awkward attraction in professional settings

Haha

AFAICT the best way to handle an office crush is to anonymously gift them an enormous fan with a card that reads 'from your second biggest fan'. And just let them figure out the part about being super-hot on their own.

you guys this is so not funny

co-worker: Vanilla Ice in the conference room.

Marky Mark in the sheets?

i'm not saying anyone in this thread is one, but horny dads in offices are a plight, and everyone notices it and privately shames them when they're not around

Yes, of course it's a problem, all absurd joeks aside.

I do not think I have in any way revealed or acted upon a work crush at any point in my employment history except for the ill-advised fling with my boss that one time. Have had my ass palmed by another boss, tho (awkward).

i apologize for doing a drive by up there but seriously unwanted attention in the workplace really sucks and should be avoided if you are able to control yourself. which you should be imo.

Don't apologize. I keep reopening this thread to rubberneck. On my fb yesterday a bunch of us were sharing the ridiculous holiday gifts given and things that have been said by male bosses/coworkers. Or the ones that actually thought they were in love based upon a work relationship. Although I don't think the original post was bad, just normal awkward.

It can be different with gay men, but I'm not going to share my stories here...

i only apologize for being so brief about it -- not for the nature of my post. i really don't think it's funny and the joking aspect of this thread to me belittles the effect that unwanted attention has on the workplace environment. like just for a somewhat recent example - when one of my coworkers would look at me like i was a cute animal every time i talked to him and i had to go out of my way to avoid him because he was unable to disguise his feelings. it suuuuuuuucked. i hated every minute of it and i had to talk with him because of work.

good posts LL

I think the joking aspect of this thread comes from 1. the initial post being awkward to the point of hilarity 2. if we can’t laugh out ourselves then we will probably resume other forms of self-harm

laugh at ourselves

FYAC

i think the comment in OP is sweet and harmless, hurting is clearly a gentleman and not a creep; it’s cute that he shared it and is obviously aware of how potentially problematic commenting on appearance can be. the real creeps at my old job were purely oblivious and it was a hardcore daily pattern

xp - i know where it comes from and why people joke -- i agree with the others and don't even think the opening story is that bad, mildly dorky

feel free to laugh at yourselves -- i simply urge you to remember 1) there are other people here and 2) laughing at yourself doesn't really do anything to solve the problem even though it relieves your own bad feelings. it may even increase group solidarity among people who have experienced similar (just like yerac's fb convo probably increased solidarity among that group)

i felt compelled to speak up because i am not a man. it's not the easiest thing to do but i did it anyway.

tbf I’m laughing at everyone else because I’m too insecure to do otherwise. That said, I think the key here is just to be attracted to everyone you work with and remember that the real reason you like them is that they’re good at their jobs and help you do your job better as a result.

I would never, ever look at someone else like they were a cute animal. That’s beyond patronizing and just a little bit gross besides

xp - i know where it comes from and why people joke -- i agree with the others and don't even think the opening story is that bad, mildly dorky

feel free to laugh at yourselves -- i simply urge you to remember 1) there are other people here and 2) laughing at yourself doesn't really do anything to solve the problem even though it relieves your own bad feelings. it may even increase group solidarity among people who have experienced similar (just like yerac's fb convo probably increased solidarity among that group)

i felt compelled to speak up because i am not a man. it's not the easiest thing to do but i did it anyway.

― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Tuesday, 24 July 2018 18:46 (one hour ago) Permalink

appreciated and helpful

although dude if you can lighten the darkness with more reports of your dorkiness around pretty people then I am comfortable going on record encouraging that. 🖐