Why do people leave ILX for good?

What

Jesus times I wonder was I ever on this site at all

ah yes, princess coconuts

a few posters quit forever during the Luna thing, m1ss m1s3ry i remember in partic

why did turangalila quit? I can't remember now. And did he come back?

I don't ever like people being dicks about other people unless those other people have really done something to deserve it, think I'm probably not alone in this, but it's difficult to forcibly stand up for wishy washy opinions even if they are obviously right.

The only thing beneficial about likes and upvotes is knowing someone read your post? ILX is full of little essays followed by responses to other posts or new little essays. Upvotes or likes compensate for the fact that you can't pick up on normal face to face conversation visual or audio cues. You have to see someone respond to a point nested in your essay to find out whether you're even part of the discussion.

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a few posters quit forever during the Luna thing, m1ss m1s3ry i remember in partic

why did turangalila quit? I can't remember now. And did he come back?

― Lockhorn. Lockhorn breed-uh (Jon not Jon), Monday, February 26, 2018 9:06 AM (one minute ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

kv_nol bailed during lunagate, but not before attempting to give me the ol "what for" in an email.

yea I stopped posting for a while because of that person too. he'd literally tell other posters to get raped and die over the most innocuous shit and most of ILX would just be like "aww, hope you work past your mental issues *hugs*"

― frogbs, Monday, February 26, 2018 11:44 AM (twenty-three minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

I had this experience! I did get an apology eventually though. Wonder if it's the same person.

it's possible i know who Old Lunch is talking about too but idk.

http://revuepostures.com/sites/postures-dev.aegirnt2.uqam.ca/files/thumbnails/image/sans_titre8.png

I forget, was Lunagate that she wasn't who she was in her posted pics???

The only thing beneficial about likes and upvotes is knowing someone read your post? ILX is full of little essays followed by responses to other posts or new little essays. Upvotes or likes compensate for the fact that you can't pick up on normal face to face conversation visual or audio cues. You have to see someone respond to a point nested in your essay to find out whether you're even part of the discussion.

i know what you're saying, but i don't buy this. i think likes/upvotes/quantifying response can be toxic to both the discussion and the self. i would rather know someone is engaging with someone i said by seeing what i said quoted and responded to. that's how you know you are part of the conversation :) voting/liking is not conversationally equivalent to body language imo.

Ah right, I think I know who frogbs is talking about.

ah yes, princess coconuts

― alien lames (NickB), Monday, February 26, 2018 5:05 PM (three minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

lmao

yerac, yes but it was much more than that. the main lunagate thread is worth reading when you have a few hours.

oops
with someone should be someTHING not one
woops

Nah, I kind of remember when it was going on, but I wasn't that invested in it at the time either.

i mean i guess it is also kind of boring placed in the wider world of 'weird online grifter shit'. At the time I was glued to my fuckin' desk though

i can't believe it's been over ten years since Lunagate

For some reason I thought she still posted here?

Based on what I know and what I've inferred, I cannot imagine that Luna would be at all welcome around these parts.

why did turangalila quit? I can't remember now. And did he come back?

― Lockhorn. Lockhorn breed-uh (Jon not Jon)

he's fine but says hes no intentions of coming back. He's on FB though.

I know who imago refers to but no idea with old lunch

Oh wait, did Luna end up being a man? Ha, maybe I should go and re-read the threads.

I do suggest a re-read instead of rehashing it all here tbh

Ah right, I think I know who frogbs is talking about.

Strike that, I meant the person OL is talking about, have no idea who frogbs is talking out. This is hard work.

i'll never unlock my gold Ned badge at this rate.

Patience and time, my friend.

i like the current era of ILX a lot, which is kind of a lonely position. it's different than older eras, but still in a good way. it's smaller, but i also feel like i recognize most people and have a rough idea of where they're coming from on any given thread. i enjoy my messageboard community.

to address the OP, at least some people leave because they're just trying to leave the internet in general. that was the case with me, twice. i failed miserably both times, and immediately came back. but during those times, i would start to see the internet/ILX as a place that i've invested so much time and energy into at the expense of real life, like a zero sum game. so i'd freak out and try to cut myself off to force myself to be a normal human being in the real world. that dichotomy is baloney, though.

i might be alone in that as well, though. i think what barreras described above is probably the more likely explanation for the general attenuation of the board:

overly simplistic maybe but this could all be that old ilxors are now 18 years older and more likely to have families, kids, etc and are too busy to regularly post here. nothing on the internet is expected to last 20 years anyway, so ilx still being here is a minor miracle

xposts There was no overt beefing on my part, inasmuch as my interactions with said poster were limited to saying 'hey, dude I never interact with and have no desire to interact with, stop evoking my name in threads whose entire purpose is to rank on other posters'.

I'm with you, KM. This is my favorite era of ILX. People don't have to agree or even get along but the general diffusion of outright antagonism these days is a relief.

Yeah my inkling about OL is true

The guy was an incredible poster and a one-off but he could, it's true, be a little spiteful

KM and OL OTM.

i think i worked it out

Ah, maybe it isn't who I'm thinking of then! Pretty sure it's someone else now.

i know what you're saying, but i don't buy this. i think likes/upvotes/quantifying response can be toxic to both the discussion and the self. i would rather know someone is engaging with someone i said by seeing what i said quoted and responded to. that's how you know you are part of the conversation :) voting/liking is not conversationally equivalent to body language imo.

― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, February 26, 2018 12:14 PM (two minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Yeah I'm not exactly arguing in support of it, but I see some value in that system when the feature isn't abused (and that's rare of course). It is a shame though to watch your big thoughtful post drift off to sea then wait all day in the widow's walk hoping for some kind of acknowledgement, perhaps even a juicy OTM!

Oh cankles!

Far be it from me to note that you have to know how seriously to take some ppl I mean that's a dangerous comment to make I know but I mean

Cankles!

i like the current era of ILX a lot, which is kind of a lonely position

not a lonely position. i'm right there with you on that.

it's hard to xls everything from memory but wasn't the princess a new user name for cankles?

And look.

Look

I got time for my guy frogbs indeed I think I was a lot more light-hearted on him at the time than many posters posting itt tbh

But frogbs cmon man do you even remember how you hit this place at the start

Guys let's not utterly rewrite it all!

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a relatively lonely position on this thread, at least, as i scan through it! but yeah, there must be a lot of people who agree. otherwise, why come here all the time (other than habit or to resolve one last beef before leaving in triumph)

i would start to see the internet/ILX as a place that i've invested so much time and energy into at the expense of real life

As long as you are not trying to invert Maslow's Pyramid your 'real life' is probably fine. Some people here would mock the idea, but ILX encourages and stimulates the intellect. You can't make a whole life out of that, but after you've satisfied certain other more-basic needs, ILX provides an agora for the agoraphobic.

lol otm, you gotta cop to that fb! xxp

frogbs became a good poster when he explained how d3athdr0ne was bad at poker

x-post - lol yeah I remember hating and giving Frogbs shit for something years ago and although I can't remember the particulars I do remember that it was something pretty misogynistic. I think. My point is that I think it was rare for someone to get shit if they didn't at least sort of deserve it in some way. I'm not advocating bullying by any means but I do miss some of the more lighthearted ribbing that used to go on.

frogbs a poster who really came into his own after surviving the haze imo

xpost loving 'an agora for the agoraphobic'! A+

He wdylled a tadpolebs and it was all love from thereon in

My wife says "you're always reading your blue boxes" but I think she's starting to understand the conversations here are more substantive than what might be typical of an "internet message board" to the disengaged. It's addicting but it's not the junk food that is browsing most social media.

yes @ frogbs becoming a valuable poster @ poker w/ d34thdr0ne xp

good times

xp I miss a lot of the heavy-hearted ribbing but I don't expect to win votes with that sentiment

it's a cool club tbh - people who showed up, irritated the entire forum and then hung around until they were part of the furniture. each one a victory for the corrective powers of the zing

how did wins sidestep the process? is he a demon?

sorry daemon