Letting Sleeping Dogs Lie...

I think what gets to me is that it didn't need to be -- or at least, not in my interpretation of events. You'd mentioned respect and that's certainly important. By the end, I didn't feel respected, I felt used and tossed away. Perhaps she felt the same. If we could have talked about it we might have discovered that what felt like one thing on one side, had been intended very differently from the other side and perhaps made our peace with each other. However, when one person refuses to talk, you can't make those sort of discoveries or patch up the cracks while they're still small.

JACKPOT!