I bought sth at the last minute and in a sale. Yes, my wedding was a disaster. Lol. Hey, it could only get better after said debacle. Haha
― nathom, Tuesday, 5 February 2019 23:30 (five years ago) link
i wore a heavy long-sleeved satin cream-colored dress with decorative beading that was given to me by a friend after high school. it was her great-aunt's dress and no one else wanted it, so it sat under my bed until i had an occasion to wear it, which was my wedding. I spent no money on it aside from the amount I spent to get the beads repaired.
congrats! wear whatever makes you feel good!!
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Tuesday, 5 February 2019 23:31 (five years ago) link
I got one of those wrap/tie dresses (it’s like a big piece of fabric with two 12 ft long pieces attached to it so you can wear it/wrap all kinds of ways) but it didn’t look very good. I was kinda like you, I’d never really thought about wedding stuff before so I didn’t have any ideas for what I wanted.
If I was doing it over, I think I’d look for a pretty cocktail dress that made me feel good.
Have a look at ModCloth- I know they do some really nice and affordable wedding dresses.
― just1n3, Tuesday, 5 February 2019 23:43 (five years ago) link
Totally agree with la lechera, wear what makes you feel good. I wore a dark green satin ball gown I got from an inexpensive prom dress site, dyed my hair flaming auburn, it was fantastic.
― Jaq, Tuesday, 5 February 2019 23:46 (five years ago) link
I had an idea of an emerald green dress that I wanted made but I was too lazy to deal with it. I ended up with a black and white knee length dress I got off the internet and an aviator, fleecey collar leather jacket (I've mentioned before I pretty much got married so I would have a reason to buy this jacket I was obsessed with). For the small dinner and ktown karaoke the day after I got a dark green flapper beaded dress that weighed a ton.
― Yerac, Tuesday, 5 February 2019 23:55 (five years ago) link
and congrats!
― Yerac, Tuesday, 5 February 2019 23:57 (five years ago) link
Congrats! Married twice: first time (courthouse, just us and the judge) in an ivory dress made from a regular dress pattern I picked out, knee length V neck with narrow ruffle at neck and 3/4 sleeves. Not a wedding-dress, but kinda bridal I guess. Did not wear it again iirc.
Second (and final) wedding: 40 family and friends (mostly the former tbh; we prioritized what it meant for our aging parents) in our back yard followed by cocktails at the house, than dinner at a nice restaurant down the street. I again had a dress made from a pattern I picked out. Red silk satin (pricey but WOW) wrap dress, knee length, fit like a glove. Wore it quite a few more times over the years to cocktail/dressy occasions. Mr. wore a grey 3 piece suit which has also made many more appearances.
Loved that I got to enjoy wearing that dress many times and that it cost a fraction of a "wedding dress."
My mom would have loved shopping/paying for a "wedding dress" but that was so not gonna happen. At least she got to come to the second and final wedding!
― mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Wednesday, 6 February 2019 02:55 (five years ago) link
in the uk stores like Monsoon, Asos etc less formal wedding dresses and nice dresses that aren't white/ivory. My friend had a great stylish one which I think was from Ann Taylor or one of those American stores but mail ordered. maybe it was banana republic.
― kinder, Wednesday, 6 February 2019 11:01 (five years ago) link
Thanks everyone, I really enjoyed reading these and I’m really grateful for the advice. :)
Kinder - I was thinking of looking there too! Mail order might be a bit too unreliable esp if we have a no deal crash though, plus I’m the world’s least patient person.
― gyac, Wednesday, 6 February 2019 11:05 (five years ago) link
maybe it was j.crew.... it was really lovely! wish I could remember where it was actually from!
― kinder, Wednesday, 6 February 2019 11:07 (five years ago) link
there was a brand on asos called Needle and Thread that had some lovely beaded stuff a few years ago
― kinder, Wednesday, 6 February 2019 11:08 (five years ago) link
btw I am a bit obsessed with wedding dresses, especially non-traditional ones that still look weddingy. so I may get over invested in this!!
― kinder, Wednesday, 6 February 2019 11:09 (five years ago) link
my own dress was from a proper wedding shop run by a slightly mad woman and it was from a designer who had out-there stuff. it was just a bodice and fishtail skirt in ivory but the bodice was rad with ribbons and pearls. it came with these flouncy separate sleeves that were awful and I did not wear but still crack me up.
― kinder, Wednesday, 6 February 2019 11:12 (five years ago) link
Congrats. :). I wore a very simple off the shoulder satin bridesmaid’s dress that I ordered in off-white. It was gorgeous and not fussy and only about $200. Bridesmaid’s dresses are definitely something to look into if you want something less expensive and simpler than a traditional gown. If I could do the whole thing over again that dress is one of the few things I wouldn’t change!
― Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Wednesday, 6 February 2019 12:31 (five years ago) link
While you are shopping/mulling over non-wedding dresses you should look at Outnet. That is where I got my dresss from. Not sure what your style is but they have some really nice designer dresses under $300 that might inspire.
― Yerac, Wednesday, 6 February 2019 14:43 (five years ago) link
i have never gotten married, but i do have a funny wedding dress anecdote from a friend, who had a small, informal, city hall type wedding to her long-time boyfriend -- pretty much it was them and their parents who were all nice normal Midwestern people. Anyway, so my friend is looking for non-wedding wedding dresses and thinks, "ok fine, i will use stupid pinterest to bookmark dress pictures" ... unaware that pinterest was set to automatically post to facebook. So she was mortified to learn that all her cool sound artist and musician friends saw a deluge of posts from her of pinterest pics of dresses
― sarahell, Wednesday, 6 February 2019 18:39 (five years ago) link
i think i might have told her, "at least you weren't using pinterest to decide on honeymoon lingerie"
― sarahell, Wednesday, 6 February 2019 18:41 (five years ago) link
omg lol @ that mistakei would die but i am overly sensitive
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Wednesday, 6 February 2019 19:23 (five years ago) link
Or to look at hentai.
Thank you everyone, you’ve given me so much to think about and look into and I feel really happy and justified in what I want to do now. :) kinder I don’t mind you being invested at all!
― gyac, Wednesday, 6 February 2019 19:24 (five years ago) link
xp - she felt like dying at the time, because most of her social media friends were nerdy guys
― sarahell, Wednesday, 6 February 2019 19:33 (five years ago) link
aw i hope she wasn't TOO hard on herself -- she didn't do anything wrong!
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Wednesday, 6 February 2019 19:35 (five years ago) link
it took her a few days of mortification to decide that it was actually hilarious, and up there with "out of the office" autoresponder email list feedback loops
― sarahell, Wednesday, 6 February 2019 19:40 (five years ago) link
gyac how is it going?
I came across this website and have no idea about where it is or if it's legit or the prices but these are wildhttps://www.chotronette.com/product-category/dresses/?query_type_color=or
― kinder, Saturday, 6 April 2019 22:32 (five years ago) link
btw I imagine you've already looked at Coast and Phase Eight but there's some nice stuff on there
― kinder, Saturday, 6 April 2019 22:39 (five years ago) link
Hi! It’s funny you should bump this today because I think I bought my wedding dress? Work meant I hadn’t really been looking looking (although I did check phase eight & although they have some gorgeous stuff, nothing that jumped out to me). Weirdly though earlier I was on ASOS of all places - like seriously - and saw this & so I guess I’m seeing what it’s actually like on. But I definitely thought of this thread cos I was looking at bridesmaids dresses :)https://www.asos.com/maya-tall/maya-tall-bridesmaid-long-sleeve-maxi-tulle-dress-with-tonal-delicate-sequins-in-taupe-blush/prd/11128527
― gyac, Saturday, 6 April 2019 22:51 (five years ago) link
I love it. Beautiful.
xpost I would totally wear that pistachio macaroon.
― Yerac, Sunday, 7 April 2019 00:24 (five years ago) link
Peach marshmallow for me
― mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Sunday, 7 April 2019 01:45 (five years ago) link
Omg those dresses!! I love so many of them. I’d probably wear any of them if they were in front of me but paying for them is a different story. Still, what lovely dresses!! Enchanted Forest and Cappucino were faves iirc As usual, there’s no shortage of clothing I’d love to wear, but very little I’m interested in paying for.
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Sunday, 7 April 2019 05:39 (five years ago) link
gyac that's awesome!
― kinder, Sunday, 7 April 2019 07:10 (five years ago) link
That is a very pretty dress! Also, congratulations :)
― alrakis morissette (tangenttangent), Sunday, 7 April 2019 07:34 (five years ago) link
I like all the ones with stars on them.
― tokyo rosemary, Monday, 8 April 2019 00:27 (five years ago) link
I think I'd go for the Goth Fondant but with the sleeve type/shape from the coconut & tchaikovsky -- nah, i have way too many black dresses -- crap, ok, real answer -- midnight cake
― sarahell, Monday, 8 April 2019 16:04 (five years ago) link
Those are magical, I love them (even the aesthetically questionable ones). And tbh by wedding dress pricing standards those aren't *that* much, are they? Not that I subscribe to any such standards.
Peach Marshmallow for total ruffle insanity btw, and Sucre a la Creme for the reception.
In my life, I have now constructed an Instagram-ready capsule wardrobe for my trip to Portugal in less than two weeks, and it's disgustingly hip and current and all black and white and soft rose + grey colors. Pop of yellow for the purse. I'm obsessed. Pleasantly.
― There's more Italy than necessary. (in orbit), Monday, 8 April 2019 16:27 (five years ago) link
I'm so deep into instagram viewing everyone else's travel pics with the hashtags of places we're going, I feel like I've already been there. I need to go on vacation more often.
― There's more Italy than necessary. (in orbit), Monday, 8 April 2019 16:29 (five years ago) link
Also yerac I just want you to know that I've privately decided that you're probably a spy--because of the astonishingly wide range of things you're knowledgeable about, and your travel schedule, and your generally high ability to roll with whatever comes. Out of everyone I know I'm pretty sure you're most likely to secretly be an international person of mystery. Not to blow your cover or anything.
― There's more Italy than necessary. (in orbit), Monday, 8 April 2019 16:32 (five years ago) link
I'm currently Instagramming pictures of our recent trip to the Algarve so there's a chance you're stumbling upon some of my over-the-top travel hashtags. Would love to see your wardrobe!
I tried creating a pared-down capsule wardrobe recently, but it dismally failed within about a week and anyway, I'm not sure how many capes and silk dressing gowns masquerading as outerwear I could have realistically assumed a capsule wardrobe needed. One day I'm sure I will be able to distinguish between what clothes I need and what fabric is the most maximalistically pretty.
Speaking of which, my favourite of those dresses is the 'Jardin Thé'.
― alrakis morissette (tangenttangent), Monday, 8 April 2019 16:41 (five years ago) link
lol thanks for the heads-up! I don't think we're going to get to the Algarve, tbh, but we're planning on Porto, Sintra, Lisbon, and then Merida, SP on the way back. It won't be warm enough for the beach most likely although I suspect this 8-day trip is just going to make me want to go back for a month!
― There's more Italy than necessary. (in orbit), Monday, 8 April 2019 17:23 (five years ago) link
i went absolutely bananananananas planning my wardrobe for a recent trip! i think i brought just enough clothing, but it was enough that our 1 bag had to be checked. long story short, we wound up missing our flight and i spent about 40 min in a total breakdown blaming myself for bringing too many clothes. i came to my senses and it did not discolor memories of my trip and all that was good about it BUT i wish i hadn't wigged so hard about it.
anyway these posts remind me that obsessive and extensive travel costuming is normal and the only person blaming me for caring too much about my clothes was ME :(
it's all ok now though
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, 8 April 2019 17:41 (five years ago) link
fwiw i wore the most amazing dress i've ever gotten at a thrift store and felt great in it for the whole day/night that i wore it. that alone was worth the cargo.
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, 8 April 2019 17:59 (five years ago) link
Pics por favor!
― There's more Italy than necessary. (in orbit), Monday, 8 April 2019 18:01 (five years ago) link
not here are you kidding?!!?
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, 8 April 2019 18:04 (five years ago) link
i'll text it to you! i only have a photo of the dress in a group pic and you can't see it very well but it was magnificent
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, 8 April 2019 18:06 (five years ago) link
Magnificent dress is a decent recompense for missing a flight, I’d say. Glad your trip remained intact!
― alrakis morissette (tangenttangent), Monday, 8 April 2019 18:08 (five years ago) link
it wasn't even really my fault i just took the opportunity to shit on myself about it
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, 8 April 2019 18:10 (five years ago) link
marzipan milkshake for my ice queen wedding then Royal Sundae or Spumoni as a guest (not that either suits my shape in the slightest)
― kinder, Monday, 8 April 2019 18:59 (five years ago) link
I don't have pics of my capsule wardrobe in one place but the vibe is basically
https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/2446/5551/products/20180417_094358_002_1024x1024.jpg?v=1531193658
https://www.naturalizer.com/ProductImages/shoes_iaec0230530.jpg?preset=details
https://img1.wantitall.co.za/prodimages/johnny-urban-backpack-men-women-red-aaron-from-recycled-pet-durable-roll-top-daypack-18-22-litre-ruc__41z7aSv4W6L.jpg
― There's more Italy than necessary. (in orbit), Monday, 8 April 2019 20:40 (five years ago) link
What's a capsule wardrobe? I'm guessing like "small" but as someone who packs one pair of trousers and three shirts for a week's holiday I don't know why you need an extra term for just not having much?
My other guess is just dressing like the band Capsule, which in my head is much better:
https://i.pinimg.com/736x/d9/ba/4a/d9ba4ac85392aebd10558baf7650115e.jpg
― emil.y, Monday, 8 April 2019 20:47 (five years ago) link
Yeah it’s basically a pared down number of items that can all be worn together in different combos to maximize the number of outfits.
― Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Monday, 8 April 2019 20:50 (five years ago) link
Ah, okay, the combo thing makes sense! I was thinking somewhere along those lines but I'm not into fashion and only ever wear brown so my brain didn't quite reach it.
― emil.y, Monday, 8 April 2019 20:55 (five years ago) link
Yes please do imagine me making air quotes over that term of art because I also was like
― There's more Italy than necessary. (in orbit), Monday, 8 April 2019 20:57 (five years ago) link