Trans/Genderqueer/Agender/Questioning Thread

you got this! I don't know you, but I'm proud of you.

wtg phil!

Yay Phil!

All the best.

Phil ftw

PHIL!

:D

'Hopes and prayers' have been sooo abused and misused lately I hesitate to mention that mine are headed your way.

yay phil!!!

:DDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD

good luck phil! this is nerve-wracking and exciting and i'll be barracking for you 100%.

sliiiightly off-topic: atm my work is rolling out org-wide lgbti awareness training, which includes a hefty chunk of instruction on how not to assume people's gender identity or preference. it's unequivocal in telling employees not to be massive arseholes, but also to consider that people we know and work with might not be cis and straight, and to just fucking think before we speak basically. every org should do this.

that’s amazing

Yeah, that is great, AA. I'm not sure how it will manifest but I know my company wants to make sure people are well-informed. Something like that would be fantastic.

I also filed with the county for my legal name change (eek!!!) and am on the docket for July 11. My wife and I went to a family support group meeting this weekend, and it was SO GREAT just being among a bunch of trans and gender-fluid and non-binary people. There were two pairs of parents there whose children had recently come out to them -- one a 16 year old FTM, the other a 27 year old MTF -- and were really struggling, and it seems like they got a lot out of it. I hope they continue attending.

Tomorrow's the big day. I've got the list of FB people assembled that I'm including in this announcement, and I think between my wife and I we've finished writing it. For the last 10 days I've been posting countdown numbers visible to that list, but they have no idea what the countdown is for. So . . . surprise!

<3

For the last 10 days I've been posting countdown numbers visible to that list, but they have no idea what the countdown is for. So . . . surprise!

oh magnificent

They'll be looking for Gabbo and get something better.

Early this morning I posted a gif of that rocket launch that MTV used to use in promos, then I posted at 11am today. It's out there. Aside from the rest of my company, who will find out the first week of July, I'm publicly out. I almost can't believe it. I have been waiting since I was 10 years old to be able to live this life that I want and need to, and now I can. I'm a little bit dazed tbh.

I have gotten lots and lots of love and support from my friends and family and so many wonderful comments and messages. To an overwhelming degree. This would have been unimaginable to me as a child or a teenager. I can't believe how fortunate I am today.

If any of you want to connect with me on FB my new account there is eliza.k.dennison . :)

Congratulations!

Thank you, E! And you will find plenty of additional support on the “No Boys Allowed in the Room” I bet!

I have been waiting since I was 10 years old to be able to live this life that I want and need to, and now I can

I choked up at this. I can’t identify with your *specific* circumstances, but it gets the feelings of finally being freed from various closets just right. Thank you.

Congrats, Liz!

<3

This warms my heart. Congratulations Eliza! <3

Congratulations Liz!

Do you prefer Liz or Eliza?

Hadn't been paying much attention to this thread, tbh, but now that I've caught up I just want to thank you for sharing this journey! Congrats!

go eliza! so so happy for you

congratulations eliza<3

Congrats eliza!

Congratulations, ___!

(I will wait until you dole out your preferred nomenclature to fill in the blank.)

Your journey has been truly inspiring. Thank you for sharing it with us. And remote thank yous to the lovely people in your life for being so lovely about it. It's a thing what stokes hope.

Eliza!!!

This is not a great picture -- it's a crappily-lit bathroom selfie at a local bar -- but it's one of the few I have right now. Until I get some more length on my hair and start HRT I'm wearing a wig and breast forms, as they're powerful external validators of how I feel inside. So, say hi to Liz.

https://imgur.com/a/gEuaeSq

how does it feel to post a pic of your real self?

Go Liz, you're free now

<3 Liz

It's kind of surreal to share a picture like that publicly. Even a year ago I wouldn't have imagined it.

This is your life now Liz!

Best of wishes to you, brave Liz

so proud of and happy for you liz <3

Congrats!!

When do u trade in your username for a new model? Just making sure you remember your highest priorities in the midst of this life-altering moment.

congrats liz, v happy for you <3

Aw this is very sweet and I'm happy for you.

<3 <3 yay liz!!

Congrats Liz!

Congrats & all the best in your new life!

:-)))

congrats, Liz! I hope everything goes smoothly at your workplace when the time comes

idahobit day is today/tomorrow!

Off topic but why oh why do these events use stupid acronyms which can't hope to represent everyone, and then revise and add until the "abbreviations" become so awkward and parodic that they are easily rejected as niche by the very mainstream who most need to accept them? Even a day against sexual / gender bigotry has mutated through IDAHO / IDAHOBIT / IDAHOTB / DAHOT, *none* of which mean anything to people not already friendly to the cause.
Also I'm in Australia, so it's *whatever* day here, I'm in my rainbow heart t shirt despite winter conditions, and not a single soul in my workplace or the part of the city I walked through, was wearing any kind of a rainbow. You suck, Hobart.

i have a rainbow ribbon, same story, not seeing anything anywhere

fwiw the acronym frenzy comes out of trying to include everyone, which is its own can of worms (creating one category to cover vastly different experiences dilutes each identity) but is the best we’ve got until (paradoxically) people stop being arseholes to other people. ‘queer’ is growing in frequency but is problematic for older people, indigenous people &c. who are accustomed to ‘queer’ having been a super-vicious term of abuse (mainly) in the past.

Oh I realise the logic (and agree with the intent) of the acronym growth. It's just that it seems very short sighted to focus on the satisfaction of having "my" initial in the alphabet clusterfuck, at the expense of making the terminology risible. My personal take is that it's always better to focus on the principle - don't be a bigot, duh - than itemising the specific group(s) covered. That way if a similar issue arises for another group, it's clear how to act, because we're committed to not marginalising people on the basis of sexuality or gender, and we're not checking if the letter is in the acronym. I work on equity committees in my workplace and often have to make this point - race, gender, sexuality, physical ability, mental health. "Don't be an Asshole" is the underlying logic, it just doesn't read so well on policy documents.
"Day Against Sexual and Gender Bigotry" covers everything, no?