Why do people leave ILX for good?

darraghmac that point has been clear to me since people started calling it the golden age
classic insider/outsider perspectives!

i remember a lot of mean spiritedness
just for one quick example, the threads where people would make fun of other people on the board were at least somewhat openly mean-spirited, at least they were imo
i used to follow them just to make sure i didn't show up. honest truth there. :-/

I don't remember any of them being mean? But I also always thought gabbneb was fine too. He at least would buy pizza at faps for everyone.

i always felt bad when people got picked on here. even if they were being jerky or obtuse. nobody has ever really picked on me here and if that was common i totally wouldn't still be here. i never understood the people who were gluttons for punishment. why they took/take abuse for so long. maybe some people just like getting yelled at.

Thankfully I've only ever gotten consistent grief from one mysteriously-beloved dickhole who's since vacated the premises. It wasn't enough to make me leave but it was a fuckin' bummer and definitely curbed my posting significantly.

As long as Mordy and Dr Morbius both post there will be equilibrium.

Two wallows do not make a wummer guys let's keep thread posi and constructive!

"It wasn't enough to make me leave but it was a fuckin' bummer and definitely curbed my posting significantly."

this happened to me too. where i really thought i was going for good because of one person. i couldn't take it. i did actually leave for awhile because of it.

I was terrified of the "what a horribly formed 'joke'" thread because I both like to joke and can be pretty sensitive (more so in the past).

i hate 'likes' and hate 'upvotes' even more, all of that shit is poisonous

Starting to post here again after years of Facebook was really a trip because you have to lay down your thoughts without any knowledge of what the majority thinks of them beyond yr own ability to read the room. It's kinda scary but leads to way more interesting convos, also when someone does go "OTM" the endorphin rush is so much sweeter.

RONG

Thankfully I've only ever gotten consistent grief from one mysteriously-beloved dickhole who's since vacated the premises. It wasn't enough to make me leave but it was a fuckin' bummer and definitely curbed my posting significantly.

yea I stopped posting for a while because of that person too. he'd literally tell other posters to get raped and die over the most innocuous shit and most of ILX would just be like "aww, hope you work past your mental issues *hugs*" meanwhile I'd rack up 5,000,000 SBs because I posted about how shirtless Australian dudes were hot

Can we name names here I'm kinda lost

I'll turn all mirrors inwards if it helps

You're slipping D.

Actually I might be thinking of the wrong person.

deems otm so many mysteriously-beloved dickholes to choose from

best-beloved dickhole

(sorry enbb, much love to benson)

We're talking about Dom, right?

x-post lol

yeah I'm sure frogbs and OL are talking about different ppl but I have no idea who (well with frogbs I do)

beloved is not usu. a word I associate with Dom tbh

lmao you might be right

Yeah, p sure we're talking about different people. Dom was no treat but never abusive towards me.

frogbs is talking about a certain hungry princess who was by all accounts a v sweet guy when he wasn't spewing trollish hatred online

OL I can't tell but I have an inkling

LJ, your inkling is most likely correct.

oh yes princess [percussion instrument frequently used by Mahler] right

What

Jesus times I wonder was I ever on this site at all

ah yes, princess coconuts

a few posters quit forever during the Luna thing, m1ss m1s3ry i remember in partic

why did turangalila quit? I can't remember now. And did he come back?

I don't ever like people being dicks about other people unless those other people have really done something to deserve it, think I'm probably not alone in this, but it's difficult to forcibly stand up for wishy washy opinions even if they are obviously right.

The only thing beneficial about likes and upvotes is knowing someone read your post? ILX is full of little essays followed by responses to other posts or new little essays. Upvotes or likes compensate for the fact that you can't pick up on normal face to face conversation visual or audio cues. You have to see someone respond to a point nested in your essay to find out whether you're even part of the discussion.

xposts

a few posters quit forever during the Luna thing, m1ss m1s3ry i remember in partic

why did turangalila quit? I can't remember now. And did he come back?

― Lockhorn. Lockhorn breed-uh (Jon not Jon), Monday, February 26, 2018 9:06 AM (one minute ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

kv_nol bailed during lunagate, but not before attempting to give me the ol "what for" in an email.

yea I stopped posting for a while because of that person too. he'd literally tell other posters to get raped and die over the most innocuous shit and most of ILX would just be like "aww, hope you work past your mental issues *hugs*"

― frogbs, Monday, February 26, 2018 11:44 AM (twenty-three minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

I had this experience! I did get an apology eventually though. Wonder if it's the same person.

it's possible i know who Old Lunch is talking about too but idk.

http://revuepostures.com/sites/postures-dev.aegirnt2.uqam.ca/files/thumbnails/image/sans_titre8.png

I forget, was Lunagate that she wasn't who she was in her posted pics???

The only thing beneficial about likes and upvotes is knowing someone read your post? ILX is full of little essays followed by responses to other posts or new little essays. Upvotes or likes compensate for the fact that you can't pick up on normal face to face conversation visual or audio cues. You have to see someone respond to a point nested in your essay to find out whether you're even part of the discussion.

i know what you're saying, but i don't buy this. i think likes/upvotes/quantifying response can be toxic to both the discussion and the self. i would rather know someone is engaging with someone i said by seeing what i said quoted and responded to. that's how you know you are part of the conversation :) voting/liking is not conversationally equivalent to body language imo.

Ah right, I think I know who frogbs is talking about.

ah yes, princess coconuts

― alien lames (NickB), Monday, February 26, 2018 5:05 PM (three minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

lmao

yerac, yes but it was much more than that. the main lunagate thread is worth reading when you have a few hours.

oops
with someone should be someTHING not one
woops

Nah, I kind of remember when it was going on, but I wasn't that invested in it at the time either.

i mean i guess it is also kind of boring placed in the wider world of 'weird online grifter shit'. At the time I was glued to my fuckin' desk though

i can't believe it's been over ten years since Lunagate

For some reason I thought she still posted here?

Based on what I know and what I've inferred, I cannot imagine that Luna would be at all welcome around these parts.

why did turangalila quit? I can't remember now. And did he come back?

― Lockhorn. Lockhorn breed-uh (Jon not Jon)

he's fine but says hes no intentions of coming back. He's on FB though.

I know who imago refers to but no idea with old lunch

Oh wait, did Luna end up being a man? Ha, maybe I should go and re-read the threads.

I do suggest a re-read instead of rehashing it all here tbh

Ah right, I think I know who frogbs is talking about.

Strike that, I meant the person OL is talking about, have no idea who frogbs is talking out. This is hard work.