Dating With Mental Illness

I found SSRIs lowered my tolerance to some extent but also made it apparently completely random, like one day on Zoloft I could drink all evening and feel not a lot, and then a few days or weeks later I might have just a couple of drinks and feel completely wrecked

but either way my mood would be at rock bottom for a couple of days after drinking so yeah, totally not recommended. wish I'd realised that sooner. anyway Joan C otm. wishing you luck monster mash but please try to cut down and take better care of yourself.

xp i did!

it's not a matter of being butthurt, it's matter of refusing to be hurt by other people's self-destructive behavior, esp. when you have no particular control over it. i should live in la-la land and pretend that if i say "gee, i really care about you as a person, and i hate to see you hurting yourself like that", it will make a fucking bit of difference?

you can isolate yourself from toxic people and still have compassion for them

ALL ALCHOLICS ARE NOT THE SAME FUCKHEAD

i'm definitely not your friend and i'm super proud of it, i still have compassion for your sorry ass, though, lol

so many ways we can be condescending to each other. i need to start prepping turkey.

we're not all friends here and nobody knows monster mash, but telling people that they're being assholes and that you wish for them to not damage themselves (& hurt others) through substance abuse are, in fact, things that friends do

did i say i didn't have compassion for him? of course i have compassion for him. unfortunately, i've found that "compassion" doesn't translate very well to ascii. look, he didn't start a thread to try and elicit empathy from strangers over the internet. as best i can tell, the man craves human touch. i can't say that me saying that my heart bleeds for him does him any good whatsoever.

let me put it another way. my friends are the people who are there to help me when i need them. if i can't be there for someone when they need me, i'm not going to insult them by claiming to be their "friend".

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ilxors sometimes have good content. but for mental illness support type stuff you're better off elsewhere. on ilx you'll get picked apart for every little error.

and mental illness is error to the people who don't got it

can't wait for the part where mm says he feels like an ass for drunk posting and then refuses to look upthread for all the people who told him to please get some help with the very pronounced alcoholism

people don't like being enablers, which is what we would be doing if we treated you more gently

there's a difference between being rude one time and a cycle of behaving badly toward others

there's also a huge difference between apologizing for bad behavior and saying "I'm mentally ill so I post things like that," acting like it's ok to do so

I just have knee-jerk loathing for public humiliation

Chrisht lads its one am and I'd ate the leg off've the lamb of God has anyone chips

darragh posting on prescription medication > drunk posts imo

Thanks man thanks

Have

Have you any chips at all

and mental illness is error to the people who don't got it

being mentally ill or alcoholic is not a free pass for assholery

and everyone on ilx is mentally ill

except darragh, i mean

there's a difference between being rude one time and a cycle of behaving badly toward others

there's also a huge difference between apologizing for bad behavior and saying "I'm mentally ill so I post things like that," acting like it's ok to do so

― μpright mammal (mh)

but don't forget that there's also a difference between having mental illness and not having mental illness

plus, i don't know anyone whom stands by any of their bad behavior.

but maybe they would stand by "bad" behavior if it was merely "off" and only perceived as bad by some people - particularly those that find error in everything or are overly sensitive.

this is purely off-topic hypothetical stuff. I'm not trying to relate this to any of monster mash's posts

no one ever deserves a free pass for assholery. just the same as no one ever requests a free pass for assholery.
and again "assholery" is in the eyes of the beholder

I find it odd that non-mentally ill people think we blame all our behaviors on the mental illness.

I think pretty much everyone blames them-self for everything

Have you any chips at all

― darraghmac, Friday, December 18, 2015 6:14 PM (17 minutes ago)

the question that has plagued mankind since day one

If I ever commit to writing anything proper its as good a start as any, that concept

xp to mookie im in OK shape but that said it runs in the family and when I say runs I mean we have county medals

if someone tells you to fuck off, you don't tell them "you of all people should understand"

hey i did post this already

Ctrl f "you of all people should understand"
Results 2: mh and mh

There's no set response to someone telling you to fuck off tbf

Ctrl f "fuck off"
Results 2: mh and mh

Correction
Results 3: mh mh and darraghghggh (dont know how to read this)

a sentiment expressed in different phrases, to be sure

when I say runs I mean we have county medals

tbh it will devastate my worldview if you succumb

makes two of us I guess bud

mm what are you drinking

1. there's a difference between "blame" and "responsibility"

2. i would suggest that asking an anonymous internet messageboard for advice is not the best course of action for medical crises.

3. the inability or disinclination of certain people to suspend their moral judgment in time of crisis is regrettable.

4. i don't think recrimination is a useful response in this instance.

I found SSRIs lowered my tolerance to some extent but also made it apparently completely random, like one day on Zoloft I could drink all evening and feel not a lot, and then a few days or weeks later I might have just a couple of drinks and feel completely wrecked

Have had similar experience on Prozac. Although my tolerance also goes up rapidly if I drink for more than 1 day in a row.

which is dangerous because in a portion of the population a number of SSRIs can be a risk factor for liver damage

1. Numbers make lists
2. Theres a point to this list that no one has ever heard before
3. It's regrettable when people cause problems or make a scene
4. Number 2 was a lie

^srry, just joking around. I dont mean to interject myself in any previous beef between clashing parties in this thread. Seeing ppl drink themselves to death sounds sucky rushomanci

guys i wish i'd read the stuff about SSRIs and alcohol about 10 years ago

Ime people with alcohol problems don't go on about how much they've drunk so far, it is a shameful secret.
My [let's call her a P.A. today] gave me my Christmas present yesterday, it was vodka in a wooden box with an etched metal plaque thingum saying "Tim, Merry Christmas, Lots of Love, Your favourite PA", i'd post a photo but I lost my phone. I gave her socks, she seemed to like them. Then we went to pub, but she was working for the Old People today so she wasn't drinking and she went home before I was ready to leave, I went to walk home and woke up in a big pile of gravel in a yard somewhere, couldn't find my phone. I'll not blame my behaviour on mental illness, maybe I'll blame it on alcohol/SSRI combination, thaks for that.
I rewrote the 12 days of Christmas song for [Her], I lost my phone with the final version but according to my scrawled notes it was something like
12 Marvel films
11 songs for Laura
10 points for style
9 Swedish meatballs
8 treats for Kenny
7 former moonmen
6 sides of Sandinista!
FIIIIVE STURRIDGE GOOOOALS
4 shots of jaeger
3 fags to get home
2 avocados
and a moothie in the key of C
(most of that is in-jokes specially for her but there you go.)
She definitely likes me, but I'm not sure if she likes me. My [uh former fiancee] was making comments about her last night, which is actually a good sign, because on experience that tends to happen with anyone who might be considering sleeping with me.
I don't know if I'll see [my P.A.] again before Christmas, I was meant to be getting lift to Pub today from [an elser] to watch Newcastle-Villa with a Geordie, but I lost my phone so I never sorted the exact arrangements out and no one turned up at my door so hey-ho (prolly dodged a bullet there tbh, that is the least appealing fixture I can imagine). She'll surely be in Pub on Christmas Eve, then I could serenade her on the Christmas karaoke that is planned, but I have prior commitments that evening. Which I'm now considering fecking off in order to go sleaze on my employee. But I never went to a good school and I don't own any nice sweaters, so I will no doubt die alone.

NV have you had actual problems with that?

it accounts for probably the worst phase of my self-destructiveness. the effects people have been describing on here - at the time, i had a vaguely guilty sense that drinking was probably just stopping the meds from working as effectively as they could.

but i learned eventually by accident, or at least i stopped doing all that shit to myself once i'd sufficiently wrecked my life.

people with alcohol problems don't go on about how much they've drunk so far

btw this is so not true as to be meaningless

true but you did cut off the ime at the start!