Discovered the opposite of a seven year itch. In the last couple of weeks I've dreamt about my ex 4 or 5 times - dreams of still being together or of breaking apart. You're not helping, subconscious.
― moaty, boaty, big and bloaty (Noodle Vague), Monday, 14 January 2019 12:25 (five years ago) link
I wonder if it's a "thing" -- i remember going through it around that time. Realized yesterday that I have no logical reason to have a kitchen table, because I drink coffee in bed and eat in front of the tv, though my ex would have his morning coffee at that table, but he hasn't lived with me for 9 years, so I might as well move that table into the room I use as my office, where it would be useful, and then I can have more room for storage where the kitchen table is now.
― sarahell, Monday, 14 January 2019 19:54 (five years ago) link
I'm sure it is a thing. I'm under the weather and depressive atm and I'm dealing with that consciously as best as I know how so this is Probly some escape valve for my brain. The recurrence is unsettling and annoying tho
― moaty, boaty, big and bloaty (Noodle Vague), Monday, 14 January 2019 20:59 (five years ago) link
also winter
― sarahell, Monday, 14 January 2019 21:02 (five years ago) link
Yeah, especially the darkness
― moaty, boaty, big and bloaty (Noodle Vague), Monday, 14 January 2019 21:06 (five years ago) link
when you find things you hate/have no use for/think are ugly but somehow kept hanging around because your ex liked them and they literally became part of the furniture. Getting rid of those things can be very liberating
― frame casual (dog latin), Wednesday, 16 January 2019 12:21 (five years ago) link
i haven't directly read or watched marie kondo, but as i understand, you should ask yourself if those items bring you joy, and then say thank you to them before discarding
― Karl Malone, Wednesday, 16 January 2019 16:34 (five years ago) link
i definitely did not follow that advice the last time i was getting over a breakup. i believe i just held the items in my hand for a while, crying, before throwing them in the garbage and drinking heavily
― Karl Malone, Wednesday, 16 January 2019 16:35 (five years ago) link
i moved the table into my office, moved my music gear around to take advantage of the space left by the table and actually played/practiced. I am accepting that I won't have that romantic domesticity anymore, and I'm just gonna be a single person with space to play percussion and electronics and have a bunch of books and that is fine.
― sarahell, Wednesday, 16 January 2019 19:18 (five years ago) link
Drifting towards a similar realisation but not quite at the "it's fine" stage most days
― stuck in the Lidl with EU (Noodle Vague), Wednesday, 16 January 2019 19:20 (five years ago) link
heh - it's only been "fine" for 3 days so ... and it's been 9 years since we split. I feel like I suck at getting over breakups considering how long it's been. The other posters in this thread seem way better at it than me.
― sarahell, Wednesday, 16 January 2019 19:23 (five years ago) link
I'm mostly over the breakup, despite the last couple of weird weeks. I think part of the process of getting over it was recognising how much it was my fault, and waking up to my bad behaviour. I think that's also partly why I'm resigning myself to a single future - it's hard to meet people looking for a relationship as you get older, and I really don't feel like I'm a catch, or trust myself to do the work to become one, :/
― stuck in the Lidl with EU (Noodle Vague), Wednesday, 16 January 2019 19:31 (five years ago) link
you proposed to plax yesterday!
― topical mlady (darraghmac), Wednesday, 16 January 2019 19:32 (five years ago) link
I know but they never replied ;_;
― stuck in the Lidl with EU (Noodle Vague), Wednesday, 16 January 2019 19:34 (five years ago) link
He likes oatmeal iirc
― sarahell, Wednesday, 16 January 2019 19:34 (five years ago) link
anyway <3 to all obv
― topical mlady (darraghmac), Wednesday, 16 January 2019 19:41 (five years ago) link