iyo did facebook ruin the internet?

surely this will be the moment people stop using facebook

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So glad I'm not on fb anymore. Just said goodbye to a relative (died in accident). Don't want to open fb in 2 yrs time and have pics pop up.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/technology/2019/03/27/facebook-says-it-will-now-block-white-nationalist-white-separatist-posts/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.25bf8471bbfd

Oh, finally?

Posted the amazing still of Damian Lillard after his long 3 tonight and Facebook auto-tagged a friend... who looks nothing like Lillard, aside from being black.

what could go wrong

Facebook just announced a new feature called Secret Crush that will allow Facebook Dating users to select up to 9 friends to express interest in. It's similar to matching on Tinder or Bumble, except you get to pick specific friends you want to date https://t.co/VwNMzHpbQv

— WIRED (@WIRED) April 30, 2019

new words with friends game mode - play against romantic rivals who have expressed interest in the same person as you! whoever loses must withdraw their secret crush pick

i quit facebook in january 2018 and it was the one good decision i made that month

This is like forcing people to have tinder accounts

Fucked up.

Wait i misunderstood—you have to have “facebook dating” to get a crush notification

Wtf is Facebook dating???

idk. apparently it hasn't been rolled out in america yet.

online dating is the worst. i'd rather be placed in a vat of boiling acid than ever do it again. and it's so invasive. i deleted my hinge profile and disabled it but i still get emails saying people "liked" me wtf.

Online dating is already the worst, so it makes sense that a data broker would offer it, too.

I cannot imagine fb lasting another ten years tbh. These are desperate measures to earn a buck.

otm except read “juice MAUs” for “earn a buck”

i deleted my Flange account and started a Minge account

but i still get emails saying people "liked" me wtf.

stop bragging already

Xpost GaruGBook

did somebody say "desperate measures to earn a buck"?

https://arstechnica.com/tech-policy/2019/05/report-facebook-looking-to-disrupt-credit-cards-with-cryptocurrency/

love to get fined $5 billion and see your shares go up

what I really don't like is even responding to invites cos then my mom later that day is like "oh, I see you're going to xxx" and it's like, "no, mom, I just marked Interested, which means maybe", but also I can't figure out how to set privacy for responses to events. like I can see in my Activity Log that it's "custom" but it seems like it just lets everybody that is on my settings for "future post" privacy see it, which....I don't want.

fuck Facebook I hope it dies of diarrhea

Just quit dude. That's how it dies.

^^^^^

yeah i deleted my account ~2 years ago and i just never even think about it anymore

i would except, this is now the sole method in which anybody invites anybody to any events anymore and theatrical/musical productions I'm a part of insist on using FB groups as the way that it communicates rehearsal schedules.

also lol it isn't gonna die, it's like McDonald's fries, everybody knows it's killing them but they keep eating.

people DID stop smokign cigarettes though.

remember that. things can change.

to follow in tobackey's downfall, that'll require some government restrictions on Facebook

for one weird section your username appeared to me as treeLamp and I got really confused

second. jesus what the fuck

For the last few years I only go on it to make one weekly post about a weekly event I do and ignore it the other 99.8% of the week and I feel so much happier and healthier as a result, but I also feel a little guilty sometimes that I’m still perpetuating its use as an event/promotion tool, which I hear ppl say is the only reason they stay on it (myself included). Facebook should die fully, but I guess if it just gradually turned into an event invite tool like meetup.com or something that would at least be marginally better for society than dominant news source/communication tool/social space

it also occasionally helps me learn which people I know are secretly bags of shit, so, there's that.

I was at the company Christmas party last night and this morning I had a notification that there was a photo that I might be in. It was a photo of a group I wasn’t in, but I was in the picture somewhere in the background, my face partially obscured. Somehow it figured out this was me, despite the fact that I don’t know any of these people and we don’t have any mutual friends. I am guessing this is location based somehow but thats uh...kinda scary.

Even better is thinking about how that could potentially happen to people (ie my family) who have avoided facebook their entire life

One time I wore a Leatherface mask and it mistook the mask for my friend Victor's face

xp yea I have a friend who mentioned that recently, he's not on FB but he's reasonably sure that FB still knows who he is because his girlfriend is and he appears in pictures

oddly enough FB mistakes my brother for me a lot, he doesn't tag himself in anything so for some reason it thinks new photos of him are actually me. its odd because we don't look *that* much alike, plus he's got a substantial beard and I don't. I wonder what's going on there

the people on the internet ruined the internet

if you look closely you may stilp see some of them at it to this very day

hubbub (n.)

1550s, whobub "confused noise," of uncertain origin; according to OED generally believed to be of Irish origin, perhaps from Gaelic ub!, expression of aversion or contempt, or Old Irish battle cry abu!

hmm not that id ever argue with experts or anything but hmm

Why do people automatically think you know who is a family member commenting and give you shit for criticizing something they wrote?

I could see if they have the same last name and are listed as family on FB but one of my friends wrote something and got told by someone to stop spreading "hate". I defended him mildly, because I figured they might be family, but wasn't sure. No name-calling, just defending what he said.

Only for his husband (also a friend of mine) to freak out and tell me she was his aunt and to step back.

Ok?

And another time this dude's mother wrote something really heinous and stupid on his FB profile and people came after her and he wrote this screed about how dare people be nasty to his mother.

Idk if you have salty family members maybe tell them to stfu?

Are these people part of your theater group? After all, that's the only reason you're still on Facebook, right?

xp i . . . have no idea what you're even saying. families? friends? husbands? who

(i suspect the answer is to quit facebook tho. i repeatedly ignored my father's friend request and i was right to do it)

imo yes Facebook did ruin the internet

I'm still technically on Facebook, but I more or less abandoned it 5 years ago after a) coming to dislike the context collapse I experienced there as the site became more popular, and b) joining and becoming addicted to Twitter.

For all its evils, though, I do wonder whether it would help me stay better connected with IRL friends who I no longer see much (mostly because we're in our 40s and many of them have families). For instance, not knowing about events that friends have created or are attending means I undoubtedly miss opportunities to actually see people. But also just pleasant low-level online interactions seem appealing sometimes.

(I do not, however, want to argue on Facebook about politics or the latest online outrage; I'd rather do that on more niche platforms that don't include random family members or high-school classmates.)

Just realized it's 2020, so it was probably 6 or 7 years ago that I stopped posting.

Ppl who don’t remember who you are well enough to hit you up directly to hang out are probably not worth keeping low-effort tabs on on Facebook. I’m cheerfully forgetting most of the people I went to high school and college with.

Maybe not, though that seems sorta depressing.

I've been talking a lot with old friends lately (HS/college, 30-40 yrs ago) and reconnected with maybe 60% of them through FB, and those FB contacts are largely to establish "real" communication through email/text. So yeah it works as a contact hub.

It’s fucking trash and staying on it during this decade is the equivalent of having an aol.com address during the 10s, with blatant privacy abuse and disinfo as a bonus

Enjoy being yelled at by anti-vaxxers, you schmucks

geez louise, please hold the vitriol if you can manage -- if you're gonna call someone a trashy schmuck, maybe aim the hose at a less broad swath of people (like anti-vaxxers, who literally never yell at me anywhere much less on facebook)

facebook users may be uncool (i can accept this) and making bargains they may or may not understand w their info. still, i don't get yelled at by anyone (except here!) and it's quite useful for IRL social organizing purposes. i had several performance opportunities recently that only happened because of gd facebook. and they were both really fun and enriched my life considerably! when used carefully, facebook is a facilitator, not a place to set up house.

I hate it though