Boobs, I mean, Bras, and the eternal frustration

So true!!!! It's also really hard to tell if a bra is truly comfortable just trying it on once in a fitting room - lots of shit goes wrong when you're stuck in an ill fitting bra for 12 or more hours.

ThirdLove has a thing where you pay for shipping for the first bra you order, wear and wash for a month, and then either return it or pay for it (65$? I think?). They've gotten tons of great press AND they have lots of cute colors for big boobs. I don't know why I don't just splurge - it wouldn't be the most expensive bra I own.

Men get to pick between about 4 colors of pants most of the time and unless you have constantly flaccid, below-average tackle, your underwear & pants situation becomes uncomfortable to the point of distraction at least twice a day.

look dude, if men had to adjust their junk as often as women have to adjust their bras, there would 1) be massive industry disruption, like there'd be an iphone of men's underwear, with regular upgrades and 2) those comfortable pants you wear at home would be allowed as appropriate workwear.

I will not disagree with you. My grass is greener.

Pants/briefs comparison also doesn't hold up bc women's underwear is mostly uncomfortable if you've got a big bootie. Same thing for pants - trying to find pants or jeans that work for your butt, hips, stomach and thighs is a bit of an adventure.

update

playtex bra is v comfortable! uniboob look is kinda eh, but god it's nice not having any wire constriction

that's the kind i wear now -- no wires, no padding, no frills just a lil bra because i have to wear one if i am going to be acceptable to society

Same thing for pants - trying to find pants or jeans that work for your butt, hips, stomach and thighs is a bit of an adventure.

Lord, yes. I pretty much just wear dresses and skirts unless I have to wear pants. I have these two pairs of Venezia (lol lane bryant) jeans that actually fit well -- I treasure them more than many more expensive things I own

3rd Love bras are on sale now. I ordered one for $40, which is kinda the highest in $ I'm willing to go for an untested bra.

Also the Torrid Push up/plunge bras have yielded pretty impressive boob results

i am still p happy with the Playtex 18hr no wire bras.
I mean, no great shape for normal day but not thinking abt how my bra feels or hitching anything is kind of great

help me understand the bralette

those i dont get. they look like fairy bras! i’d feel more supported wearing a bra made of kleenex

are they just for small boobs, or for wearing around the house if you don't want to be completely bra-free, or ...

also, boob trend: the weird cage bras that look Mad Max costumes

i don’t know who they are for tbh

and yeah idg the cage bras either... in my head i call them broad city bras bcz ilana wears them sometimes

but i have never really been a “showing my bra” fashion warrior tho

they are for people with small boobs
i have some strappy bralettes and some very utilitarian hanes everyday bras that are basically adult-styled training bras
my boobs are very small and they are sufficient for my needs. i've been wearing the hanes ones for a few years (and through a few summers) and i still have no complaints
i don't worry about my boobs anymore

my boobs are very small and they are sufficient for my needs
they = bras with very little structure, not my boobs in this context, although my boobs are also sufficient/good enough :)

we should all feel that our boobs are sufficient/good enough! Boob positivity only ITT.

The cage bra things are really attractive to me as objects -- like high heels are -- but once I think about wearing them, I get twinges of pain. Maybe the cage bra things are comfy? They look uncomfortable though.

hooray for sufficient boobage <3

i had no idea they were called cage bras -- that's gross :( i just think of them as decorative straps -- dnw to be caged! i have one and it's as comfortable as any other bra. way more comf than underwire.

it's like the pressure is distributed differently and also looks decorative
i would recommend them but we need to do something about the name

lattice bra?

i've also seen them advertised as "strappy"

strappy is descriptive and not confusing -- that's what i would have called them. they have extra straps. they are strappy.
also, i may add, i feel good when i wear it. i would recommend to anyone wishing to give one a try in an warmer climate than the one I live in. They are mostly useful for summer around here.

There is a local bra/lingerie shop that has moved/expanded and they do fittings! Grand opening this weekend so I am going to check it out.

I am somewhat disappointed to find I have been wearing the correct size after all. I won a prize in the opening day raffle but I don't know what it is yet.

but surely this is good, you don’t have a load of bras that are in the wrong size? Plus you’re an exception given many (most?) of us do wear the wrong size...

let us know what the prize is!

i was really into no-wire bras for a while there but after a while my boobs/upper chest started to ache from lack of support. so i got some cheapish ones from target & feel much better.

the eternal frustration is right

ones = underwire ones

Yeah, my old bras are mostly the right size but they are getting worn out. I really needed new ones!

I'm off to the shop today. This is the second raffle I've won in less than a month. Maybe I should buy lottery tickets.

I’ve been fitted several times over the years at dif places and every single time I’m the same size as the bras I’ve been wearing anyway. It *is* weirdly disappointing!

No-wire bras seem to just laugh in my face so I laugh in theirs

These are now my favorite bras: https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B01N5G307N/ref=ox_sc_saved_image_5?smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER&psc=1

Some cute colors, lightly lined, straps never fall down and don’t need to be adjusted again and again, provides nice shape, super comfy.

I got a thirdlove bra last year and it was crap. I was in the midst of a breakdown so the return window closed before I could get a refund.

Wacoal bras are great ime - i have two, similar to the one in link above, that I bought a few years ago and they’re still going strong.
Aerie (American eagle) has a nice full-coverage t-shirt style bra too. Not quite as sturdily constructed as Wacoal but decent and comfortable!

My 40th birthday present to myself was going to a fancy little boutique and getting my first ever proper bra fitting. I’m shocked to find out I’m not a 38DD/DDD but a 38/40F/GG. I got two amazing bras for an insane $210.

ooh! That’s great :) I should get fitted again one of these days...

bras in the time of COVID ...

i looked at all my bras to see if there were any appropriate rejiggering as a facemask ones. Nope.

haha i was actually thinking that it could be possible to take a bra cup and maybe use it as the mouth part for a face mask!!

So ... in general ... underwires y/n rn

I was also wondering that but feared its origins would be too obvious and nobody wants to be the mad fat old woman walking round with half a bra stuck to her face even in These Uncertain Times (TM)

yeah there was too much synthetic materials.

i was trying to envision how an underwire could function as a seal ... i did not methodically follow that thought to a sensible solution

When I have places to go, Yes underwire. But I just ordered two more wireless cup bras from Third Love yesterday bc I like the one I have and we live indoors in sweatpants now.

I've been freetitting it in the house for the last 3 years?

I am not questioning whether I am, just the time period.

videoconferencing from home: freeboob or bra?

I don't videoconference while WFH, but I put on a bra every day. Past experience has taught me that my oversized boobs get sweaty and uncomfortable very soon.

In my entire life I have never worn bras indoors but now I'm kinda feeling like SOME support is helpful now that this is something I do full-time.

i sleep on my stomach so i even out support/lifetime sag that way.

Even when I exercise now, as long as I am not doing a crazy amount of bouncing I only wear a hanes wirefree pullover bra thing.

i also think they are more evenly distributed when I don't wear a bra and when I do all the weight is pushed together and it gets sweaty that way.

a few days ago I was on a zoom call and I was just wearing a sweatshirt w/no bra, and I realized that the laptop camera angle did not go that far down so ... freeboob?