Why do people leave ILX for good?

i'll also admit that i have issues wrt people saying "i miss u" and then doing jack shit about it

aww, i miss jack shit. oh well

we can share funny memes here! hahahaha!!!

http://quotesnhumor.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/08/Top-50-Funniest-Memes-Collection-memes-famous.jpg

if ppl get a new job and move to a different city, and I miss seeing them, I don't send them a telegram telling them to move back

yes ilx definitely died when all the hilarious hitler threads stopped

― brimstead, Tuesday, February 27, 2018 10:31 AM (one hour ago)

very few of them were actually about hitler.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s1tAYmMjLdY

did markers quit or

The shifting gender balance is by far the most concerning thing, to my mind, all that said. (Would be v. keen to hear any technical ideas that might help w/that)

― stet, Wednesday, 28 February 2018 02:06 (five hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

legitimately surprised this didn't become a thread (and i don't mean in a "hurrr" sense, i really think this would be valuable)

if ppl get a new job and move to a different city, and I miss seeing them, I don't send them a telegram telling them to move back
this is not what i was suggesting but you're right that it's a bad idea

none of us wanted to be here longer than Kevin Nealon was on SNL, but here we are

― ice cream social justice (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, February 27, 2018 2:04 PM (twenty-two minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

New board description, plz.

Is the gender split really much lower now than over 10-15 years ago?

It may only seem like it if the number of regulars in general has steadily dropped over the last ten years. Shame either way though.

there definitely used to be more women participating in more threads. there was also a healthy flirtatiousness/sexual energy. all gone.

Karl otm

our libidos started dying off when the median age got too high, thank god

nowadays we all just put on our sweatpants and watch the day go by

"healthy"

There were definitely a lot more prominent female posters 14/15 years ago than there are now. It's possible there are plenty of posters I just don't know are women these days, but it definitely seems lower, particularly on ILM.

This place felt particularly unfriendly to female posters around 2007-08 and several people told me they'd just had enough. I think they were as much put off by particular creeps as the general fractious atmosphere. It's a lot chiller now but I guess a lot of people just get to the point where it stops feeling like the community they originally posted to.

Obviously when someone makes a big ostentatious QUITTING ILX FOREVER move they usually come back, they're less likely to when they just slip away quietly. TBH I still think that work and family are the two big reasons people leave, although another big factor is that social media has allowed people to replicate various ILX social circles without actually using the boards.

not to be an asshole but, some of what was considered "healthy" or acceptable before wouldn't fly in the #metoo era

I don’t mind that we don’t have ws anymore

yes i know that xp

depends on your perspective, sug

there was also a healthy flirtatiousness/sexual energy. all gone.

Well, like Emily Dickinson said in that movie last year, when a friend marries, it's a death.

completely to be an asshole but "a healthy flirtatiousness/sexual energy" would be instantly offputting

stoked to miss the sexual energy

i totally missed all the sexual energy! i must have been in the wrong room.

there was also a healthy flirtatiousness/sexual energy.

Hi i am the guy in the picture with my cock in the hoover and yes i am also Tailpipe Man the guy in lingerie fucking his car. My name is Jeff Mitchell and i live in Rugby, Warwickshire, UK. I like fucking different objects and wearing womens underwear and i love showing the pictures off. My email is sissymanwh✧✧✧@hotm✧✧✧.c✧.u✧ if you have any comments or want more pictures to post around drop me a line. I want people to print off my pics with my details on them and leave them in public places for anyone to see.

― sissymanwhore, Saturday, May 12, 2012 9:52 PM (five years ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

So sad that ILX has lost its sweet sweet Grindr vibez.

No wait, what's the opposite of 'sad' again.

i went through your 2017 metal list on Youtube and had a lot of fun doing it. it's exactly the kind of stuff i want to hear more of. cheers.

― scott seward
Massive xpost but thanks! I’ve always really enjoyed your writing btw.

I agree that sounds bad. There’s so many places on the internet to do that; this is the place I go to talk about culture.

We do need more people though and less homogeneity though. Maybe I’ll leave a stack of fliers for this place somewhere — maybe in the lobby of Parsons School of Design across the street from my office — and see who bites...

“That” in my last post = the “healthy sexual energy.” I’m against it.

what happened to sexydancer

if you are already printing fliers, i know how you could make a sissymanwhore's day

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omg crut i forgot about that jeeezus

we've had some pretty stellar socks

I read the beginning of an old thread recently and there was a pretty healthy exchange from women of ilx past about how Paul Newman was really hot! Made me feel nostalgic. rip Paul Newman

who was that Big Jim dude or whatever was like a trucker or some shit?

x-post - Oh I'm sure I must have been a part of that if not the one who started it. I LOVE him.

the days of yore when branwell perved on hstencil

paul newman vs orville redenbacher for grocery label dream boat

the people who bullied you are not likely to suddenly become your best friends, and the people who stood idly by are not suddenly going to think you're the world's coolest kid.

― omar little, 2018年2月28日 星期三 上午 5:02 (three hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

some of my worst school bullies found me decades later on farcebook/at school reunions and were super excited to see me. every one of these times, i dropped what was left of my grudge immediately and just went with it. it was nice.

Bad move. Fuck them.

I mean, forgiveness is good, but there is something nauseating about forced/faked intimacy.

not really your experiences to judge so

I had a similar experience to AA with a bully who tormented me in grad/middle school and tbh it was lovely. She sent me the most heartfelt apology and I'd absolutely hang out with her if we were in the same city now. It didn't seem forced or fake at all. I think she just realized what a little shit she was as a kid and how much that might have hurt me and felt terrible.

there was a kid who would follow me around at recess in second grade and like, try to trip me and horse around and I thought it was incredibly irritating and that he was bullying. then his mom met my mom and said that he thought I was cool and I was apparently his favorite person to hang out with at recess!

people generally don't try to bond in that way past like, third grade

isn't that the concept behind "negging" though? Adult men do this to women a lot.

It didn't seem forced or fake at all. I think she just realized what a little shit she was as a kid and how much that might have hurt me and felt terrible.

― Benson and the Jets (ENBB), 2018年2月28日 星期三 上午 8:23 (forty-three seconds ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

that was definitely the undercurrent of my experiences too. they didn’t say as much, but it was clear they really wanted to smooth over the past.

treeship: if we can’t acknowledge that people can genuinely change and improve then fuck everything.

and to their friends. negging is the only way some dudes appear to be able to show affection

xpost

Anyone I bullied at school I hated