Why do people leave ILX for good?

yonce all on my mouth like liquor

sleepingbag, or “sb”if I may abbreviate and call to action in the same phrase.. step off

Say hello to the 4 il-exors for me, sic.

sic kickin it with lorax

Tell them I said 'lads'

I don’t even know wtf is going on this this extremely messy thread but 40xps it would be rad if mordy posted on ilh

there is a veneer of civility that gives way to some pretty heinous behaviour at times

like if you are asking why ppl leave as if you havent seen it happen in real time then bless yr naivety i guess idk

ppl leave ilx bcz ppl are dicks

jaymc to thread plz

― Here Comes The Brain Event (Old Lunch), Monday, February 26, 2018 12:39 PM (two days ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

lol i don't know who anyone is anymore.

like lamp, i haven't entirely quit ilx, but i spend much less time here than i used to. for me, there were three factors:

1) career demands; less time to get wrapped up in trivial message-board conversations during the workday.

2) twitter became the default internet thing for me to obsessively check throughout the day. when i posted here more, i would refresh site new answers a lot, just hoping that there was a new post to read. on twitter, there is always a new post to read, and it's much easier to dip in and out of. there's also, of course, the potential for attention outside the bubble of ilx, which was a big part of the initial attraction.

3) chicago ilxors migrated to a different corner of the internet. this was kind of the final nail in the coffin for me. if i was reading nothing else on ilx, i would check into the chicago thread to commiserate with my irl pals. without that, ilx felt less essential.

having said that, i do miss the feeling of ~community~ that i got from this place for so long. i haven't really found a substitute for that. (weirdly, i feel like the size of the community was important: it was big enough to be dynamic and unpredictable, but small enough that i recognized most people and felt like we knew each other.)

I would like to invite roxy and JBR and tehresa and tokyo rosemary and some others back to more regular ILX posting but i also can understand that maybe they all left for reasons that also included wanting to break free from habitual posting on a website.

Wait hold on, I posted JBR's reasons upthread and it had nothing to do with this.

I know five ppl that left because there wasn't enough racism and mansplaining tru story

I imagine I will get called out for abusing mod powers to blow up a dude's spot, but I feel like this is relevant to the thread. The other day, someone I believe to be former ilx poster 'and what' registered under a new screen name, flagged this post, and has been laying low since.

that's cute if so

however I don't think that should be something you reveal

Can mods tell the true identity of socks?

Not feeling so tough now do you

i would imagine it's possible to guess based on IP addresses or emails used to sign up but anybody using a proxy would probably not be obvious

3) chicago ilxors migrated to a different corner of the internet.

ye olde DC ILX posse from a decade ago mostly just migrated. I hope everyone is doing well and drinking less.

I haven’t run a sock in over 4 years

imago: because of a mods obligation to privacy regarding the fps or because I somehow scotched his triumphant return?

treesh: sometimes, not always. xps, mostly what noodle vague said.

Many xposts but lamp I was always a fan of your posts as well

I'd have no problem divulging my FPs (and often follow them up with a post directed at the FP-ee), but I guess I can understand people objecting to mods revealing the Ps they've F-ed.

I also love Lamp.

was always going to be hard out there for a lamp once the table stopped posting

A+

https://camo.githubusercontent.com/6a66e38fa0084d6c641aec15d5a2edb8bfa2fd5f/68747470733a2f2f7261772e6769746875622e636f6d2f726f626d637665792f692d6c6f76652d6c616d702f6d61737465722f6c616d702e706e67

xps: Yeah, I normally keep quiet about who FP'd which post, but if a former poster re-regs in the midst of a heated discussion about where all the former posters from the good ol' days went and then flags his own offensive post from ten years ago...

I think it's cuet and am glad you shared it. If a person fp's himself and no-one's around to witness it has the p been f'ed etc

People have the right to F their own P in private and, if they so choose, they can at a later date release a video to the public of their auto-FP sesh.

the fppening

lol

who says we don't have "healthy flirtatiousness/sexual energy"?

check your dms hot stuff

I’m not sure any part of this thread has reached heated status imo. Here is my capsule review.

I have a strong general animus to anything that reeks of nostalgia but there have been one or two digressions that were sort of edifying. Also y’all are some mopey fucks.

Guilty as charged.

Misspelt pommie

Alternative explanation: Mrs And What has entered the fray.

Surely she knew what she was letting herself into when she took his and in marriage?

"idea: if you're a male and you want to increase the ratio of men-women on ilx but you don't want to invite women to come post maybe just stop posting yourself that'll help the ratio w/ a minimal amount of effort on yr part

― Mordy"

can't we just go transgender instead?

"Real talk here: I feel like Branwell and LJ have been the most shat upon posters in the 9 years I've been posting here.

― sarahell"

ahemahem*geir*

"lol I just keep thinking of shakey always being adamant he couldn't tell posters apart and had no interest in who anyone was outside of the board

― mh, Tuesday, February 27, 2018 2:42 PM (twelve minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

this but unironically, unless someone uses their real name I probably have no idea who they are

― algorithm is a dancer (katherine)"

yeah i've never met any of you folks and it took me years to start being able to tell you apart. raggett and whiney spent years blurred together in my head. similarly tylerw and imago. it's only now that the board is "dying" that i can recognize anybody here as individuals!

tylerw and imago?!?! In fact, anyone and imago?!?!

Ragget G. Nedgarten

Yeah, there are a few dozen posters who stand out as distinct entities in my mind but without the presence of, like, faces and voices and other distinguishing features beyond passages of text on a blank white screen, the identities of a lot of other people here are an unfortunate blur for me.

Lol at confusing Ned and Whiney, tho.

For those still confused, Ned is the one without a strongly-stated position on bronies.

I'm extremely proficient at distinguishing users. I hereby lay claim to jaymc's abjected crown

Let's not (or let's) just throw about who has or hasn't been the receipt of the most shit without any ref to their actual behaviour like

Nothing unfortunate about that blur tbh. It highlights the hivemindy-ness of this place.

Many xps I know JBR's reasons for leaving but "maybe they all left for reasons that also included wanting to break free from habitual posting on a website."

re: the issue of "nicey-nice" ilx - like anyone who spent any amount of time on usenet, i've got a lot of experience slinging invective. i like it, in fact - in the same way that i like drinking. 2018 ilx appeals to me because it's encouraged me to moderate unhealthy personal habits.

I'm half asshole on my dad's side, so I always appreciate environments that discourage indulgence in that unfortunate heritage.

trivial message-board conversations

o look at MISTER BIG SHOT here with his careeeeer and his OUTDATED SPREADSHEET

Lol at confusing Ned and Whiney, tho.

Yeah. that...um. You sure wouldn't think that if you were saw us together in person. (And I have met him the once.)

similarly tylerw and imago
hmmmm????