― Venga, Monday, 10 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― Sean, Monday, 10 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― Emma, Monday, 10 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― Alan Trewartha, Monday, 10 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
Chewed with their mouth open?
Was stupid?
p.s. it's alright Alan, I wuv you, you were v nice on Saturday.
― Mark C, Monday, 10 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― David Raposa, Monday, 10 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― Nick, Monday, 10 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― Honda, Monday, 10 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
...supports Spurs.
Other than that, I'm remarkably tolerant. But that's the glory of love for you, it lathes our sharp edges.
― Trevor, Monday, 10 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
I am SO alone.
― Andrew L, Monday, 10 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― laetitia, Monday, 10 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― chris, Monday, 10 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― Will, Monday, 10 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― james, Monday, 10 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― Tracer Hand, Monday, 10 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
I am struggling to think of any unloveable qualities not possessed by previous boyfriends. Should I be worried, or is this normal?
Thank you in advance for your advice,
― worried of oxon, Monday, 10 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― R, Monday, 10 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― Maria, Monday, 10 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― stevo, Monday, 10 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― rainy, Monday, 10 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― Gale Deslongchamps, Monday, 10 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
I could never love someone who voted Tory *now*. Strangely, I probably could love someone who had voted Tory in earlier times, because sensible people did actually sometimes vote Tory then: it wasn't just the lunatic fringe like today.
I could also never love someone who might *choose* to live in Reading or Chelmsford or somewhere like that.
― Robin Carmody, Monday, 10 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
B-A BETTING MAN
NOT U-UNDERSTANDING
NOT S-SINCERE
I- Intent on wanting to place demands on
NO V-Valentines
NOT E-ENJOYING LIFE
ABUSIVE
Ugly.
― Ally C, Monday, 10 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― Menelaus Darcy, Monday, 10 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― Justyn Dillingham, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― di, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― duane, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― turner, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
Erm, this is really difficult. Because none of the superficial qualities I considered utter no-go's were posessed by my ex, yet I never bothered to look for things that were *really* important. The things I thought were so important turned out to be very minor compared to the Really Big Issues that will split up a relationship.
I think, for the future, I can get around minor things like, oh, eating meat, smoking, liking The Strokes or reading the Daily Mail.
But I will never, ever, ever date anyone ever again who can not be *HONEST*. This is my new no-go zone. Even one little white lie or one little fib, and the kerb awaits.
(That said, it's probably easier to find a non-smoking, Strokes- hating vegetarian than a boy who doesn't lie.)
― kate, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
It would have to be something on the political/religious level; I imagine it's possible to be on the 3rd or 4th date before their Love For Jaysus or hatred of asylum seekers emerges.
I did once fancy a girl who I suspected was a natural-born Tory, so I went to great lengths to avoid talking politics or current affairs, to keep the dream alive. Ultimately, I think this might've been my downfall, as my triv-talkin' skills were severely underdeveloped in those days, and there were a lot of silences.
― Michael Jones, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― Nick, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― One boy and his dog, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― Pete, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
I guess with L and myself it was just the mythical X factor that propels any relationship - the joy of just being able to understand each other without having to explain or justify anything. We just got on, made each other laugh, looked after each other, and so on. And she was a Daily Mail reader (although mainly for the cute animal pictures and because her mum read it). Very traditional and small-c conservative in many ways, but as I've hinted before, we seemed to balance each other perfectly.
As you will have borne recent witness, without her steadying influence, I tend to go to pieces.
― Marcello Carlin, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― Menelaus Darcy, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― toraneko, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― electric sound of jim, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― di, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― Kodanshi, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― Madchen, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― nancyspungen02, Saturday, 15 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-one years ago) link
― anthony, Saturday, 15 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-one years ago) link
― unknown or illegal user, Saturday, 15 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-one years ago) link
― queenoftheharpies, Saturday, 15 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-one years ago) link
For me politics is top. I'd have said tory, but it's more specific. My last girlfriend was a capitalist, and that seemed less important than her being entirely anti-racist/sexist/homophobic. Those are my bottom line. An opposition to these prejudices is non-negotiable.
Also essential is at least understanding a passion for music, books and that stuff. Ideally, the passion is shared, but it has to be at the very least understood.
― Martin Skidmore, Saturday, 15 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-one years ago) link
...is opposed to oral sex (an ex of mine wouldn't give or receive; therefore he is an ex).
― j.lu, Sunday, 16 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-one years ago) link
..who hated themselves
..who smoked
..who constantly put me down and belittled me.
although, of course, i'm lying. i fall horribly in love with these people and that's why i get hurt.
― Wyndham Earl, Sunday, 16 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-one years ago) link
― electric sound of jim, Sunday, 16 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-one years ago) link
― queenoftheharpies, Sunday, 16 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-one years ago) link
― minna, Sunday, 16 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-one years ago) link
...has no intellectual passion / is stupid.
...would be angry at me for going to an ILM meet-up (yes, she's now an ex).
― Dave M., Monday, 17 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-one years ago) link
― Sean, Monday, 17 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-one years ago) link
Anyhow, I would say "was married" but my mind is playing nasty tricks on me right now.
― Ally, Monday, 17 June 2002 00:00 (twenty-one years ago) link