no boys allowed in the room!!!!

just figure that if you're playing a standard drum set configured in the standard way, people are only gonna see you from the waist up. maybe boobs up depending on rack tom placement.

yes! def no binding, ribbons, neck shit, itchy shit, wide-legged pants (they make me look like a troll), or boots that aren't snug to the leg. skirts are probably ok if they're not snug. i don't wear heels so that's not a prob.

i have some ideas. this helps. mostly i'm looking forward to it!! i'm not anywhere near blast beats or super fast jazz so no prob there. also i am v short so i'll probably just be a neck and a head. that's ok with me!

it helps if your shoes aren't heavy. I remember going from boots to just light leather sneakers, (Zach Hill wears converse fyi) and it really helped with leg fatigue.

like I was just thinking about the parts of my body that are most engaged when drumming and those are: hands, wrists, shoulder/upper arm, feet and ankles, and to a certain extent neck and waist movement is involved.

also if something can fall off, don't wear it or secure it tightly: scarves, capes, wigs, masks (have dealt with all of these)

i'm prob just gonna wear the shoes i practice in, which are pretty light. and super ugly! they're grey orthopedic shoes like not quite SAS oxfords but close

no wigs/masks/capes this time…maybe later

The only gig clothes advice I have to give is: DO NOT WEAR FLAPPY SLEEVES.

Seriously, the first time I did a proper "out of the house" gig, I dressed up and wore this amazing paisley shirt with super-wide draping cuffs with ruffles that spilled elegantly all over the place. I thought, you know, Jimi Hendrix wore this kind of thing, so it will be OK to wear onstage, right?

NOPE. All those psychedelic dudes wore ruffled trailing sleeves in PHOTO SHOOTS. On stage, they wore more SENSIBLE sleeves which did not interfere with the STRINGS of their guitars.

So I think you already have "something without sleeves" on your list but still, I would definitely like to second that.

I just had my period 2 weeks ago & now nature has seen fit to give me a lighter "bonus" period

apparently this is a thing that happens

ugh wtf

Oh, I get those sometimes! They are fun*.

*By fun I mean incredibly painful, messy and leave you feeling like you've got no bones anaemic.

(For me, it's usually happened when my cycle was kind of resetting itself after spending a long time with someone who was in the pill or pregnant.)

yeah i read that it can also be caused by drop in hormones etc

it's not super painful thankfully but it at least explains my bloating & endless trips to the bathroom today

oof

I get "spotting" from time to time, sometimes w bloating/pain/other side effects, and a while after I last came off the pill I had a period which was p. light but seemed to go on foreverrrrr and keep resuming a day or two later every time I thought it had stopped. but nothing on that scale, it sounds horrible. bad luck, hope it goes away soon

also, "no bones anaemic" reminded me: if I talked about periods featuring a draining* sensation in the idk ovary area would people here have an idea what sensation I'm talking about? lately I have had a similar draining feeling elsewhere and I don't know how to describe it but I don't think that description is really going to help. especially not if I see a male doctor. just wondering

(* prob just my mind being a combination of overdramatic yet also overly literal)

also also I would like to thank anyone who still has the patience to counter fedora-isms on the Sw*ns thread (obv not just women but) because jfc

...yeah I regret even mentioning that candyman here. don't go looking if you hadn't already. or even if you had.

I am tired as hell and should stop talking nonsense on the internet and go to bed.

there are only two real jerks on that thread + two kinda jerks, everyone else is cool

if I talked about periods featuring a draining* sensation in the idk ovary area would people here have an idea what sensation I'm talking about?

Mmmmmaybe? Sometimes on the day before/first day of my period I have a sort of heavy feeling? Like my belly is trying to get lower to the ground than the rest of my body. I think of it as a "gravid" feeling even tho I'm not, yknow, pregnant. Maybe that has something to do w word association with "gravity" idk

I am struggling w some of my bosses who treat me poorly and micromanage me. I have noticed that I have a program partner in a similar position to me but who is a man, and they don't treat him the same way. I'm sure his gender is part of it but probably there's also the fact that since his contract depends on their approval, he never says "No" to anything they want. But I'm p sure part of it is also that he's a manly man.

Re clothes! Maybe a full skirt that is party-like? My job is near a Rainbow store, which is one of the cheap'n'cheerful teenage girl chains, do they have them in other cities? They always have fun, silly, and also body-conscious things.

http://www.rainbowshops.com/juniors-skirts/juniors-skirts,default,sc.html

ROCK AND ROLLLLL

http://s7d9.scene7.com/is/image/Chaps/medium/1307067330443060_001.jpg

rainbow is all over baltimore but only in poor places. i didn't think it would be the same store but the logo looks exactly the same. i think it's clothes for everyone, not just girls? i was surprised it existed elsewhere.

sidebar: right after I said "oh nbd its not painful" i went out for lunch and omg woooorst cramps, had to literally run for a bathroom bc cramp-diarrhea

fuck you ovaries hate u so much rn

cramps have passed now, yay

So far the only downside to having ovaries but no uterus is that whenever I feel "off" I wonder if it is PMS, but I never get the actual M to confirm my suspicions.

You ever wonder why you have the most digestive discomfort before/during your period? Apparently it's bc the hormonal messages that tell your uterus to let it all go also tangentially hit your digestive apparatus? Well now that a million things upset my digestion, sometimes the messages that tell my INTESTINES to clear the floor also hit my uterus. So I can spot when I'm feeling sick, which is just the worst of both worlds.

I hear my body's messages so much more clearly now than back when I could eat foods like a normal person.

wow i didnt know that

weird!

this is gonna sound so corny but i was in an improv scene where i got to play some fallopian tubes
it was awesome

:D

hmm thanks io, I had noticed the connection in the most obvious direction but not known why, and I think I have also noticed it going the other way but just gone "huh I have crazy hormones which hate me" (it often feels that way)

it is my guts that are giving me the mysterious slow, draining, stuff-is-leaching-out-of-me feeling that I also get during my period btw </tmi>

I see a gut dr later today but the symptoms which originally got me referred have stopped so I am just going to be like "hi I'm fine, well sometimes stuff hurts in a variety of random locations but I don't recall exactly where so we're not really going to solve any mysteries there"

has carl agatha not been around very much recently?

This is making me wonder which way my symptoms are going! Because I was always known for having a stomach of IRON. But over the past 5 years, since hitting 40 my period has been getting harsher and more irregular (more of them, unfortunately, not less). And now my gut is way more cranky than it ever was (I've been trying to work out what food or drink causes the, erm, operating system core-dump and reset) and now I'm wondering, OMG what if it's not food at all, but hormones going to the wrong place?

xp - io, the show was last friday. i went with some old standards and i was comfortable/looked alright. i've been shopping at rainbow-like stores since i was in high school -- you can find some surprisingly long-lasting garments as long as you don't wear them that much. i still wear two dresses i got at a mall store (like Deb or something) back in the early 90s. i wore one of them last week! cute/mildly trashy clothes that don't break the bank = my kind of store even though the clothes are inevitably made by sad hungry children.

in other news, i hadn't been paying much attention to my cycle and i am pleased/shocked to report that i played the show at the peak of pms and didn't wig out at all. i mean i could feel energy surging through my nervous system but it didn't feel bad. who knows, maybe it gave me added yoni power?

carl is not on ilx much these days, no :(

Oh man that thread. :( I keep trying to tell myself not to click in it any more because it is so triggery but it's like a traffic accident.

It's so frustrating, but I know that I don't have the equanimity of mind to participate, and me saying anything would make it worse. But to see the imperviousness to logic in some of these minds. I don't understand how it can be so counterintuitive. Like, the proportion of women in the general population who have experienced sexual assault is usually quoted somewhere between 1 in 4 to 1 in 9. The proportion of women with mental health issues or substance abuse issues who have experienced sexual assault, that rises to something more like 1 in 2. Like, not drawing any conclusions about correlation or causation or anything, but bringing in those kinds of issues means that simple maths, a woman is MORE likely to have experienced sexual assault - yet it's always dragged in to discredit survivors "she's crazy, she's an addict, she's unreliable" - how are you using this to supposedly discredit someone when the numbers game indicates it is statistically at least TWICE as likely?

I mean, yeah, this is just jumping up and down on my own personal issues but yeeeeeeesh. I feel gross and horrible even saying anything about it here, even knowing most of us are on the same page.

Ugh I'm going to go away and lookit something nice until that icky feeling goes away. I'm going to see 1/4 of Kraftwerk (unfortunately not the hott 1/4) tonight so that should be enjoyable at least.

operating system core-dump and reset

hahaha! I think it's just something that happens with age. Now in my 40s, my system is a lot more sensitive to rich dairy than it was when i was younger: indian food with a lot of ghee, baked goods with a lot of butter, one of my favorite brands of ice cream, some of the tastiest macaroni and cheese

alas

I mean I could probably do with some more incentive to eat better, but... not that kind thanks

also, miss you carl, hope all is well

which 1/4 of Kraftwerk is touring? (or perhaps you are just going on a date! have fun either way)

Hahaha OMG yes, I am definitely going on a date with Wolfgang Flür, that is totally what I'm doing tonight, that's my story and I am sticking to it!

(I am over the age of 19 so I think I am a little old for him, but still.)

Rusty Egan has been putting on a selection of Düsseldorf's finest in a weird venue underneath Chelsea Football Ground? It's very odd but the other week, he had Wolfgang's former bandmate Herr Rother so I am not going to complain.

oh I didn't know it was a series, I don't do London but I was tempted by M. Rother

I bought a book about krautrock in German, I do not dare look at it yet tho as it will be well beyond my meagre German skills, but I just like to own it and delude myself that one day I shall wade my way through it

oh, no more krautrock in the listings, but ESG in May

Oh, I wish you'd come! I was all alone at that gig and I could have done with some company for high-quality krautperving! I would have protected you from London's perniciousness.

Which book is it, is it that Electri_City book? I liked the look of it but my German ist sehr schlecht.

oh, I didn't know about that one! I'll add that to my mental wishlist.

I got "Krautrock" by Henning Dedekind (name is familiar but I haven't yet worked out why), though in the "people also bought..." sidebar there was another one called "Der Klang der Revolt", which looked like a more thorough examination of the cultural background of the time but also much more srs and so even more of a stretch for my German

(when I was last in Germany I bought a cheap book in German, and the shop assistant asked if I'd like a bag and I didn't understand, and I could see her thinking "if you can't answer that, how are you going to read this book?")

Haha this is what google translate is for! I'm not much beyond looking at the pictures. It's astonishing how much German I have picked up from listening to too much Krautrock, but really it's at the "understand opening instructions on Lidl products" stage not the "read an academic musical tome."

I should read more about the cultural background stuff (fascinated by Beuys and the Creamcheese Club and how they affected the music scene in Düsseldorf) but it's maybe more fun to read Wolfgang gossiping some more.

would you be interested in a book about Moebius?

APSC, i've been learning spanish using this app called duolingo (also has a great website if you don't want to use the app). i'm not a linguistics expert so i don't know how legit the teaching style is, but i'm finding it super fun and easy, very straight forward, almost like playing a game? anyway, i highly recommend it!

re periods: i've the mirena IUD for almost 18 months now i think, and my period has lightened, the terrible back pain has ceased, but i still get a very dull full-body feeling and wretched food cravings.

i just indulge myself the food cravings -- it's one day a month, occasionally two. It's usually taco bell or sushi and gelato involving salted caramel chips

^^^ I do the same. For me it isn't so much particular cravings as the compulsion to be eating something--anything--at all times for a day or two. I just go with it because hey why not.

Glad to see I'm not the only one with menstrual cycle related digestive issues. At this point, one of signs that I'm going to get my period soon is lots of farting. Sigh.

Day 2 of my period (when I had one; I still have a cycle so now I just have to guess) I totally have the trots, which my gyn said was a progesterone effect. Her only suggestion was more fiber during that time to, er, bulk things up.

I like duolingo! I was using to brush up on my French. I have to get back to it.

Someone in the Jezebel comments section mentioned eating carrots, so I'm going to try that.

i don't get specific cravings either, just a general craving to stuff my face. mine lasts about a week though - starts a couple days before my period. i've been trying not to indulge for that whole time, but fuuuuck i get so sad if i can't eat piles of food! i'm heading towards type 2 diabetes if i don't cut this shit out!

I've not had one in about 2 years. Baby + mini pill now

My chin has suddenly become spotty and I'm blaming Mirena, even though it didn't start happening till a couple of months after I got it.

I was having issues with closed comedones but using a BHA toner in the morning and an AHA cream at night has gotten rid of most of them.