I'm Also in the Library and It's Raining: WINTER 2018/2019 GAY THREAD

so my long-distance partner (A) whom i haven't seen in about 5 years is coming up to visit today and meeting my boyfriend whom i live with (E) for the first time ever apart from online interactions. he'll be staying with us for a few days so we finally all get to be in the same room. i really want us all to be together like a big gay ferret pile so i'm excited and nervous!!

At the faculty clinic this morning for my yearly checkup a medical student conducted the preliminaries. I was pretty sure he's gay, confirmed by the quickest of glances in my direction when I answered the question about my sexual partners' genders. When the doctor came in, he hovered behind her in assistance; we kept exchanging glances. "Very nice to meet you," he said without my prompting as I excited.

He's quite cute. I found on him Instagram and Facebook. Would it be odd to friend or message him?

Yes

Yes, definitely a bad idea.

Just last night a doctor friend was telling us about how frequent he gets people hitting on him and how frustrating it is. It's not that he doesn't find it flattering (he usually doesn't), it's that there is no easy way for him to negotiate the professionalism he's required to maintain

I don't have any STIs FYIs. Got my results today.

congrats, jed!

I met this guy for coffee. I'm texting from his bed.

j/k. Thanks for the advice, y'all.

i got new shelves too goon tie! now i'm destined for a dresser.

i had a very good weekend but i am firmly TAKING IT SLOW

I love my new apartment. It sounds so affectatious and Portlandia but there is a disconnected room with a cast-brass chandelier and candles everywhere and the record player and books and a big nice rug and the dog and a couch and a filled-in fireplace and the wifi doesn't reach it and a bay window and I am extremely very happy

as I excited

I'm in the library, it's not raining.

i had a very good weekend but i am firmly TAKING IT SLOW

― macropuente (map), Tuesday, March 12, 2019 3:58 AM (two days ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

YESSSSS tell us more when u get a chance

hey goon i think we have similar lives, sometimes i just sit and look around my apartment and breathe deeply

Alfred i am jealous of how academic your life is

we're trading travel weekends, getting to know each other, sending gooey texts

i gave him a willa cather novel. he likes georgia o'keefe. i introduced him to agnes martin. i want to do a santa fe / taos trip with him.

he gave me an eckhart tolle audio book to listen to on my drive and i really liked it, agreed with it all. i have no idea how uncool that is and i don't care very much.

map, you're unexpectedly sweet in this mode!

map these posts are lovely

thanks guys. i'm truly a puddle lately.

yeah, I'm not sure how I'd respond if a guy I liked gave me an Eckhart Tolle "book" after I gave him Willa Cather.

congrats!

I'm basically married at this point, and there are still days where I am a puddle.

I just awoke from a salmon carpaccio nap and am reading The Sacred Fount.

i'm trying to arrange a foursome for this summer

I won't be there before August, sorry

Currently celebrating our two year anniversary with a trip to NYC

We are drinking sake and eating scoopy tofu

Really, NYC is such a nice place to visit

:-)
i'm so glad people are puddles and traveling and stuff!
spring is hitting here, it's gorgeous out
i'm getting serious about some personal business today
self care levels are about to hit the ceiling

It's raining!

So I liked Giant Little Ones a great deal more than Love, Simon.

I liked Simon, but yes, Giant Little Ones is better. It's more engaged with the complexities of contemporary queer identity and, for whatever reason, I just found the lead to be more empathetic than Nick Robinson (or Timothée Chalamet, for that matter). Also, while climactic parent's-affirmation-of-child's-sexuality have become obligatory in these films, I liked Kyle MacLachlan's speech in this film a lot better than Michael Stuhlbarg's overrated one from CMBYN.

I drew that parallel, too. Giant Little Ones's "speech" is basically an act of de-escalation tho, compared to CMBYN's broad overture.

I didn't strongly dislike Love, Simon either, more so than I recognized its maximum usefulness to me would've been about 20 years ago.

good morning

i did that thing last night where i came home and ate pasts straight out of the fridge with my bare hands
not sure what this says about me....

PASTA

it says you are gay

otm

so my boyf is the exec director of Boston's lgbt film festival (it's called W1ckeed Qu33r lol) and he was telling me about all of the movies and how excited he is abt them

I'm going to Boston for the tail end of it so I'll get to see him in "film festival" mode which I am excited about!!

i have never done that

xxp

That's cool, Stevie!

is that in June?

That’s awesome Stevie

My bf and I had a fight about how liberally he was chasing side dick but it’s over now

Not the relationship, the fight is over

I think he wants to introduce a regular piece into the mix and happily I really like the guy— am not personally attracted to him—but would happily cook dinner for them both while they do their thing

xp it's late March/early April

My bf and I had a fight about how liberally he was chasing side dick but it’s over now

Any arguments I'd have with my dude on this issue would probably stem from differences in libido. But that's a best-case scenario. It's never an easy conversation.

I mean, Esther Perel has become my new gay diva as of late.

I had to look her up.

To clarify, she's not gay (that I know of) and doesn't talk terribly often about gay couples. It's just: I'm gay, and I like her, hence she becomes a diva.

Yep, that checks out

I'm gay and I'm at the library, therefore