oh no wait apparently they're joking abt knack and its famously bad
― ogmor, Wednesday, 23 January 2019 09:01 (five years ago) link
I'm thinking Subnautica looks a good sensory/ambient/exploration world type experience, but it might have too much troublesome gameplay for Alex's liking.
― calzino, Wednesday, 23 January 2019 09:10 (five years ago) link
A friend's son who is on the spectrum used to be really into Skylanders, the gameplay on that looked pretty straightforward but this kid was a bit younger than Alex, not sure about all the collectable toy nonsense that goes with those games
― Sarri, Sarri, pride of our alley (Noodle Vague), Wednesday, 23 January 2019 09:16 (five years ago) link
it's a shame that Stacking is only a ps3 game, i feel like they could be good
― illegal economic migration (Tracer Hand), Wednesday, 23 January 2019 09:36 (five years ago) link
my pals also suggest abzu on an aquatic theme, journey and little big planet.
― ogmor, Wednesday, 23 January 2019 09:39 (five years ago) link
the only interactive stuff he ever got into was cause and effect sensory light/sound box on the ipad. And years ago there was a very simple gameplay-free indie pc game that was a blocky 3d island to explore, can't remember the name of that one but if someone did something similar with the ps4's capabilities it would be autism gaming gold.
― calzino, Wednesday, 23 January 2019 09:47 (five years ago) link
abzu deffo looks the ticket.
thanks for some of the reccs folks.
― calzino, Wednesday, 23 January 2019 09:58 (five years ago) link
do you know about Flower and Journey calz??
― illegal economic migration (Tracer Hand), Wednesday, 23 January 2019 10:35 (five years ago) link
oh yes Flower looks perfect as well. I could imagine getting into myself tbh.
― calzino, Wednesday, 23 January 2019 10:43 (five years ago) link
it's pretty amazing!
― illegal economic migration (Tracer Hand), Wednesday, 23 January 2019 10:51 (five years ago) link
got Journey/Flower/Flow in one bumper package for £20. I was quite addicted to Eufloria on ios at one point, and flower looks like a 3d variant of it with very beautiful graphics.
― calzino, Wednesday, 23 January 2019 21:58 (five years ago) link
false appendicitis scare fun today that led to much panic and an ambulance to pinderfields, only to find he has a very sore throat! his pain management isn't great, and its hard to get to the bottom of medical problems at the best of times - he was screaming for an hour this morning so we thought the worst.
― calzino, Wednesday, 27 February 2019 12:19 (five years ago) link
this week I've had the dog nearly die from ingesting a sock, one ambulance trip yesterday with alex's appendicitis false alarm and another ambulance trip this morn cos of his first epileptic fit in 6 years. I'm at war with some wannabe gangsta parents who think their kids can shout "you're fucking disabled" at alex. I've got my fuckwitted neighbour harassing me to put up a floodlight at the front of his house (which I stupidly agreed to do gratis when pissed up). Seriously would accept an invitation for a good old smack gouch rn!
― calzino, Thursday, 28 February 2019 11:48 (five years ago) link
https://www.lrb.co.uk/v41/n06/michele-pridmore-brown/unfeeling-malice
― ( ͡☉ ͜ʖ ͡☉) (jim in vancouver), Wednesday, 13 March 2019 18:30 (five years ago) link
https://www.disabilitynewsservice.com/whistle-blower-withdraws-offer-to-help-police-reopen-probe-into-autistic-abuse-scandal/
bad NAS joke but It Ain't Hard To Tell what the shady bastards have been up to here.
― calzino, Saturday, 13 April 2019 10:20 (four years ago) link
https://inews.co.uk/opinion/columnists/incarcerating-disabled-people-panorama/
I don't think i'll be able to watch this ep of panorama tonight. utterly sickmaking.
― calzino, Wednesday, 22 May 2019 11:20 (four years ago) link
I totally verbally lost my temper with some little horrible thug who was pointing and laughing and completely adding to Alex's distress while he was having bit of a mini-meltdown/sensory overload because of the loud shit music they were blaring out, while he was entering the local swimming baths last night. But thankfully the nearest life-guard wasn't a complete dick and had the music turned off and read the riot act to the little shit rather than what i was expecting to happen. So not all bad on the autism awareness front, but there are still way too many arseholes out there.
― calzino, Sunday, 23 June 2019 21:42 (four years ago) link
I hope you said something to this antagonist that really lodged in his gut & costs him personal comfort for months if not years.
― she carries a torch. two torches, actually (Joan Crawford Loves Chachi), Sunday, 23 June 2019 22:16 (four years ago) link
I’m so sorry, calzino
― k3vin k., Sunday, 23 June 2019 22:29 (four years ago) link
As usual in the heat of the situation, I always think of the most sensible retorts afterwards and am feeling like I didn't deal with my temper very well, but I did mention something about disablism before I sternly told him to stfu. need to get better at this tbh!
― calzino, Sunday, 23 June 2019 22:36 (four years ago) link
that was a good outcome anyway calz hope ye enjoyed the pool afterwards
― godfellaz (darraghmac), Sunday, 23 June 2019 22:41 (four years ago) link
often to people with autism the pool is number one in terms of meeting their sensory needs, self regulation etc next to vestibular activities, so a good time is almost always guaranteed :)
― calzino, Sunday, 23 June 2019 22:50 (four years ago) link
but I suppose being in water is the ultimate vestibular activity tbf!
― calzino, Sunday, 23 June 2019 22:51 (four years ago) link
Boiler engineers, invadin' my space, puttin' test gear and oily rags on food preparation surfaces. Thankfully not too much small talk. Not one of my fave things but preferable to carbon monoxide poisoning I suppose.
― Thank You (Fattekin Mice Elf Control Again) (Noel Emits), Thursday, 8 August 2019 12:20 (four years ago) link
I'd be sorely tempted to take the carbon monoxide poisoning over some Charlie Mullins bantz for real!
― calzino, Thursday, 8 August 2019 12:32 (four years ago) link
https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/bus-drivers-hit-christmas-jumper-21002895
this has really pissed me off and sums up how badly trained and ignorant about ASC children the drivers and escorts for special needs transport often are. When many parents of kids with autism won't put up seasonal decorations because routine and low stimulation environments can be crucial for autistic children to be able to self-regulate and stay happy. This fucking idiot goes running to a tabloid because his boss tells him not to decorate himself and the van.. got so much contempt for this thick cunt. Heard so many stories about similar idiots over the years. One dickhead driver kept causing a kid to have a meltdown by putting the radio on too loud, should never even happen once.
― calzino, Monday, 2 December 2019 02:26 (four years ago) link
A while ago, someone in my social orbit (with an autism spectrum child) posted something about how special-needs parenting resets your expectations of accomplishments.
Other parents are like "my child won a soccer trophy" or "my child is on the honor roll" or "my child plays Mozart flawlessly" or "my child got into Harvard." Special needs parents have things that are more like "my child put on socks" or "my child ate a new food" or "my child said the word 'cat'."
For me, this is one of the most difficult things to express. Something like "we got through the grocery store without screaming" or "we went to a restaurant and didn't need to leave early" is an achievement. For many/most people, it's just something you do. And if you can't, there's something wrong with you as a parent. If you'd raised them right you wouldn't have a problem. If you'd done your job correctly the kid would've behaved.
― Okay, you're an ambulance (Ye Mad Puffin), Monday, 27 January 2020 03:20 (four years ago) link
Sorry for the bathos; we just got back from frickin Olive Garden. Felt like triumph. It has tablecloths and silverware! Wouldn't have attempted it a year ago.
And of course this wasn't at all what I envisioned. At my son's age I suppose I was at least expected to politely try sushi or going to the philharmonic or learning ballroom dance or whatever. We're still working on potty training.
― Okay, you're an ambulance (Ye Mad Puffin), Monday, 27 January 2020 03:29 (four years ago) link
Sometimes just the smallest steps forwards can feel like they've a huge breakthrough. Like I can recall him learning to ride a bike at 13, or learning to stop next to roads and wait to cross at 11.. some of these things might seem small to parents of neurotypical kids .. but they are major progressions. My lad is 17 turning 18 next month and the last few years have been the toughest.
The problem I have now is his recent weight gain. Because when his behaviour was at its most challenging and he was being violent and self-harming, as a bad coping mechanism I tended to let him have milkshakes and snacks when he requested them as they seemed to be a part of his way of self-regulating and remaining on an even keel. He's much calmer now but putting him on a stricter diet and banning some of the high sugar drinks he's become accustomed to have resulted in some quite angry rages at times. I took him for a glucose/urine test for type 2 diabetes last week and they haven't been back in touch with me which hopefully means he hasn't got it. But that is how worried I've become about his weight.
― calzino, Monday, 27 January 2020 08:20 (four years ago) link
https://pbs.twimg.com/media/EQxOCMXXYAA5EVp?format=jpg&name=medium
Alex turned 18 last week and is looking good, no signs of glucose/type 2 diabetes in his urine and I've been doing increasingly long as fuck walks with him to help keep his weight down.
― calzino, Friday, 14 February 2020 23:14 (four years ago) link
hooray for walking. it is the elixir of life.
― A is for (Aimless), Friday, 14 February 2020 23:16 (four years ago) link
you ain't wrong
― calzino, Friday, 14 February 2020 23:16 (four years ago) link
good stuff <3
― babby bitter (Noodle Vague), Friday, 14 February 2020 23:22 (four years ago) link
because he favours low stimulation environments he often prefers going out at night, but i love the night!
― calzino, Friday, 14 February 2020 23:24 (four years ago) link
Good to hear, calz
― frederik b. godt (jim in vancouver), Saturday, 15 February 2020 01:34 (four years ago) link
Good gents, would walk with
― mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Saturday, 15 February 2020 02:23 (four years ago) link
https://www.alfiekohn.org/blogs/autism/
kinda long and technical but good stuff and feeds into my other concerns/interests about pedagogy and parenting in general
― babby bitter (Noodle Vague), Saturday, 15 February 2020 13:00 (four years ago) link
ABA always makes me think of something on the tv I saw 10-15 years ago about a man with autism who grew up in the late 60's early 70's I think. There was vintage footage of somebody the parents paid a lot of money to yell at him a lot when was a kid and this was seen as some pioneering radical aggressive intervention type treatment that was the way forward at the time. There was an interview with his brother who basically said even when he was young at the time he basically knew it was cruel and a load of bollox and had no discernible affect on his behavioural problems which abated as he got older anyway. It was a very full of shit American academic type who was the torturer in chief, although I've got vague memories of the program, the old footage of her yelling at him because he is non-verbal and not responding to some prompt struck me as vile cruelty.
― calzino, Saturday, 15 February 2020 14:09 (four years ago) link
i occasionally used to use the phrase "well, you can train a dog" when people were discussing whatever intervention they'd heard about.
we're still a very long way as a society from getting our heads around the idea of disability as a social formation, or from thinking in terms of difference instead of deficit. partly because to me it raises a ton of questions about what it is to live and to live well, what the point of anything is, and ain't nobody got time to be worrying about that stuff. apparently.
― babby bitter (Noodle Vague), Saturday, 15 February 2020 14:15 (four years ago) link
you mention dog training. I was talking to an escort with an adult with autism at Ponds Forge leisure pool. He told me the very well off parents of this lad had him "dog-whistle trained" In complete disbelief I said WHAT? He said "Dog-Whistle Training, I'm not joking" without expanding on it.
― calzino, Saturday, 15 February 2020 14:24 (four years ago) link
i can believe it :(
i guess in fairness - and as i say, this goes for parenting in general - some people will go to ridiculous-looking lengths to protect their children (or to convince themselves that they are protecting their children) and i wouldn't want to make blanket statements about the kinds of interactions that might be helpful for individual people. but so many of the interventions with autistic children in particular seem about "normalization", trying to teach people to pass as less autistic or something, and that's really sad and contributes to a society that can't accept individuality and autonomy for neurodiverse people.
― babby bitter (Noodle Vague), Saturday, 15 February 2020 14:30 (four years ago) link
something something replication crisis
― you know my name, look up the number of the beast (rushomancy), Saturday, 15 February 2020 15:45 (four years ago) link
That hadn't even occurred to me but yeah of course
― babby bitter (Noodle Vague), Saturday, 15 February 2020 15:50 (four years ago) link
Some arsehole neighbour phoned the police on me tonight because Alex was having a loud autistic meltdown. At least it was amusing when he walked out of his bedroom stark bollock naked when two WPC's were walking up the stairs to check I'm not some domestic abuser to check on my partner who was in bed! But it isn't funny really, it's just a form of harassment. The cops were ok when they realised the situation, but i sincerely hope the cunt that phoned them dies very painfully, very soon.
― calzino, Wednesday, 19 August 2020 22:04 (three years ago) link
Argh, I'm sorry that someone did that to you guys. It does sound funny-ironic, but also at the same time very frustrating.
I'd be very tempted to order or print out a bunch of leaflets from the National Autistic Society and passive-aggressively drop them through all the neighbours' letterboxes with big yellow post-it notes saying "an autistic person lives nearby, chill the fuck out". You never know, someone might learn something.
(On a purely personal note, I wish more people understood what meltdowns were, and how *not* to react to them.)
― Extractor Fan (Branwell with an N), Thursday, 20 August 2020 06:54 (three years ago) link
when this Rona is sent packing or at least has some advanced treatments that reduce it's ability to wreak so much long term damage, then he will be able to self-regulate much better when more activity options open up again like going swimming and travelling on buses and trains to places. Because as much as routine is important to him, I think the narrow options available to us now (and the last 6 months) are boring him shitless! School (a private NAS school with a very well considered social distancing regime and small classrooms etc) starting again in a week and a half should help.
― calzino, Thursday, 20 August 2020 08:54 (three years ago) link
i once got visited by the fuzz at the summer playscheme i was working because somebody had reported a distressed, half-naked teenager being chased around the empty school playground. in that particular case i'm happy to write it off as a concerned citizen, lol. i'm assuming your neighbour's just a dick tho.
― no ifs, no buts, no scampo nation (Noodle Vague), Thursday, 20 August 2020 09:43 (three years ago) link
― Extractor Fan (Branwell with an N)
do you know any resources?
― Kate (rushomancy), Thursday, 20 August 2020 14:22 (three years ago) link
I mentioned one of the best resources, in my post: https://www.google.com/search?client=firefox-b-d&q=national+autistic+society+meltdowns
― Extractor Fan (Branwell with an N), Thursday, 20 August 2020 14:29 (three years ago) link