no boys allowed in the room!!!!

Lol I totally thought of the foot flushing when I asked the question. It’s the same sorta thing somehow.

Overnight though, on Day 1 and/or 2, I do wear a tampon and a pad. I also keep my headlamp nearby in case I have to do in the middle of the night crime scene clean up.

Has anyone ever used the Thinx period underwear?

can we talk about period sync-ing? I quit my old job a couple months ago where I worked closely with a female co-worker, and I think my cycle is shifting, or rather, shifting back to "normal" now that I don't have any other women in my life that I'm that close to, lol. I also have 3 friends who share workspace and they are sync-ed. Is this some woo-woo thing or is it real?

I am fine with tampons. I use OB or the non-applicator generic brands that I can find in the EU that are super cheap. When someone needs to borrow a tampon and they realize it doesn't have an applicator and they won't just use their finger. I am always like "...eh...?"

― Yerac, Saturday, September 22, 2018 2:30 PM (one month ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

+ me but also there are def days when I just feel like my body parts are taking up enough space and they don't want to be disturbed. Shut the front door. I would be tote cool w free-bleeding if I could stay home!

I used to know someone who just slept on an old towel at night, which I can see myself doing but I can see it would absolutely depend on your personal flow & viscosity & comfort. And how much you love your sheets.

I want the period underwear because I want the nighttime backup.

I used to know someone who just slept on an old towel at night

Ah! Akin to the period sex housekeeping technique

the wha?

my period has probably been synced with my immediate coworkers (all women) for almost a decade. we don't even talk about it anymore, it just is.

y'know if you are having sex on your period you put an old towel under you so the sheets don't get stained?

xxxp if you don’t mind me asking, what kind of nighttime coverage have you been using up to now?

Yerac, I have the Icon ones for pee leakage from the same company that makes the Thinx ones - they're well-cut, comfortable, wash well and hang dry in a day or two. Before hitting the 'pause I used the period ones from Lunapads (with changeable fabric liners) and they were fine but the fabric of the panties had a higher cotton content so stretched out more. The leg elastic on them didn't hold up well over time either.

Right now i just use a tampon overnight and get up 1-2 times to change it on, mostly because I am paranoid about waking up in a bloodbath which happens 1-2 times a year. I don't think I would wear the period pants on its own ever but want it as a shield for like, long plane rides or when I am stuck not anywhere near bathrooms.

i would totally use the period undies, just haven't bought them. good thing the holiday season is coming up!

oh also sarahell yes i am familiar with that technique -i thought you were talking about some family planning shit!

xp - ah the Carrie mornings! I actually recently got this oversized pink dress that I use as a nightgown, and it's really almost cinematic when I have a Carrie morning

xp, thx, good to know about the cotton content on Luna.

dudes mansplaining about incels and feminism ugh

hey ladies whassup

hi quincie! <3

Hi hi hi!!!!

I'd like to keep this thread going somehow because I miss more of a female presence on ilx and worry that women's voices are becoming heroic and token-ish.

I’ve made and cancelled 2 gyno appointments in the last month even tho I’m already more than a year overdue for a Pap test. The worst part is that I’ve got a small lump inside that I should really get checked out (it’s been there at least 6 months and hasn’t grown, so).

I wish I could just get this shit done.

In more fun news, I got this cool dress thing from my MIL for my birthday:
https://www.shopzuri.com/collections/all/products/hearttoheart?variant=9592210292783

wow that is v cool

Xp Bartholin’s gland cyst, maybe? They are very common and nbd unless it is bothersome (painful).

That dress is so badass

Yeah it doesn’t hurt and is v v small so I haven’t been worried, but also I’m v much head-the-sand when it comes to health problems 😬

I recently found some of my paper dolls from 30 years ago. Some are from the Eva Joia Club magazine and some I drew myself. I keep meaning to take pictures of them.

I love that dress. The period tracker app I finally started using: month 4, it is 50% accurate at this point. But thaat's more a problem of my cycle than anything. I was early by 5 days last month!

xpost quincie I can barely anymore with these guys muddling through their "manhood." It's probably why I go the asshole route because I get so irritated. This shit shouldn't be this hard.

i think about this thread a lot, hello thread

hello y'all

i am tired of arguing

Helloa estelloa!

Yeah I don't care enough to argue w people anymore so I end up...not posting. Mostly I wish I had more time to DO things, like gardening or DIY. Yerac, you'e a champ.

After the holidays I'm going to get my health stuff in order: heart health & other things. Too many ppl in my family have had heart trouble and I'm worried by the difference in symptoms between men and women: the "known" signs of a cardiac event are burning, tension in chest, pain in arm, ie the things that men experience. But apparently in women, the start of a heart attack feels like...back pain or muscle tension in your upper back. Which I have literally every day and resolve with foam roller and/or rubber balls to roll out the cramps. But if it were something else, how would I know? So...to the doctor I go.

Yeah, we are on a cycle of pain so I don't know if I would be able to pinpoint something extremely abnormal. And I would probably wait until I could no longer move to see a doctor. I was thinking yesterday of maybe looking more at the iwatch or whatever it's called that has the ekg thing. Even though I swore off buy anything new apple.

Both my dad and my younger brother have already had heart attacks and I worry that I've possibly already experienced some kind of cardiac events but when the symptoms are "dizziness, fatigue, muscle ache, nausea" which are also the symptoms of every kind of sickness EVER, there's a certain lack of clarity about where to direct my unfocused anxiety.

I always think I am having kidney failure right before I get my period and then I have to remember how much higher my kidneys are.

My brother had a heart attack at 38 but I am pretty sure that was due to steroids and too much chinese takeout.

i am giving myself the gift of mental health this holiday season. pretty excited about it tbh!!

this is the first time i have deemed myself worth the trouble. a positive development!

in orbit i am glad you are also concerned about your health -- caring for our bodies can be terrifying. keep breathing!

Excited for you LL! You are worth whatever it takes! Ilu. How is the quest for mental health going? There should be a board game.

My brother's heart attack was in his mid-30s and he was an extremely fit cyclist with a low resting heart rate so I'm probably rolling the dice. I need to love myself more and make better and less fatalistic choices. I'm starting to look at being with my romantic partner in the longer term and it's giving me all kinds of complexes.

Speaking of which I know a lot of us have our own special relationships with the institution of marriage, and I, for one, am extremely freaked out by the whole idea but life is kind of forcing me into it thanks to our broken health care system and my desire to hold an EU passport lol. I welcome any reflections on weddings, married-ness, etc.

i wasn't super into being married but i have been for 15 years this year and it has been great! sounds stupid, but i love being able to choose my family and he is it.

as for my mental health, i have started by trying to repair my severely fucked up nervous system via flotation therapy and i am way into it. it's everything i hoped it would be.

weddings are whatever you want them to be, or not. i think everyone should do their own thing based on their personal and cultural needs.

based on my friends' experiences of weddings (i haven't had a wedding, but want one ... long story), it seems like the most stress comes from family and family expectations vs. what you want ... also money.

yeah that is why i added the "cultural needs"
i didn't have that issue and my parents were used to me at that point. i agreed to not elope and that was about it.

Event planning gives me hives and I have no desire to spend .01$ on this although my perspective could change over the next year+ before it would actually happen. Like I said, it's a ways out there. I'm just having to be slightly more concrete about something I thought was safely far away in my future. Lol suddenly the future is now.

Going several non-traditional routes for which there is not an over-abundance of role models: marriage without a wedding (not that unusual anymore) and not living together (possibly never living together), which is a little weirder (shout out to Yerac for blazing this trail). Whatever we need and can support happening is what will happen obvs--I'm not going to go crazy.

Just reflecting. Also bored at work tbh.

event planning also gives me hives and i hate spending money so that is why i didn't do it. you are under no obligation to do it either unless your family is literally forcing you. just relax about it and do what you want.

I love planning events and have done so professionally, hence why I want a wedding at some point in my life ... but if you have a strong aversion to event planning ... yeah. follow the wisdom of La Lechera

Oh, I want to hear more about flotation therapy whenever you have time.

inorbit, just do whatever you want to do. I did. the only thing I would've changed is maybe not having drank so much two nights before during a co-op board meeting when i hadn't been drinking all month. I also did not invite my brothers which I have absolutely no regrets about. I am trying to think what we spent money on.
F got a new tie and shirt (our friend who works at RL took him to use his employee discount)
I got a non-wedding dress off the internet and that jacket I wanted
Picked out flowers for a bouquet the night before at Sprout in Blyn it was like $40
Paid for my parents' hotel room
Fees for city hall (we didn't have a photographer, just my friend's iphone)
Subway?
F's dad paid for lunch after at Gramercy Tavern
Dinner for 16 people at L'artusi the night after in their wine room. We went through like, 22 bottles of wine. But I think it still stayed decently priced at like ~$2000?
Karaoke after in koreatown, byob. I really don't know how long people stayed. ~$400-$500?

And things change, F and I went two years without living together, 6 years living together and then 7 years not living together. Both of us had full developed other lives so it wasn't a big deal. Now we've been living together again for the last 2 years? And I had huge anxiety the night we got married "like wtf have I done?" And then I got over it. It's all exactly the same.