Why do people leave ILX for good?

"Sex" and "food" are synonymous.

I've never really thought of ILE as more or less than a secondary board that was created so music fans could also have a place to shoot the shit about other things.

I only come here when ILM slows down to a crawl. Like imago said, a separate 'I love (US) politics' board would make this neck of the woods more appealing (to me, at least).

then why am i so much better at eating than shagging xp

It's funny but I dont think I ever looked at ILE for it's first few years of existence. Pretty sure 2003 will be when I first posted there at the earliest. I remember DG setting it up though. I miss DG but he always comes back every few years

then why am i so much better at eating than shagging xp

― NEW CHIMP THREAT (bizarro gazzara),

using the wrong recipes

it's a poor workman that blames his tools

Pl

surely it's the ten thousand hours thing

PLANK xyzzzz doesn't believe in SOCIAL NETWORKS

― imago, Monday, 26 February 2018 Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Your ideas are thrash and I'm the plank?

I've never really thought of ILE as more or less than a secondary board that was created so music fans could also have a place to shoot the shit about other things.

― No purposes. Sounds. (Sund4r), Monday, 26 February 2018 Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

This board got good around 2013 which is roughly around the time I started to take it seriously, as it happens.

I support LJ’s proposal and volunteer to do alumni interviews with prospective posters in the new york/new jersey region.

if they pass muster they are sent a PM on their own website simply reading 'you are ready for ilxor'

there was an episode of Lewis with some club like this it was not good and did not end well

Oh well let's just give up so

How many people will leave ILX for good if this is introduced?

― Video reach stereo bog (Tom D.)

i don't know. me, maybe? y'all want to be important and influential and popular and that's not me. i'm a long tail guy. the more this place becomes a Twitter Annex the less i care.

we turn the board into an interactive realtime mystery game where there's a clue in every poll

I haven't stopped posting but I post way less frequently than I used to and I think it really is because most of my favorite posters don't post anymore and it doesn't seem anywhere near as interesting or as funny. Also, and maybe I am wrong in thinking this, but it feels like there are far fewer women posting these days and I think that factors in somehow too.

i love bees

also the whole idea of ilx as a Planned Community seems so pathetic to me, things have an organic lifecycle and if this community is heading for extinction i say embrace it

Amen.

There really are way, way fewer women posting these days. Unless they're doing so surreptitiously. It's a shame.

if they pass muster they are sent a PM on their own website simply reading 'you are ready for ilxor' like how bill bruford joined king crimson.

Robert Fripp is such a fucking dickhead. Apropos of nothing.

i definitely read ilx more than i post to ilx these days. i don't really have any places to hang out anymore. i'll never unlock my gold Ned badge at this rate.

xxpost - It is. :( I miss them and of course I dp realize that by not posting as much I myself am contributing to that trend. Come back women!

that guy who directed horse money or w/e

lol good to know that Portugal's most famous/only criterionized director is still seen as a dude who'd totally have the time and inclination to talk to randos on ILX (probably not far wrong tbh).

Early 00's ILM was super formative to me as a young rockist wannabe rock critic, opened so many doors not just for then contemporary Hip-Hop and Chartpop but also Jazz, Techno, House, Ska. Atmosphere was far from friendly but really I cherish the beatdowns I got from jess, Blount and the like - at 18 I really needed to be told to stfu and stop thinking I was a genius.

I do miss a ton of posters but on a selfish level I feel like the brain drain from this forum makes it possible for me to post mostly w/o ridicule so...

jess and blount were a deadly duo. they trampled the weak and hurdled the dead.

i don't miss the mean-spiritedness of old ilx at all, like 0%
i do miss some of the people who have left but mostly they are on facebook or twitter if we are hungry for their thoughts. one of the best things about ilx is the lack of quantification of how many people approve of your thoughts and the democratizing bland b/w landscape. it's a huge equalizer, which some people like and i guess others don't.

Prolific women posters leaving is the most bummer ilx trend

x-post - I thought I should add that I'm glad you are still posting a lot LL because whenever I do read or post I'm glad to see you here.

I can't even imagine posting a pic on a what do you look like thread nowadays. I think a lot of people just got super private. I hung out with rjg last month and we were discussing old ilxors and what their new names are. I've been so confused about who is who.

I figured the lack of WDYLLs was less because of privacy and more because many of us know what each other looks like these days because of Facebook.

FB you can at least control the audience and admin. Here you can't. I happened to be at a housewarming in London about 2 years ago and there were 5 old school London ilxors there that I had met at a fap 10 years prior. It was a trip.

Yeah I guess you're right that had just never occurred to me as a major reason.

xp - that's good to hear! :)
this is a great place to be if you like to discuss things (music in particular) but actually don't wish to cultivate followers or quantify how much people like your thoughts

as long as you're not posting photos of yourself or other private deets, ilx is a good place to discuss things that are not personal, which is 95% of what i am comfortable discussing in general -- both online and off.

Also there's the thing where some of us who were once young and spry are now old and broken and don't care to commemorate the brutal savagery of time's passage with photographic evidence.

x-post - I've found it really helpful over the years for discussing some very personal things but I'm generally pretty open with people (could probably stand to be more guarded tbh) irl too I think.

overly simplistic maybe but this could all be that old ilxors are now 18 years older and more likely to have families, kids, etc and are too busy to regularly post here. nothing on the internet is expected to last 20 years anyway, so ilx still being here is a minor miracle

i don't miss the mean-spiritedness of old ilx at all, like 0%

I remember this being worst around the time of the supposed Golden Age, though, at least the first part of it.

I don't remember any mean-spiritness. Except maybe for the twoooooo weeeeeks thing.

w/out really speculating on root cause ilx feels less funny, less open, less communal, and less freewheeling than it did when i really liked it here. i mostly stick to one small corner of the site at this point and hopefully the crew there stays strong and active for a long time.

other: gaz coombes

The underlying lack of anonymity that so many of you seem to cherish makes this place even more alienating to a newcomer tbh. I already felt this during my first stint as a half-lurker in 2003 or so.

CAD otm. It is most definitely all of those things for me too.

but actually don't wish to cultivate followers or quantify how much people like your thoughts

i enjoy the challenge of hurling bon mots into the abyss day after day, with only the occasional grudging excelsior to offer a brief, bittersweet endorphin burst

i hate 'likes' and hate 'upvotes' even more, all of that shit is poisonous

'i hate likes and i like everything else'

what is ILX like on a phone? if its in any way not phone-friendly that might be another reason why people stick to their tweets and instacat pictures.

it's super phone friendly (except that you can't search out an old thread you want to bump)

I don't remember any mean-spiritness. Except maybe for the twoooooo weeeeeks thing.

― Yerac, Monday, 26 February 2018 16:02 (fourteen minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Roy Keane Saipan?!

XP I ilx phone exclusively it is not a demotivator

other: gaz coombes

his underapprecation on this board is a scandal, it's true

One person's 'ilx got less mean' is another person's 'jesus this place suck now' I dunno if that could be of value to point out

True, some people seem to treat him as some sort of figure of fun. (xp)