fights with your boyfriend or girlfriend

every meal had to be somehow ~special~

This may honestly & truly be the foundation of my marriage (I mean on both sides, luckily)

This is a little surprising how much couples fight about food. I thought it would be more about money or just incompatibility (which I guess the food issues are moments of that).

I don't think it's surprising. Food is something you put in your body. Some might deem it a question of consent.

tbf our other huge fight involved whether major league baseball players should be expected to know how to bunt

I am not even touching that consent comparison.

mookie, is she a chef? I feel like maybe I met her a long time ago?

For me its not the food itself, its the "prepare and clean up" (to quote Kristin Hersh). Having one kid with coeliac and a refusal to eat most things, both kids vegetarian, mr adult-kid hating his damn vegetables, and no one seeming able to wipe a bench or a dish, I tear my hair out lol.

it's pretty important that i date a woman who has similar taste in food tbh

i don't want to come to my house smelling like something that i consider awful

actually a long term relationship

dating i guess it doesn't rly matter

i hate cleaning up the kitchen, not gonna lie.

Y you may have met her, idk! (she was pretty great apart from these aforementioned issues, btw.) she is not a chef, but i think she might now do web stuff for m0m0fuku, so

My partner was vegan for over 10 years (he eats some seafood now - no shellfish)). I will eat anything, everything but that also means I am extremely flexible with being veg. But he is also flexible with me eating bone marrow, offal or game meat when we go out. The cleaning is probably more upsetting if I felt like he wasn't equal in it or bartering in that regard. I really love clean floors so I am more than happy to take care of that.

divine mrs m also has the ~it must be special~ thing re food, at home its ok cos we can both cook p well but when we're out for *non foody* reasons its pretty aggravatory behaviour not to just satisfice imo

I don't think it's surprising. Food is something you put in your body. Some might deem it a question of consent.

― Moo Vaughn, Wednesday, 14 March 2018 22:51 (thirty-two minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

you should be taken out the back and beaten

I have to say that eating cheese and drinking wine for dinner in a hotel room while on vacation ( F has hummus) is what I try to do at least a couple of nights. But I also really like to go to grocery stores in other countries.

Is that a personal threat or just a colloquial expression of toxic masculinity?

its a casual musing, delivered as airily as tbe original comment nbd

an idiomatic way of saying "fuck off mate"

hey try having arguments about food / eating out with a partner who has strict, ironclad rules about these things but will not discuss those rules and refuses to acknowledge they exist
apologies for venting, this thread is touching on a lot of hot topics for me

my wife got really mad at me this morning cuz i got transmission fluid on my jacket while working on the car and it is apparently a symptom of how i don't care about things and don't take care of them.

but boy you gotta do you!

hey dog latin sorry to hear about your breakup.

Can we talk about the most petty things we've fought with our partners about? yesterday it was about logic in website search filters.

had a huge fight - well more just me being harangued - with my ex because i laughed at a guy getting busted after he drove by a cop car while texting on his mobile phone

like for not hating the police sufficiently - and i do hate the police, i also hate distracted driving tho

understandably
i have to watch myself as a pedestrian with the damn phone it's awful and v dangerous

i rly think i came out of a lesson from this last fight, i have to be honest. i know "perfect from now on" isn't a thing (holla built to spill) but i learned that i have a way of going from really high to really low in a split second, and my sanity depends on recognizing those moments, and stepping the fuck back.

hi! so i made it until last Friday. April 27th. that's more than SIX WEEKS. no fighting! until Friday :( ugh that sucked. I got annoyed with the boo about something he said, but anger got the best of me and it quickly became:
(1) i said the wrong things
(2) i'm making my boyfriend feel like shit
(3) i'm a terrible person

which resulted in a me spiral and us having to talk about everything which was really annoying. i feel like i could have gotten in and out with an easy "hey, what you said kind of bothers me" instead of unleashing all that. we were able to resolve it and the night ended with a candid and chill conversation. didn't go to bed angry, woke up fine. it wasn't the worst, but it threw me for the weekend. i think both of us were exhausted from a long week. now trying to think about how i express my anger in the future. and that's my story.

6 weeks is great going surm. I wouldn't beat yourself over the odd argument. but it is worth trying to pre-empt arguments, pick your battles and work out how to address problems sensibly before things blow out of proportion. also worth trying to work out whether little bickerings are symptomatic of a bigger issue which isn't getting addressed.

<3 thank you for that