Weddings

I am not of this world

i'm 37 and have only gone to 2 weddings in the last 20 years

Money in cards is less of a thing over here, tbh. £100 would be generous but any denomination between £50 and £100 looks awkward so i would go for the top end.

I went to a wedding in Laois last month where my future mother-in-law managed to accidentally set fire to six of the guests' cards, so as long as you don't do that, it can't be too bad.

Did they let her off

£100! Depends how close & how flush you are of course but I wouldn't expect that much from...well, anyone, certainly not my first cousin once removed.

Yeah I was aware that it's a different culture.

Also yer weddings aren't as good.

200 per couple is about the norm here.

Lucky if you get a couple of kisses pencilled in the card from me.

How many for a cousin

max(3, round(3 * 1/(degree*removals))

I meant min() obviously.

been to a few weddings recently where they expressly said not to give them a gift. it's fucking weird and awkward when you're treating your friends like it's 1952 and they need to buy some crockery they use once a year in the house where they'll die.

got two coming up soon, one is my brother so might actually make an effort and get something nice. the other, which comes first, is two friends. as discussed on ilx menswear thread brother won't countenance me wearing the same suit to both, to the point that he says he'll pay for a second suit - nonetheless i have to get two suits in the next 3/4 weeks.

i am delighted to be best man at bro's wedding and i'll have a great time at the other one, but i gotta say these big mandatory occasions can be kind of stressful.

I'm somewhat of a veteran these days

Early on, they're stressful (not helped by a somewhat awkward family history in case of relatives weddings)

Then you get used to them and can enjoy

Then you find yourself with a bloody role and it's stressful again

Then you're past that and hey! you're the auld fella who dgaf and they're a gas day out

i mostly just don't like having plans - i spend a lot of time with friends or whatever but i tend to prefer deciding what to do 15 minutes before leaving the house. partly cos my health isn't always reliable so big hanging obligations can be stressful.

i'm sure i'll enjoy both of these, though i do have a ton of stuff to organise for my brother's. when i say organise i mean he asks me to find some alternatives to an idea he has - "you'll know better than me" - then he decides to go with the original idea. now we've settled into this arrangement it's working well.