reminder to say please and thank you

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go go gadget knee defender

Curt1s Stephens, Thursday, 26 April 2007 18:00 (thirteen years ago) link

i mind the fuck out of my Ps and Qs and as a result i savor each and every moment i can interact with an old lady in a public setting

iiiijjjj, Thursday, 26 April 2007 18:12 (thirteen years ago) link

i once kicked someone's chihuahua, but it was an accident. he was darting all around and ran right in front of my foot!

bell_labs, Thursday, 26 April 2007 18:15 (thirteen years ago) link

ppl who STAND ON SUNBWAY STAIRS

Dr Morbius, Thursday, 26 April 2007 18:42 (thirteen years ago) link

SUBWAY STAIRS ANSWERING THEIR DEVICES

Dr Morbius, Thursday, 26 April 2007 18:42 (thirteen years ago) link

he was darting all around and ran right in front of my foot!

typical excuse of serial chihuahua abuser

dmr, Thursday, 26 April 2007 19:01 (thirteen years ago) link

my personal bugbear: when you (or anybody else) has to sneeze in public – and onlookers glare as if you've horribly offended them, instead of saying 'god bless you' or 'geshundheit' or whatever.

remy bean, Thursday, 26 April 2007 20:43 (thirteen years ago) link

^ azns

Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Thursday, 26 April 2007 20:45 (thirteen years ago) link

You know that term, "Kill 'em with kindness"? Y'all should move to The South and discover that it's damn-near a literal expression.

"HAY MORNIN' THERE, BUDDY! HOW YOU GETTING ALONG OKAY?"
"Can I just pay for this coffee, please?"

Pleasant Plains, Thursday, 26 April 2007 20:55 (thirteen years ago) link

when i was in India and someone sneezed I said god bless you and then was terrified I would be stoned. GET YOUR GODS STRAIGHT BEFORE YOU TRAVEL.

Yerac, Thursday, 26 April 2007 21:00 (thirteen years ago) link

i was in a pizza place, walking out with a pie. there's a woman ahead of me, pushing a stroller. she goes outside before me and then holds the door open for me. i smiled, but i did not say thank you. (when i hold the door for someone i don't expect a thank you.) anyway, she got all mad and was like "You know a THANK YOU for holding the door would have been nice." am i a dick, y/n?

Mr. Que, Thursday, 26 April 2007 21:03 (thirteen years ago) link

i just say bless you. why bring god into this?

chicago kevin, Thursday, 26 April 2007 21:04 (thirteen years ago) link

remy how many times has a stranger in passing said god bless you to you? ive had once instance in my life when i was visiting chicago & its actually managed to stick in my mind because i was so surprised by it

this might only be because i do the vast majority of my sneezing in private though

deeznuts, Thursday, 26 April 2007 21:05 (thirteen years ago) link

someone lit a cigarette in my subway car on the way to work today but I don't think it was so much conscious rudeness as just mentally ill / weird

so noticeable in a closed car tho. ugh.

dmr, Thursday, 26 April 2007 21:14 (thirteen years ago) link

mcdonalds employees who dont treat me like their superior

deeznuts, Thursday, 26 April 2007 21:18 (thirteen years ago) link

I don't think with-holding a "thank you" when a door is held is as much a faux pas as is withholding a "sorry" after squashing someone's toes or something. That's when I'll get huffy and be all "AN 'EXCUSE ME' WOULD BE NICE"

elmo argonaut, Thursday, 26 April 2007 21:20 (thirteen years ago) link

haha have you ever actually done that kind of thing?? cuz i dont i have nor do i think its happened to me & i can be a pretty rude jackass

deeznuts, Thursday, 26 April 2007 21:22 (thirteen years ago) link

No amount of politeness seems to get one served at Daddy's however.

sexyDancer, Thursday, 26 April 2007 21:23 (thirteen years ago) link

Smiling is a perfectly fine response to a door-holding as long as you're sure the person sees it. I hold a lotta doors and get a lotta cold shoulders, but making a kind gesture so you can get verbal acknowledgment is bogus.

BLASTOCYST, Thursday, 26 April 2007 21:25 (thirteen years ago) link

someone told me a story once about being on a train and some lady using her stroller to keep the doors open as she almost missed the train.

and the subway announcer just yelled, "you did NOT just use a baby to hold the doors!"

or i read it on overheard in ny..oh memory...where have you gone


ok, off to daddy's

but 1st to navigate GCS, the 4/5, union square ...

bb, Thursday, 26 April 2007 21:26 (thirteen years ago) link

"AN 'EXCUSE ME' WOULD BE NICE"

I got that once when the subway lurched and I sort of half sat on someone

I didn't think it was that bad but apparently she felt pretty satted on

I apologized but then had to sit next to her for a few stops ... :/ awkward

dmr, Thursday, 26 April 2007 21:27 (thirteen years ago) link

my bro has done some shit a couple times recently -- he was at a cafe where one of my friends works and my bro accidentally poured hot tea all over my friend's hand.

FRIEND: Uh... "SORRY."
BRO: Oh, it's alright.
FRIEND: No, "sorry" is what you're supposed to say!
BRO: ... *walks away*

My bro can be quite a tool sometimes.

elmo argonaut, Thursday, 26 April 2007 21:28 (thirteen years ago) link

what's annoying here is that ppl will slow down or stop when you're standing on the corner or even approaching (say, on a run), which totally throws off my game because either (a) I'm just chilling on the corner, checking girls and smoking cigarettes* or (b) i have planned my in-run in such a way that i will pass behind the car by mere inches, in the most efficient street crossing you've ever seen. instead, i get dudes sitting there impatient that i'm not flipping out and thanking them for their irritating, obtrusive courtesy

river wolf, Thursday, 26 April 2007 21:30 (thirteen years ago) link

* this isn't really a real situation

river wolf, Thursday, 26 April 2007 21:31 (thirteen years ago) link

Also, don't fucking wave me on if you have the right of way, you shitty RI drivers.

elmo argonaut, Thursday, 26 April 2007 21:39 (thirteen years ago) link

"KILL EM WITH KINDNESS"

Also see insane motherfucker drivers who try to be "nice" and attempt to wave you to turn left in front of them at intersections.

HA XPOST

Pleasant Plains, Thursday, 26 April 2007 21:43 (thirteen years ago) link

YES

Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Thursday, 26 April 2007 21:46 (thirteen years ago) link

some dude just drifted into my lane this morning and he ignored my honks in this weird "maybe if i don't acknowledge his presence he'll veer into another car and i can get to work early" manner. after that almost happened, he waved to me politely and mouthed "thank you".

félix pié, Thursday, 26 April 2007 21:54 (thirteen years ago) link

i got yelled at for holding the door open for guy in wheelchair a la david cross in scary movie 2 XD

am0n, Thursday, 26 April 2007 22:09 (thirteen years ago) link

Also, don't fucking wave me on if you have the right of way, you shitty RI drivers.

OTM
this includes assholes in NY who have a green light, see that you've stopped well before crossing the street because hey, DO NOT WALK, and they stop anyway at the green light and wave you across?? drivers stop being so old and senile thx

sleep, Thursday, 26 April 2007 22:18 (thirteen years ago) link

admittedly this has only happened to me two or three times, but wtf

sleep, Thursday, 26 April 2007 22:21 (thirteen years ago) link

DRIVING WITH ALOHA

g®▲Ðұ, Thursday, 26 April 2007 22:37 (thirteen years ago) link

my pet peeve is people who don't know the difference between "excuse me" and "sorry."

THESE TWO ARE NOT INTERCHANGABLE AND IT IS LAZY TO SUBSTITUTE ONE FOR THE OTHER.

like if I am waiting in line to get a drink at a crowded bar and you are trying to squeeze past me to go sit down or go to the bathroom, DO NOT SAY "SORRY :(" YOU ARE DOING NOTHING WRONG. THERE IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR. A simple and polite "excuse me" is all that is called for.

Same goes for accidentally bumping into someone. However, stepping on a toe def. calls for an apology.

g®▲Ðұ, Thursday, 26 April 2007 22:42 (thirteen years ago) link

i never say god bless you either. I have no clue what got into me that day. i usually just say achtung or something when someone sneezes.

someone once ashed near me and the cherry landed on my hand. i just stared at the bright bright ember until the dude freaked out and knocked it off my hand. i was really drunk and had a scar for 6 months. he didn't say sorry.

Yerac, Thursday, 26 April 2007 22:48 (thirteen years ago) link

sorry lady u drunk

river wolf, Thursday, 26 April 2007 22:49 (thirteen years ago) link

re: southern people being polite vs. northern people being polite: I think southerners have a bluntness that can come off as pretty rude (we are all really good at saying horrible things in a nice voice), but we observe common etiquette (saying ma'am, sir, excuse me, etc.) moreso than northerners, who maybe don't observe common etiquette as much but are less likely to say "oh you are such a dear" in that incredibly condescending, actually-I-think-you're-an-idiot way.

i know this was like way the fuck upthread but jessie totally otm here. people always think i'm gona be some sweet southern belle because i am from the south but i have to explain to them that that whole southern hospitality thing is a lot of fake niceness in order to make their judgmentalness seem less obnoxious.

tehresa, Thursday, 26 April 2007 23:09 (thirteen years ago) link

one of my good friends is from georgia and she always looks me right in the eye when talking and is sure to include my name in every other sentence. she does this with everyone. it's very disarming and i think she's insulted me a few times but i didn't notice because it was such a pleasant experience overall.

félix pié, Thursday, 26 April 2007 23:25 (thirteen years ago) link

^^^^ i have had this experience multiple times and it really is disarming

river wolf, Thursday, 26 April 2007 23:34 (thirteen years ago) link

I'm sure your friend is a wonderful human, felix, but it's a shame that she's a damn creepy conversationalist, bless her heart.

Pleasant Plains, Thursday, 26 April 2007 23:44 (thirteen years ago) link

I often do that to people deliberately, fellow noise board posters.

admrl, Thursday, 26 April 2007 23:45 (thirteen years ago) link

bless her heart!! 8080, oh man, every time i have a conversation with her she tosses one of those in there.

félix pié, Thursday, 26 April 2007 23:48 (thirteen years ago) link

She sounds like such a goddam stupid fucking idiot, bless her heart!

Pleasant Plains, Thursday, 26 April 2007 23:55 (thirteen years ago) link

goes along with, 'i love her to death, but....'

tehresa, Friday, 27 April 2007 00:03 (thirteen years ago) link

I use people's names when talking to them so I never forget.

Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Friday, 27 April 2007 14:39 (thirteen years ago) link

I use people's names when talking to them so I never forget.


i tried to do this but it didn't work. wednesday night a friend of a friend met us out for drinks and i said "nice to meet you kelly." and she responded with "we've met. on saturday." whoops...

chicago kevin, Friday, 27 April 2007 14:47 (thirteen years ago) link

and now i'm not 100% positive her name was kelly now that i think about it.

chicago kevin, Friday, 27 April 2007 14:47 (thirteen years ago) link

Its pretty rude to point that out to people unless you've met like 7 times.

Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Friday, 27 April 2007 14:57 (thirteen years ago) link

Also "It's"

Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Friday, 27 April 2007 15:00 (thirteen years ago) link

I used to work with this Belgian girl like 9 years ago who told me Europeans think it's rude when Americans say "excuse me" so I forced myself to say things like "pardon me" or "my bad, guvnah" etc instead every since.

nickalicious, Friday, 27 April 2007 15:06 (thirteen years ago) link

oh boy, this is going to be a goldmine

Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Friday, 27 April 2007 15:08 (thirteen years ago) link


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