Why do people leave ILX for good?

completely to be an asshole but "a healthy flirtatiousness/sexual energy" would be instantly offputting

stoked to miss the sexual energy

i totally missed all the sexual energy! i must have been in the wrong room.

there was also a healthy flirtatiousness/sexual energy.

Hi i am the guy in the picture with my cock in the hoover and yes i am also Tailpipe Man the guy in lingerie fucking his car. My name is Jeff Mitchell and i live in Rugby, Warwickshire, UK. I like fucking different objects and wearing womens underwear and i love showing the pictures off. My email is sissymanwh✧✧✧@hotm✧✧✧.c✧.u✧ if you have any comments or want more pictures to post around drop me a line. I want people to print off my pics with my details on them and leave them in public places for anyone to see.

― sissymanwhore, Saturday, May 12, 2012 9:52 PM (five years ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

So sad that ILX has lost its sweet sweet Grindr vibez.

No wait, what's the opposite of 'sad' again.

i went through your 2017 metal list on Youtube and had a lot of fun doing it. it's exactly the kind of stuff i want to hear more of. cheers.

― scott seward
Massive xpost but thanks! I’ve always really enjoyed your writing btw.

I agree that sounds bad. There’s so many places on the internet to do that; this is the place I go to talk about culture.

We do need more people though and less homogeneity though. Maybe I’ll leave a stack of fliers for this place somewhere — maybe in the lobby of Parsons School of Design across the street from my office — and see who bites...

“That” in my last post = the “healthy sexual energy.” I’m against it.

what happened to sexydancer

if you are already printing fliers, i know how you could make a sissymanwhore's day

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omg crut i forgot about that jeeezus

we've had some pretty stellar socks

I read the beginning of an old thread recently and there was a pretty healthy exchange from women of ilx past about how Paul Newman was really hot! Made me feel nostalgic. rip Paul Newman

who was that Big Jim dude or whatever was like a trucker or some shit?

x-post - Oh I'm sure I must have been a part of that if not the one who started it. I LOVE him.

the days of yore when branwell perved on hstencil

paul newman vs orville redenbacher for grocery label dream boat

the people who bullied you are not likely to suddenly become your best friends, and the people who stood idly by are not suddenly going to think you're the world's coolest kid.

― omar little, 2018年2月28日 星期三 上午 5:02 (three hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

some of my worst school bullies found me decades later on farcebook/at school reunions and were super excited to see me. every one of these times, i dropped what was left of my grudge immediately and just went with it. it was nice.

Bad move. Fuck them.

I mean, forgiveness is good, but there is something nauseating about forced/faked intimacy.

not really your experiences to judge so

I had a similar experience to AA with a bully who tormented me in grad/middle school and tbh it was lovely. She sent me the most heartfelt apology and I'd absolutely hang out with her if we were in the same city now. It didn't seem forced or fake at all. I think she just realized what a little shit she was as a kid and how much that might have hurt me and felt terrible.

there was a kid who would follow me around at recess in second grade and like, try to trip me and horse around and I thought it was incredibly irritating and that he was bullying. then his mom met my mom and said that he thought I was cool and I was apparently his favorite person to hang out with at recess!

people generally don't try to bond in that way past like, third grade

isn't that the concept behind "negging" though? Adult men do this to women a lot.

It didn't seem forced or fake at all. I think she just realized what a little shit she was as a kid and how much that might have hurt me and felt terrible.

― Benson and the Jets (ENBB), 2018年2月28日 星期三 上午 8:23 (forty-three seconds ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

that was definitely the undercurrent of my experiences too. they didn’t say as much, but it was clear they really wanted to smooth over the past.

treeship: if we can’t acknowledge that people can genuinely change and improve then fuck everything.

and to their friends. negging is the only way some dudes appear to be able to show affection

xpost

Anyone I bullied at school I hated

jk I used to slap this kids lunch outtve his hands I was his best man

xxxp

some people can't

it's up to each person to decide whether they will give them the chance, there are a lot of factors to consider

it's good you guys had a positive experience after the bully matured

if you punch a girl on the arm during recess at elementary school it means you want to marry her

If they apologize it’s different. I was talking about when people act weirdly overly friendly/ingratiating when the last time you spoke to them years ago they were jerks.

re self-blame for bullying: obv i can’t and wouldn't speak for others, but my horrible childhood was largely the product of having a combative and thoroughly antagonistic parent, the impact of which i didn't even realise until years after i left home (this probably also explains my first few years on ilx to an extent)

x-post The whole "boys are mean to you because they like you" thing that is told to girls is so awful and really fucked up and I really hope that's not as common a message now as it was when I was a kid.

If they apologize it’s different. I was talking about when people act weirdly overly friendly/ingratiating when the last time you spoke to them years ago they were jerks.

― treeship 2, 2018年2月28日 星期三 上午 8:34 (forty-nine seconds ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

true but the apologies were very strongly implied, and tbh i don’t need them grovelling if they're simply better people now

those experiences make sense to me, years later everything changes and what not. i think at the time, in the middle of high school or whatever, it's extremely difficult for people to suddenly change course and get out from under the burden of being tormented and for others to view them differently (that second part is even more tough i believe.) which is why to me the idea that everyone around you treating you like shit is because of you (and not the blanket perception others have of you) is wrong.

Feel like starting a poll:

Have I ever bullied u on ilx y/n

it's probably something you should address in private with the specific user

I asked the one guy who really got on my nerves in middle and high school -- it got bad at points -- about why he did that when we found ourselves at the tenth reunion (the only one I've ever attended). He freely admitted he was in the wrong and even said something about how he was apparently jealous of my alleged smarts (read: my endless capacity for trivia, really). Whatever it was, it ended well and I considered that put behind me. As it turned out, he and another classmate of ours hung out a lot at that reunion and then ended up getting married so hey, happy endings all around.

I don't give em that much credit tbh

x-post The whole "boys are mean to you because they like you" thing that is told to girls is so awful and really fucked up and I really hope that's not as common a message now as it was when I was a kid.

― Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Tuesday, February 27, 2018 3:36 PM (thirteen minutes ago) Bookmark
otm
it is one of my life's goals to stop this toxic idea in its tracks if i hear it. if it's dying out, i dance on its grave.

Indeed. Will join you.

i had to go talk to my 7 yr old daughter's teacher today because a boy shoved her and she says a bunch of girls in her class won't be her friend anymore :(
it's very strange and sad to go through this stuff again from the other side
i will say, unlike during the early 80s teachers actually seem to give a shit now

Aw :(. The fact that they give a shit is def an improvement though and I really hope things get better for her. I'm glad you went and talked to her teacher - that's really important, I think.

yeah, just really sad for little buddy, the teacher said she would have the school counselor give a call too

being a kid can be such a bummer

best to little person

thx yall

Best indeed. And yeah, there seems to have been a generational shift from what I can tell in terms of active help. A good thing.

I knew Calum had written a book but no idea he went to um, greater things (I probably wanted to put a blocker on myself knowing). Hilarious.

Does anyone whether they are well regarded at all?

I kind of miss Henry K Miller a little bit although we follow each other on twitter (most of the reason I went there was to re-connect with old ilx ppl)