Why do people leave ILX for good?

ross, since you started posting volubly you seem to have veered on a predictable schedule between soliciting pity and validation to bolster your self-confidence, and acting out to provoke hostility that would confirm your self-judgments of worthlessness, then 'storming off' until you feel the need for contact again so that you can test the cycle again and come a little bit closer to deciding whether the eternal drama of acceptance and rejection will come out in your favor or not and whether its outcome will be blamed on others or on you. so far the effect on us is not hugely detrimental or permanent but it's becoming a little tedious. is it really necessary to co-opt us into this private emotional drama that you are in the midst of working through? we would evidently take you without all that.

you should take a breather from this thread for a second. i know you have a history with some posters and have quotes and stuff, but i also think some people are just making jokes to kind of deflate the situation a bit, or just for the sake of making a joke. i'm not saying you're wrong to stand your ground or anything, but i've been there before and it's easy to start saying some things that you might feel regretful about later on

xposts

hardmanning is good, Ross

because everyone claims youre being obtuse :/

sorry deems i promise i'll only fight with you about mission impossible movies in the future

you say that but wait til you get back to the mctiernan thread

you got me eating humble pie..OK were good everyone, it is cool. sorry Sufjan, sorry brimstead, eesh, gonna go eat a chimi-chonga,.

hugs to you, Ross

Ross has posted 46 times since announcing earlier today that he had left ILX for good.

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chimichanga sounds delicious

Never thought I would say this but ban fake ross

Big fucken LADS to all of youse

Dont u guys ever work

Get off the god damned pogey/dole youse dirty scoundrels

i've been posting on and off since 2001 and have met some cool ppl here but have never rly felt like a "regular," and if it didn't happen back when i was a bored teenager w/ no job it's prob not going to happen now that i mainly post during slow afternoons at work

every time i'm tempted to give up ilx i go read any other online forum for a while, almost all of them are either tedious or extremely anxiety-producing next to our little quiet space here

Man if ilx isn’t tedious we’re not trying hard enough

I'd say I was a regular, I'd put JD in the list of good people I recognise (along with the other other JD), you are right about the tedious or otherwise other forums. I know a great many of the old names have gone from here, most to fb. But I've never known a place that has a wider bunch of issues discussed, and closer to actual news than actual news sites.

good mourning!

Ross, I appreciate your posts, and if you need to step away so that you can return and continue those intelligent posts, please do so. I want you back.

don't go Ross

i am appreciating ross more now than i did this morning
classic ross: eesh, gonna go eat a chimi-chonga,. <3

no one wants this person to leave, also that ^^ and this both made me lol:

Man if ilx isn’t tedious we’re not trying hard enough

― faculty w1fe (silby), Tuesday, August 7, 2018 5:05 PM (one hour ago) Bookmark

j. otm upthread

thank you mark g, that is really nice to hear

J.’s post above Is pretty shitty and makes me feel bad

I want to join Ross how do I permanently delete my old account? For real I don’t want to just log out don’t want to be tempted to waste any more time here

There doesn’t seem to be a close account option in preferences

Look for “maracas.jpg”

Lol mods can we have a close the account option with a "we're sorry you are leaving message"?

top work with that closing quotemark

Dont u guys ever work

new borad site description

I am on my phone that is my secret.

Alternative is that after you press the button you get the Mr Burns you are here forever.jpg

Ilx the new facebook

Steels all yr info doesnt let u close acct cant retrieve data they took from u welcum to web2.0

Steals even lol

I mean

Plus, if C*lum ever goes into Politics...

posting this is almost certainly a bad idea but i was going to post some variation on at it some point and i might as well do so now.

ten years or so ago i was a unitarian, and as a hippie-new-age church they had a section in the middle of the service where any member of the congregation could go up to the podium and talk about important things that were going on in their life.

there was one lady there, an absolutely sweet and wonderful lady. and she had a lot of problems. every week she would get up there for ten minutes and tell us about them. of course we all sympathized with her and wanted the best for her but, you know, i wouldn't dream of getting up there and talking about things that were happening to me, even if they seemed important. once my dog died and i got up there and said, literally, "my dog died" and sat back down. that was it. because as much as we all sympathized with her we were also, collectively, spending a lot of time and energy carrying her burdens, and while i was theoretically ok with that, i didn't really want to burden anybody else like that.

eventually a new pastor came in and got rid of that section and we never saw that lady again. i hope she's doing ok.

Normally I am in favour of suggesting that people in stories are secretly the teller, but in this case have you considered that yourself and the lady are actually: different people

he was the dog u brute

he was the dog u brute

J - with all due respect your post read like unsolicited, unqualified psychiatric advice. Other than the closing line it was mean spirited and not up to you to define whether I feel worthless or not. As a long time depression sufferer and someone with bipolar, you should take a step back bud

Further more I know my worth and other posts otm-Ing the post is just sad. Thanks Adam for saying it upset you too

I know all-too-well how a wobbly frame of mind can make any old thing sound like an assault on oneself but it helps, I find, to be occasionally reminded that this is not always or even necessarily frequently the case.

stfu old lunch

Anyway back to ilm for me, much comfier

veered on a predictable schedule between soliciting pity and validation to bolster your self-confidence, and acting out to provoke hostility that would confirm your self-judgments of worthlessness, then 'storming off'

mean spirited and not up to you to define whether I feel worthless or not.

As a long time depression sufferer and someone with bipolar, you should take a step back bud

Anyway back to ilm for me, much comfier

how dare you, j.

J. otm x1000

Fuck you enbb and old lunch

Also J you’re trash

All your posts are snarky, sarcastic and nihilistic

That’s to J

I would leave Ilx never to see your dumb mentally ill slandering ass again.

In fact I’m done, you’ve shamed me and I hope you never experience genuine problems cuz it seems like you’re clueless and out of touch with anything other than the tip of your dick. Mod delete my account I’m out

Peace ✌️

this thread/title has proven very self demonstrating