Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

no

I haven't used OKC in years but tbh I always enjoyed the ritual of eventually learning someone's real name when the appropriate moment came

Sweet, they totally broke messages.

Now when someone messages you, if you don't like them, the messages show up on their profile. For some reason. And they message you "hey someone sent you a message! It'll be on their profile! Which you can find by going into Double Take (ugh) or matches and they'll appear near the top! Probably!"

I mean... wtf is this shit. Makes no sense at all, at all.

it is the weirdest and most convoluted system. wanting to cut down harassment is one thing but was this really the best fix they could come up with?

i saw a woman from ok cupid at the grocery store! she was buying tea, which is apropros given that her screen name used to be something about tea

So I liked someone
They liked me back
I don't know who it is
Or how to find them
This is an awesome website

https://zdware.com/2018/okcupid_removed_visitor_api/

Here’s a quick rundown about some of the less obvious data points:

birthdate - Exact birthdate of the person. Birthdate is considered PII (personally identifiable information) by many agencies in the US and EU.
stalk_time - The time the user visited your profile.
userid - ID of the user, could be used within another attack vector/API.
realname - This is usually the first name provided by the user, especially since the username deprecation by OkCupid
last_received_message - Timestamp of when the user last received a message.
last_sent_message - Timestamp of when the user last sent a message.
location_detail - This is where things get a little creepy, and complicated.
This is an unnecessarily large amount of data for OKCupid’s old visitor feature. The only data you would need for this feature is the username, the time they visited you, a thumbnail, their city/state, and match percentage.

sounds like their internal api (programs inside the site using data that are only on their network) and external apis (available from the web) were the same? uuuuungh

yup dumb dumb dumb

Always amazes me how much easier it would be to not be a scumbag company

One of the dating apps I used to use, can't remember which one, used to have an "xx miles away" feature when you looked at a match's profile, accurate down to like a tenth of a mile. After messaging with one match a bunch I could tell whether she was at home or at work based on the distance away. Super creepy; it was essentially a GPS tracker. Nobody needs that information.

but you need to know she's thirsty @ work

They're showing an instant replay, and the one announcer is citing a Cardinal fan in the stands claiming it was a homer as proof it was a homer

ooops, wrong thread

https://i.imgur.com/E2QUKJS.png

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2017/06/when-your-child-is-a-psychopath/524502/

After talking with Carl, I begin to see him as a remarkable success story. “Without [ Mendota] and Jesus,” he tells me, “I would have been a Manson-, Bundy-, Dahmer-, or Berkowitz-type of criminal.” Sure, his fascination with the morbid is a little creepy. Yet here he is, now remarried, the father of a 1-year-old son he adores, with a flourishing business. After our phone interview, I decide to meet him in person. I want to witness his redemption for myself.

The night before I’m scheduled to fly to Los Angeles, I receive a frantic email from Carl’s wife. Carl is in police custody. His wife tells me that Carl considers himself polyamorous, and had invited one of his girlfriends over to their apartment. (This woman denies ever being romantically involved with Carl.)* They were playing with the baby when his wife returned. She was furious, and grabbed their son. Carl responded by pulling her hair, snatching the baby out of her arms, and taking her phone to prevent her from calling the police. She called from a neighbor’s house instead. (Carl says he grabbed the baby to protect him.) Three misdemeanor charges—spousal battery, abandonment and neglect of a child, and intimidation of a witness—and the psychopath who made good is now in jail.

I go to Los Angeles anyway, in the naive hope that Carl will be released on bail at his hearing the next day. A few minutes before 8:30 a.m., his wife and I meet at the courthouse and begin the long wait. She is 12 years Carl’s junior, a compact woman with long black hair and a weariness that ebbs only when she gazes at her son. She met Carl on OkCupid two years ago while visiting L.A. and—after a romance of just a few months—moved to California to marry him. Now she sits outside the courtroom, one eye on her son, fielding calls from clients of the funeral home and wondering whether she can make bail.

“I’m so sick of the drama,” she says, as the phone rings again.

Carl is a tough man to be married to. His wife says he’s funny and charming and a good listener, but he sometimes loses interest in the funeral business, leaving most of the work to her. He brings other women home for sex, even when she’s there. And while he’s never seriously beaten her up, he has slapped her.

that's a lot of article for one keyword

Was thinking the exact thing

Like uh why this thread again?

quintessence of ok cupid

Lol dawg

ok dude

ah, the innocent days when OkCupid ruled the online dating landscape.

sigh

incredibly beautiful person who messaged me first and then abruptly stopped replying when i asked you out, what’s on ur mind

turns out i was buried under a pile of weirdos, but now i got the digits and a date :-D

tried to log in to this for the first time in three years and my profile was deleted

that's reasonable, but it's unlikely i'll ever have the energy to make a new one

Probably not worth said energy, tbh.

diminishing returns

We’ve introduced a dating forum at https://t.co/rVJHNl5voI, so singles who feel the same way about the virus can meet and not have to worry about differing attitudes to social distancing. https://t.co/haGHFYuzuy

— Toby Young (@toadmeister) August 9, 2020

Is there any reason currently to use this over the apps?

iirc there is no reason whatsoever to use a dating forum based around being a "lockdown sceptic"

or did you mean OKC? it has an app!

Is there any reason currently to use an app promoted by someone who calls himself toadmeister?

I meant OKC, and yeah I guess now that it has/is an app it seems to have sanded away all the weird bits that maybe made it unique and useful?

let alone one promoted by someone featured in a thread like this

Most Hilarious Way for Toby Young to Die Although God Forbid It Should Ever Happen

the gradual sanding-down of OKC was one of those long slow bummer demises of the Old Internet, or in this case the Internet of the Mid-00s. gradually the site became incredibly square in tone, policing out a lot of weirdies/kink profiles etc., the clampdown on usernames in favor of real names, and with the interface meanwhile becoming so simplified and tinder-like that having more than a few sentences in your profile came to look absurd. i'm sure they culled a lot of the questions and quizzes and stuff too. it basically just got a lot more generic, slowly.

Every 6 months they get rid of another feature people liked, people complain, life goes on. As with all sites, doing what your userbase wants or retracting a bad change is completely off the menu.