I Lost A Coughdrop in His Asshole: The ILX Gays TMI Thread

oozing, fire hydrants, pianos, love this thread.

I have to say something about this couple I've had a few interactions with, an older man in his 50s with two children who divorced and came out, a younger man in his 40s who seems a little stifled but maybe I'm reading into that. They're very typical Wasatch Front mormons in how they seem to be leading their lives, especially the older one. He can't talk about many subjects comfortably for longer than five minutes except for what people in his large extended family are doing, have done, or will do, and he relates everything back to that (this is extremely common in Mormon culture). To me he seems like an anxious mess under a thin veneer of friendliness, and I think the expectation that Mormon men be domineering and controlling but so freaking nice about it is part of the picture and something that is obviously causing him a lot of discomfort. Sex with them is rushed. They can't settle for long enough to breathe or let something honest happen. The younger one doesn't seem very enthusiastic about it but is maybe resigned to that dynamic for the sake of a protective figure who will take care of him, and maybe opening up their relationship is an attempt to deal with a lack of connection sexually. The older one seems to distractedly pursue me as a toy for his boy with a fleeting enthusiastic desperation.

It's all a little sad and off-putting, which I finally realized last night after I visited their large empty-space home in the suburbs, the kind of geometric boxy construction finished with materials popular in the 90s that housed a hundred kids I knew and their families growing up. Everything about it was weird and disconnecting. I brought a library book and left it with the younger one (who is still ten years older than me!) in spite of my better judgment so I have to go back at some point.

In the meantime I'm definitely feeling a broken heart and will be for a while I'm sure. *sigh*

:( sorry to hear about it - maybe it's best if you get your book and then skedaddle? is anything about it worth sticking around for?

My ridiculous poly scenario has resulted in me splitting from my ltr, moving to another country, taking on a new job. The high point of my day these days is a half-hour swim and five-mile run. I been casually PG-dating a new guy in my new city. Hangs and cuddles and kisses but no sexy sex.

See, I was still feeling tied-to one of the polydudes of yore (and him to me). A couple days ago I decided to put any prospective intimate relations on pause with the polydude (he lives far away anyway and his primary relationship is just fine), so I could feel free to take things with this new guy to the next step. Tough conversations, some tears, full nine steps of grief in 48 hours, but it seemed like a good decision and seemed positive.

First night seeing the new guy after making that decision that decision (the new guy is as beautiful in the face as he is picky in the eating) and I'm cooking for him and I go to grind some pepper in the sauce and he says "ohhhh I kind of hate ground pepper" and I think about all the meals I've cooked for him thus far including twice cacio e pepe (once as eggs and once as linguine) and I internally sigh and see a dead end ahead of us and I uber home alone after dessert.

:( sorry to hear about it - maybe it's best if you get your book and then skedaddle? is anything about it worth sticking around for?

― donna rouge, Tuesday, August 30, 2016 7:31 PM (one hour ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

thanks. yes to skedaddling. i'm making poor decisions at the moment but only dimly aware of it.

sorry to hear about your picky eater fgti. gay dating lyfe is a poorly regulated and unsafe rollercoaster ride.

we should do a fall thread. i promise to be civil.

btw our dinner/sex date on sunday was about as close to ideal as we could've hoped. he was v. smart, funny, interesting conversationalist, very attentive to us both, forward/assertive w/o being domineering/aggro, and the sex itself was just super-fun and sweet, and we cuddled for nearly an hour afterwards, then he called a cab. he even brought us carnations! we all seemed pretty eager to do it again sometime

that's awesome.

We had a weird one a few weeks back.

We've been looking for other couples to play with and my husband started talking to this one married guy who expressed an enthusiastic interest in the four of us getting together. Every time it was convenient for us, though, his husband was always at work or whatever, and the guy finally asked us if it would be okay if he just came over and watched us (he and his husband have rules against participating without each other, which we both wholly respect and were not going to even attempt to violate). He came over and the three of us talked for an hour or so, after which I was finally like "so...are we gonna go to the bedroom or not?"

As planned, it was my husband and I having sex while he watched, but his version of "watching" was standing like an inch or two apart from us, and constantly moving around to catch all the action. I didn't mind, but it was definitely odd and I don't understand why we didn't just all wait for his husband to be available. My husband has messaged back and forth with him a couple times since, but no plans have even come close to being set so idk.

wow, u folx are busy

fgti, i'm glad you have kinda remade things, you seemed so despairing while all that stuff was going on. wishing you well.

Thanks guys

Today was weird, polydude called me up and screamed at me for an hour, accused me of being insane, listed all these things I'd done wrong, and how I was nothing but shit in his life and his partner's, who I both consider still to be my closest friends, and I'm the sort of person who is easily convinced that all wild accusations are actually true, as insane as that was, and so I had to deal with the grief of that all day

Positive note was that picky-eater asked to hang out more in the future, and talking to him after all the fire and brimstone tasted like a bowl of cool gazpacho (odourless and tasteless gazpacho but soothing nonetheless)

literally writing out the very short voicemail i'm going to leave my new just-friend today to stay on track.

So, is this pretty much the new gay thread? Fine if it is; I'm just wondering if this is the place to post PG-rated gay stuff as well.

i cried a lot monday. felt much better yesterday and today. lots of sleep. somewhat more put together. and i think i'm finally over whoring it up to distract myself because it's not helping me at all right now. but lord i'm going to read so fucking much and eat all the nut / trail mix varieties sold by trader joe's while doing so.

xp well there isn't a fall thread and honestly imo maybe someone should break tradition and start a rolling queer life thread that people can update whenever.

or, it's technically too early for a fall thread and the seasonal thing has been sidelined for a while

Rolling Queer Life 2016

earlier this month my boy went to europe for a few weeks and i had sex w/ someone else for the first (and then second) time in like 5 years. the first time was not un-fun but i think i was too much in my own head because i was very aware of the fact that i was sort of like re-learning to ride a bike or whatever. the second time otoh was very very fun, maybe too much fun, we had very mature conversations about the whole thing but then he said a few things that i thought were a little over the line in terms of where our feelings were supposed to stop. he's cool tho & i think he was prob testing the waters or something, we still chat and i might see him again at some point.

meanwhile my boy met a guy off tinder in europe and when they started having sex he stopped cuz he said his dick was gross and weird, which i'm not sure but is funny (problematic?) nonetheless

your boy's dick was gross or weird or his?

if his, maybe it's his idea of sexxytalk

:-/

every dick is special

so i'm having some fun. i unexpectedly became the owner of 4 poppers vials including one that is pressurized: you spray it onto a towel and then huff it. uh yeah. i just tried it out solo and i'm pretty sure i've never come that fast in my life.

i randomly hooked up with a guy who turned out to be a bear bar dj visiting from dc. we did it in the back of his rented yukon on a dirt road west of the city and got spotlighted by a cop after we finished, scrambled for our clothes, gave him our ids, left with a warning. last night we got a room. i like him. i'm going to try to parlay it into a dc trip but we'll see.

apparently he had ghb but we skipped that. he's a house music producer burner tattooed beard kind of guy, went to byu years ago, sweet and smart and reassuringly corny and it's nice to know i can still connect with someone and thaw out a little.

all the djs from my white little town got turned on to it either by progressive house (90s), electro house (00s) or erasure (80s).

i'll never come to any of that music

bf and i tag teamed a cute and fun furry bottom, making that our first non-terrible threesome (the last time we tried the guy couldn't bottom, couldn't top and had a huge frizzy lion's mane of hair that kept getting in the way)

i feel like it isn't possible for a threesome to be anything but really good or really bad.

congrats on a good one

from experience, it's possible for them to be both :|

thanks! and your new confidence is heartening to see

:)

so i think i'm going to dc to hang with this guy and i feel good about it. 💯

it's on.

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where are good places to view porn. my usual stuff is boring me.

I usually rely on P0rnhub these days. The quality varies, but its got a decent range and plenty of filterable categories.

yeah same actually it's pretty decent. tumblr mostly sucks for these purposes now.

porn: almost as boring as football

tumblr has gone downhill.

i sent this dc dude my unwashed jockstrap

in a 6"x9" mailer with a mix cd 😎

well i bet the jock is fresher

6 by 9, oh my

xp i guess you can judge for yourself: Your Favorite Song On This

but n.b. i don't give a shit what you think so why not share your own tmi on this thread instead of... riding my jock.

man mailing me unwashed jock is on my list of small but realistic dreams

i've been wearing one recently, pretty fun of course tho not quite sure how to work it into my life

I've never worn one; it feels like a garter belt.

I've removed them though.

i actually like them as regular underwear and i'm pretty used to wearing them now. a friend is into them so i ground his face in the pouch, that was fun.