this is a good idea imo
― gr8080, Friday, 3 February 2017 01:13 (seven years ago) link
ppl bond over their shared hatred for things way more than their shared interests
they're going to have to close when they run out of Trumps
― Anthology of Literature's Finest Penis Descriptions (GOTT PUNCH II HAWKWINDZ), Friday, 3 February 2017 01:27 (seven years ago) link
read mookie's post a few times, and i think he may be my perfect partner
― mh 😏, Friday, 3 February 2017 02:52 (seven years ago) link
*blushes*
― mookieproof, Friday, 3 February 2017 02:56 (seven years ago) link
nobody's perfect
― Mother Teresa May I (darraghmac), Friday, 3 February 2017 08:53 (seven years ago) link
Hater is kind of crap - it's not just "I hate" but the spectrum from love to hate as options and the questions are even worse than I expected. How do you feel about manicures/
― Kiarostami bag (milo z), Friday, 3 February 2017 09:18 (seven years ago) link
I could use one tbh
― mh 😏, Friday, 3 February 2017 14:29 (seven years ago) link
things u hate can become an obsession tho
id hate to be with someone that obsesses about something i hate and have different levels of attention we think we ought to pay to such garbage
if i hate something i dont even want to think about it
none of this hate-watch/hate-read garbage people do these days
― F♯ A♯ (∞), Friday, 3 February 2017 19:06 (seven years ago) link
I think you just need Tinder overlaid with a half dozen 'world defining' questions - "Donald Trump: Y/N" that type of thing.
― Kiarostami bag (milo z), Friday, 3 February 2017 19:36 (seven years ago) link
Yeah Tindr would be EXPONENTIALLY more useful with just the tiniest sliver of OKC-style matching, letting me purge from the rolls the 95%+ of the local user base that I have noooooooothing in common with and who just form a horrible plaque making use of the app an enormous chore.
― stein beck ii: the wrath of grapes (Doctor Casino), Friday, 3 February 2017 20:47 (seven years ago) link
Newest changes: QuickMatch rebranded as "DoubleTake" for some reason (functionality seems identical?) and, much more irksomely, normal match search removes option to sort by "Who's New." Maybe other things?
― tales of a scorched-earth nothing (Doctor Casino), Saturday, 25 February 2017 19:08 (seven years ago) link
EWWWWWW they changed the font!!
AND the icons for "x% Ethics, x% Lifestyle," etc.
― tales of a scorched-earth nothing (Doctor Casino), Saturday, 4 March 2017 04:32 (seven years ago) link
one of a local pair of conjoined twins has an okc profile. aside from the photos she doesn't give any indication that there might be unique challenges to dating her. knowing what most women deal with, the unwanted email messages must be a nightmare.
― j., Wednesday, 5 July 2017 01:49 (six years ago) link
Did they get rid of the "visitors" tab?
― The Man Who Saw The Midwife (GOTT PUNCH II HAWKWINDZ), Friday, 28 July 2017 23:53 (six years ago) link
I still have it on desktop, but not on mobile.
― ﴿→ ☺ (Doctor Casino), Thursday, 3 August 2017 02:46 (six years ago) link
We’ve removed visitors so you can focus on better connectionsWithout the distraction of visitors, you can focus on the people who really want to get to know you. And when you’re focused on those people, your chances of higher quality connections improves.
― yellow is the color of some raisins (Doctor Casino), Tuesday, 8 August 2017 21:40 (six years ago) link
Yeah, nah, they just want you to pay for A-list
― The Man Who Saw The Midwife (GOTT PUNCH II HAWKWINDZ), Tuesday, 8 August 2017 21:40 (six years ago) link
https://theblog.okcupid.com/why-were-removing-visitors-847b00f4293d
comments are fun
― yellow is the color of some raisins (Doctor Casino), Tuesday, 8 August 2017 21:44 (six years ago) link
I mean, they have to make money somehow
I have been thinking about reactivating my profile, but the best thing would probably be to workshop the thing with a friend and make sure I'm putting my best foot forward. It seems like a lot of work, but it'd probably be worth it.
I have friends who have had some dating success with other sites, but to be honest, there's this ephemeral culture fit or niche that I still associate with okcupid and not other sites. It might be wrong? Is there anything else that you'd even half-heartedly endorse?
― mh, Tuesday, 8 August 2017 21:49 (six years ago) link
i'm getting close to finally sighing and anonymizing my profile, or turning the damn thing off. which shouldn't be a big deal at all, but i've just been on there for SO long (2004 or so?) so it just feels strange to imagine not having it. also i still meet good people off of it! but it's getting weird and i'm about to have a job where it really would be a problem if the wrong person saw my profile as currently written.
― yellow is the color of some raisins (Doctor Casino), Tuesday, 8 August 2017 21:53 (six years ago) link
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― mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Tuesday, 8 August 2017 22:13 (six years ago) link
Brother and his wife met on plentyoffish sayin
― jk rowling obituary thread (darraghmac), Tuesday, 8 August 2017 22:19 (six years ago) link
xp I’m just some goy looking for love
― mh, Tuesday, 8 August 2017 22:43 (six years ago) link
I'm just a shiksa who met her dream gu(o)y on JDate
― mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Wednesday, 9 August 2017 01:57 (six years ago) link
just as well philip roth is retired
― mookieproof, Wednesday, 9 August 2017 01:58 (six years ago) link
wait I thought your guy was jewish? xp
― mh, Wednesday, 9 August 2017 02:02 (six years ago) link
No. I was fooled for about 3/4 of our first date, after he told me about going to preschool at the JCC, but got confused after he told me about extorting his mother for an ATV (lol Texass) in exchange for finishing CCD.
Confusing times for non-Jews on JDate.
― mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Wednesday, 9 August 2017 02:05 (six years ago) link
so neither one of you was jewish but were both on jdate?!? I feel like I should be calling the authorities
― mh, Wednesday, 9 August 2017 02:07 (six years ago) link
iirc they both listed themselves as 'unorthodox' lol
― mookieproof, Wednesday, 9 August 2017 02:08 (six years ago) link
Jdate is the premier Jewish dating site for Jewish singles looking to make a great connection with other Jewish singles. Ready to make yours?
I'm calling the cops
― mh, Wednesday, 9 August 2017 02:09 (six years ago) link
I get a ton of mileage out of of the two-non-jews-meet-on-JDate story, especially given that I work at a Jewish social services agency and about 60% of my clients are Jewish!
My line with the old folks is "I tried to meet a nice Jewish boy, I got one out of two!"
― mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Wednesday, 9 August 2017 02:13 (six years ago) link
was he looking for a nice jewish girl, or was it all a ruse?
― mh, Wednesday, 9 August 2017 02:20 (six years ago) link
He took a romance pause after the end of a long-term relationship. When he was ready to date again, a friend suggest JDate vs. other dating sites, as she had some positive experiences.
She wasn't (isn't) Jewish.
― mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Wednesday, 9 August 2017 02:26 (six years ago) link
And married a non-Jew she met at work.
There is no rhyme or reason to these things. But I found JDate a very non-offputting online dating experience, though my time there was limited.
― mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Wednesday, 9 August 2017 02:27 (six years ago) link
that sounds super sketchy and weird
― Nhex, Wednesday, 9 August 2017 03:49 (six years ago) link
meanwhile back at OKC i also just noticed that the things you can be "looking for" are now down to "Short-term dating," "Long-term dating," "New friends," and "Hookup." obviously i still miss "activity partners" but it seems particularly gross and obnoxious to change "casual sex" to "hookup," particularly if "hookup" is going to be singular even as "new friends" is plural. it just sounds moronic.
― yellow is the color of some raisins (Doctor Casino), Wednesday, 9 August 2017 04:45 (six years ago) link
They're trying to compete with Tinder. Kinda unnecessarily.
― The Man Who Saw The Midwife (GOTT PUNCH II HAWKWINDZ), Wednesday, 9 August 2017 13:08 (six years ago) link
same parent company! the logical thing would be to figure out what they do that's different, which is basically the questions and the longer profiles so that people trust the matching a lot more, without it taking on the "for squares" vibe some other sites have. they just lost initiative when it came to making it a cool and universally used app, similar to what happened to flickr vs instagram. honestly if the price of a-list was a lot lower the whole thing would make more sense to me since arguably the most valuable pay feature is being able to say "I don't want to see any matches below x percent," and this is also a feature that grows organically out of their unique selling point so the marketing of it would feel like less of an old school extortion than "pay to see who likes you."
― yellow is the color of some raisins (Doctor Casino), Wednesday, 9 August 2017 13:15 (six years ago) link
oops sorry
We were alerted that white supremacist Chris Cantwell was on OkCupid. Within 10 minutes we banned him for life.— OkCupid (@okcupid) August 17, 2017
was it a shirtless mirror photo that gave him away
― j., Thursday, 17 August 2017 20:14 (six years ago) link
hang in there everyone, sometimes you get really really really lucky. and i wasn't for four years but it's worth it.
― the late great, Sunday, 20 August 2017 17:26 (six years ago) link
aww yay!yeah I've met several of the best people in my whole life on this dumb thing.the new "respond to this!" links under every single section of the profile are suuuuch bad design though
― yellow is the color of some raisins (Doctor Casino), Sunday, 20 August 2017 17:32 (six years ago) link
Aw man congrats foz.
I thought that i was going to make a similar post but it's like that one gang star song? You know, the one with the sample?
― los blue jeans, Sunday, 20 August 2017 23:39 (six years ago) link
it seems like they've just undergone some big match % inflation. everyone's match % with me has just gone up like 10-15 pts.
― circles, Tuesday, 29 August 2017 02:46 (six years ago) link
Yeah I've seen some weird boosts, too. Don't know what that's about.
― Wichita prepares for totality (GOTT PUNCH II HAWKWINDZ), Thursday, 31 August 2017 07:09 (six years ago) link
yeah something is definitely up. here's someone where i supposedly have a 97% match, but if you go to Questions, our matches in the categories on display are 89, 81, 89, 93, 92, 92. so... 97?! at this point someone has to be a 99% for me to have any faith at all in it.
― Doctor Casino, Saturday, 16 September 2017 03:35 (six years ago) link
DC have you noticed a lot of matches popping up that you hadn't seen before? I'm just wondering if they've changed an algorithm or two or what. After getting used to seeing the same twenty five people when I browse matches suddenly there are a bunch of new ones.
― Wichita prepares for totality (GOTT PUNCH II HAWKWINDZ), Saturday, 16 September 2017 04:14 (six years ago) link
idk - NYC has enough turnover on there that there are always one or two new faces around, i think. so, hard to say. could be they're being a little fuzzier with the distance math or something like that?
― Doctor Casino, Saturday, 16 September 2017 04:20 (six years ago) link