accurately categorize their style as "Burning Man" but I also kind of love it for the post-apocalyptic sci-fi martial arts warrior urchin vibe.

http://www.faiiint.com/faiiint/faiiint/images/2013/08/demobazaaw13-2.jpg

I was more thorough looking through the meringue dresses. I kind of really want Noisette for regular life.

I take approximately the same things with me everywhere I travel. No jeans (too heavy), one super casual outfit for lounging or to get destroyed, the rest versatile enough for almost anything else you would want to do. I can manage about a month in one carry-on and that's even with me bringing a small amount of kitchen stuff.

xpost inorbit being completely detached from talking about work or referencing ever having to be at work makes people think you do covert things or have a large trust fund. I get both of those even at the places I am actively working at. Maybe I am just super shady.

When you are in portugal you should find a bottle of Madeira from your birth year. It will last you forever even after opened. You can have a little every birthday.

“pathological need to feel fly on vacation.”

THIS IS ME

I put effort into how I look - hair, makeup, clothes, jewelry- like 6 x a year at home, but will dress up every single day I’m on vacation

I’m in camp Yerac. The thought of checking a bag freaks me out. If I don’t wear/use every single thing I’ve oacked multiple times, I feel I’ve done something very wrong. I’m a proponent of packing for 1 week even if you are gone for 3. I will do laundry in a bath tub if it cones to that. I have buy socks if I run out before laundry gets done. I have worn my spouse’s underwear when I have run out of my own. Shoe selection is my biggest issue as I try to pack only one pair in addition to those I wear on the plane.

It should be said that I don’t travel much, the opportunity to do so makes me want to dress up MORE.

Everyone’s different. We don’t need to do it one way or the other or divide into teams. I know that wearing dumb clothes makes me less appealing as a travel partner. That’s part of why I felt bad at the airport.

I’d love to have the kind of travel experience that makes me care less about what I’m wearing. Instead I’m stuck in high school kid mode wearing my ruffled shirt on the school trip to Washington DC.

I love when people look fab from a suitcase! I keep it simple because I like the ease, and also the challenge. I alsobiy things on the road to liven things up, for example the like 5 loose cotton dresses I picked ip in India which have replaced my sarong/tee look of prior packs.

That was supposed to be “also buy”

Yeah, I have to keep it simple because I hate the whole process of flying so much. I do tend to dress a bit nicer when away but everything I have is super comfortable but has one weird styley thing about it that I wouldn't feel underdressed if I am out from morning to dinnertime.

We don’t need to do it one way or the other or divide into teams. I know that wearing dumb clothes makes me less appealing as a travel partner. That’s part of why I felt bad at the airport.

if we did, I would be on your team. I am the "maybe this will come in handy" person when I go places. But even on the occasions where I don't use the extra pair of underwear, or socks, or warm layer, or tank top, or plastic bag to put things that are wet and kinda gross, or fingernail clippers, or spare phone charger cable/plug, or multi-tool (off-brand leatherman basically) ... I feel better having the "maybe this will come in handy" items. otoh the only shoes I travel with are the ones I wear on the road/plane, and a pair of like, bathroom/bedroom slippers.

Haha I love that you'd take a multi-tool, I might borrow that idea.

I also generally pack for every hypothetical situation ("maybe we'll go to the opera!") and don't feel bad about it. That said, it is a blessed relief to travel to a warm country and pack only silks and light cottons so that ten dresses can squeeze into a backpack-sized space. This talk is very much making me want to book another holiday - flights to...Bergerac are only £20!

I am absolutely shit at packing. I always bring way too much and forget the essential things. It helps when I make lists but I'm still terrible. New goal - get better at packing!

When you are in portugal you should find a bottle of Madeira from your birth year. It will last you forever even after opened. You can have a little every birthday.

― Yerac, Monday, April 8, 2019 6:06 PM (yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

My parents and I went to Portugal (Lisbon, the Algarve, and Madeira) for 10 days when I was 13 and my dad did just that. IIRC he opened it on his 50th birthday. IO have a wonderful time. It's a beautiful place and I really want to go back one day. Madeira is out of this world beautiful.

We don’t need to do it one way or the other or divide into teams. I know that wearing dumb clothes makes me less appealing as a travel partner.

To be honest, reading your posts has made me desperately want to join your team for a one-off full glam holiday extravaganza, but I have nobody to do it with irl, bah.

Instead I’m stuck in high school kid mode wearing my ruffled shirt on the school trip to Washington DC.

I love you so much and feel exactly like this almost always. I think the thing that changed for me this trip is that I can't even imagine that where we're going is real and I don't rly know what "normal" ppl wear there so all I can do is style myself how I would ideally want and not have to think about every nuance of how formal something is or if it's right for this setting or that activity. Which I normally do. Because I complicate everything. Anyway, other places might as well be THE MOON to me is what I'm saying. I can't wait to get off the plane in Madrid and hear Spanish.

That said, it is a blessed relief to travel to a warm country and pack only silks and light cottons so that ten dresses can squeeze into a backpack-sized space.

<3

also, i am just so used to doing everything by myself. like, i imagine if one was traveling with another person, maybe all my "just in case" stuff wouldn't feel as necessary

Lol it’s just worse with another person bc you worry about twice as much stuff being forgotten. We got to Amsterdam last year and Jordan realized he hadn’t packed a single pair of underwear.

hahahaha

lol I'm such a slob on holiday. I pack nice stuff then wear the same two things pretty much. since having kids i dress way more for comfort than I used to, also I never have a chance to shop except for essentials and none of my old clothes fit any more, whereas previously I'd kind of built up a nice collection over the years of stuff that might loosely be described as a 'style'.

my oh once managed to pack without including any tshirts/ tops for the whole week. luckily asos do next day delivery...

xpost in orbit, I may have missed, but are you going anywhere else in Spain? And then train to Portugal?

a one-off full glam holiday extravaganza
been thinking about what my ideal version of this would look like -- probably in a city, definitely housed in an apartment (not a hotel), ideally in a place i could speak the language, which leaves open any english or spanish speaking location

i have been dreaming about Mexico City ever since i went there, probably there for lack of a better option

I’m on a long weekend vacation in LA, staying at the Waldorf in Beverly Hills, with a suitcase full of clothes from old navy. The in-room hair dryer is a fucking *Dyson*. Every single guest I’ve seen here looks insanely rich. Also skinny. I’ve been working the last year to be ok with how big my body is but being surrounded by precisely manicured perfection sure makes it tough.

This room is extremely fancy and lovely, there’s a deck with a great view, I had a delicious Italian dinner, and I started watching Russian Doll which is extremely aesthetically pleasing to me, so I’m gonna focus on that.

When my best friend from college moved to LA she had a really hard time dealing with how perfect everyone looked there. It took years before she was comfortable with herself and in her own skin in that city. So sad.

So. I want 1) to get stinking drunk, and 2) I want to get laid. Difficulty: Life has made a point of telling me everything I want is WRONG.

There are actually two men showing interest in me, but one goes to the gym at my workplace, and the other lives across the street from me. (Also, extrapolating from the way he treats his dog, he is a fundamentally decent person and I don't want to do him wrong.) I don't even expect useful responses, I just wanted to say something to SOMEONE.

Smh at that weight watchers thread.

Erica, if you’re reading this - don’t go back in there. I’m staying out bc ppl are getting v weird at the idea that it’s ok to be fat.

I don't think that anyone (maybe 1) was necessarily being weird about it. I remember liking that article you posted when it first came out but on that thread I guess it could feel discouraging for people who are trying to make changes to themselves without it being a criticism on other peoples' bodies.

Just looked before coming here. All this stuff is so loaded for me that I should really just steer clear. I only commented yesterday because 1400 calories seemed alarmingly low for an adult male. There’s a reason you see people posting in there - oops gained most of it back! Ugh.