Why do people leave ILX for good?

other: gaz coombes

The underlying lack of anonymity that so many of you seem to cherish makes this place even more alienating to a newcomer tbh. I already felt this during my first stint as a half-lurker in 2003 or so.

CAD otm. It is most definitely all of those things for me too.

but actually don't wish to cultivate followers or quantify how much people like your thoughts

i enjoy the challenge of hurling bon mots into the abyss day after day, with only the occasional grudging excelsior to offer a brief, bittersweet endorphin burst

i hate 'likes' and hate 'upvotes' even more, all of that shit is poisonous

'i hate likes and i like everything else'

what is ILX like on a phone? if its in any way not phone-friendly that might be another reason why people stick to their tweets and instacat pictures.

it's super phone friendly (except that you can't search out an old thread you want to bump)

I don't remember any mean-spiritness. Except maybe for the twoooooo weeeeeks thing.

― Yerac, Monday, 26 February 2018 16:02 (fourteen minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Roy Keane Saipan?!

XP I ilx phone exclusively it is not a demotivator

other: gaz coombes

his underapprecation on this board is a scandal, it's true

One person's 'ilx got less mean' is another person's 'jesus this place suck now' I dunno if that could be of value to point out

True, some people seem to treat him as some sort of figure of fun. (xp)

Lol throughout the years i’ve always thought “do A and B, like, actually know each other irl and hang out at those fappy things or whatever theyre called”?

I dont recall ilx being super mean-spirited, but that 07 period was pretty high energy. Xp

i love j0n W irl but cmon he was mean. cutty was mean. hst3nc1l was mean.

darraghmac that point has been clear to me since people started calling it the golden age
classic insider/outsider perspectives!

i remember a lot of mean spiritedness
just for one quick example, the threads where people would make fun of other people on the board were at least somewhat openly mean-spirited, at least they were imo
i used to follow them just to make sure i didn't show up. honest truth there. :-/

I don't remember any of them being mean? But I also always thought gabbneb was fine too. He at least would buy pizza at faps for everyone.

i always felt bad when people got picked on here. even if they were being jerky or obtuse. nobody has ever really picked on me here and if that was common i totally wouldn't still be here. i never understood the people who were gluttons for punishment. why they took/take abuse for so long. maybe some people just like getting yelled at.

Thankfully I've only ever gotten consistent grief from one mysteriously-beloved dickhole who's since vacated the premises. It wasn't enough to make me leave but it was a fuckin' bummer and definitely curbed my posting significantly.

As long as Mordy and Dr Morbius both post there will be equilibrium.

Two wallows do not make a wummer guys let's keep thread posi and constructive!

"It wasn't enough to make me leave but it was a fuckin' bummer and definitely curbed my posting significantly."

this happened to me too. where i really thought i was going for good because of one person. i couldn't take it. i did actually leave for awhile because of it.

I was terrified of the "what a horribly formed 'joke'" thread because I both like to joke and can be pretty sensitive (more so in the past).

i hate 'likes' and hate 'upvotes' even more, all of that shit is poisonous

Starting to post here again after years of Facebook was really a trip because you have to lay down your thoughts without any knowledge of what the majority thinks of them beyond yr own ability to read the room. It's kinda scary but leads to way more interesting convos, also when someone does go "OTM" the endorphin rush is so much sweeter.

RONG

Thankfully I've only ever gotten consistent grief from one mysteriously-beloved dickhole who's since vacated the premises. It wasn't enough to make me leave but it was a fuckin' bummer and definitely curbed my posting significantly.

yea I stopped posting for a while because of that person too. he'd literally tell other posters to get raped and die over the most innocuous shit and most of ILX would just be like "aww, hope you work past your mental issues *hugs*" meanwhile I'd rack up 5,000,000 SBs because I posted about how shirtless Australian dudes were hot

Can we name names here I'm kinda lost

I'll turn all mirrors inwards if it helps

You're slipping D.

Actually I might be thinking of the wrong person.

deems otm so many mysteriously-beloved dickholes to choose from

best-beloved dickhole

(sorry enbb, much love to benson)

We're talking about Dom, right?

x-post lol

yeah I'm sure frogbs and OL are talking about different ppl but I have no idea who (well with frogbs I do)

beloved is not usu. a word I associate with Dom tbh

lmao you might be right

Yeah, p sure we're talking about different people. Dom was no treat but never abusive towards me.

frogbs is talking about a certain hungry princess who was by all accounts a v sweet guy when he wasn't spewing trollish hatred online

OL I can't tell but I have an inkling

LJ, your inkling is most likely correct.

oh yes princess [percussion instrument frequently used by Mahler] right

What

Jesus times I wonder was I ever on this site at all

ah yes, princess coconuts

a few posters quit forever during the Luna thing, m1ss m1s3ry i remember in partic

why did turangalila quit? I can't remember now. And did he come back?

I don't ever like people being dicks about other people unless those other people have really done something to deserve it, think I'm probably not alone in this, but it's difficult to forcibly stand up for wishy washy opinions even if they are obviously right.

The only thing beneficial about likes and upvotes is knowing someone read your post? ILX is full of little essays followed by responses to other posts or new little essays. Upvotes or likes compensate for the fact that you can't pick up on normal face to face conversation visual or audio cues. You have to see someone respond to a point nested in your essay to find out whether you're even part of the discussion.

xposts

a few posters quit forever during the Luna thing, m1ss m1s3ry i remember in partic

why did turangalila quit? I can't remember now. And did he come back?

― Lockhorn. Lockhorn breed-uh (Jon not Jon), Monday, February 26, 2018 9:06 AM (one minute ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

kv_nol bailed during lunagate, but not before attempting to give me the ol "what for" in an email.

yea I stopped posting for a while because of that person too. he'd literally tell other posters to get raped and die over the most innocuous shit and most of ILX would just be like "aww, hope you work past your mental issues *hugs*"

― frogbs, Monday, February 26, 2018 11:44 AM (twenty-three minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

I had this experience! I did get an apology eventually though. Wonder if it's the same person.

it's possible i know who Old Lunch is talking about too but idk.

http://revuepostures.com/sites/postures-dev.aegirnt2.uqam.ca/files/thumbnails/image/sans_titre8.png

I forget, was Lunagate that she wasn't who she was in her posted pics???