Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

mine says christmas, even though i have no mention of religion in my profile. they're chubby beardo dudes so far, i wonder if they'll get progressively more santa-looking until dec. 25th?

or the guy i've been talking to on there is a beard guy so i guess they think that must be my type.

― JuliaA, Thursday, December 17, 2015 12:58 PM (12 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

http://hellogiggles.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/12/22/tim-allen-the-santa-clause.jpg

tbh I think 90% of men on okcupid are beard guys now

― μpright mammal (mh), Thursday, 17 December 2015 18:59 (8 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

figures they'd be still looking

I've been back on OKC since I changed cities. I've had time off from my new job and little else to do. Two dates down, two to go. Doubt I can stomach more than that in one short period of time. 1st date was really really good (best I've been on) but then she told me she'd be busy for weeks thanks to the holidays, so I'm left to hope she'll reach out in the new year. Which seems far-fetched, given my dismal track record.

2nd date was with possibly the most boring human I've ever met in my life - she actually stated as a point of pride that she has no strong opinions about anything. OKC thinks we're a great match though so it's possible i'm also vv boring

3rd is tonight, with a probably-too-attractive filmmaker

4th and likely final is this weekend, with a girl (my age, 29) who's in an open marriage - her and her husband only date solo, blessedly. I'd normally steer very clear of this but she seems really cool and if nothing else I'm curious about her story.

this site adding auto-playing video ads might be getting us close to the final nail. i mean my whole way of browsing matches involves opening up multiple tabs, y'know, so it's just a cacophony plus "guhhh which tab is it coming from" syndrome

why don't you use adblock tho

a great feature added to recent versions of Firefox is a speaker icon that shows up on the tab of any session that plays unsolicited audio

been using an add-on to do that - didn't know FF had it natively now. nice!

chrome has it if you turn on developer mode too iirc? really useful

Chrome and FireFox both do it by default now actually

and one of them, i forget which, will let you mute the tab without opening it.

i'm a pretty primitive web-user, i admit. i think a while back ad-block was causing some malfunctions with Flickr, which I use all the time - i should try it again.

use ghostery imo, it has good controls to whitelist sites

in Firefox or Safari, clicking on the speaker icon mutes the tab without opening it. Click on slashed-out speaker to restore sound

in Chrome, right-click on the speaker icon and scroll down to 'mute tab'

the inevitable

http://www.dailydot.com/lifestyle/okcomrade-facebook-dating/

was this started by a HOOS affiliate

i have friends on it lol

https://pbs.twimg.com/media/Ce42OQjVAAEYBkt.jpg

That kind of reminds me of the (rightly monumentally stupid) idea I once had that every single person should have some kind of icon on their person that lights up when they pass another single person and like them.

is this for people who can't tell when they have a crush

the lovebit i mean; at least trayce's breaks the ice

https://pbs.twimg.com/media/CfY2FMCUAAAh9LJ.jpg

Namaste ;)

anyone want to write me a profile for this site

profiles are on their way out afaict. mine looks like moby dick compared to most of the ones i'm seeing these days. i mean it was always a bit long-winded but i feel like at least a slim majority of the new profiles i see are derived from thinking about a dating profile kinda like a tinder profile. very short and mysterious. god knows what you're supposed to write people about. i wasn't made for these times.

I'm glad we're finally winnowing it down to only the boldest, most attractive people being allowed to date.

(immediately physically attractive obv)

anyone want to write me a profile for this site

suggest lj

I've been getting more action thru OKC of late, but I suspect it has to do with the world realizing my looks and the depth of my charm.

fair point

along similar lines, i turned mine off

Did I ever mention that I got tired of trying and changed all my dating profiles to just read "I love avocados" about a year ago and haven't reopened them since

I quit in Jan, though I did write someone else's profile a month or two ago

How does that work? I mean, do you write it as if you're reviewing the person or are you Cyranoing that shit?

The former option. It hasn't had much effect on her dating life one way or another, AFAICT.

surprised this didn't get brought up:

https://www.wired.com/2016/05/okcupid-study-reveals-perils-big-data-science/

a danish "researcher" scraped the site and put up a dataset of the results of all q's w/o consent of the users

quick perusal of the guy's social media showed strong hints of being an obtuse asshole, fyi

When contacted by Motherboard for comment, Kirkegaard was dismissive, stating he “would like to wait until the heat has declined a bit before doing any interviews. Not to fan the flames on the social justice warriors.”

"unscientific discussion" seems to follow the "I believe in science, not morality" stance a bunch of jerks have been taking lately

wired says he took the set down; when i saw this blowing up a couple weeks ago he hadn't yet. which i guess means there's no way to know if your shit's out there.

here's his twitter

https://twitter.com/KirkegaardEmil

don't have a link rn but there is a way to check; someone put up something iirc on github to allow you to srch the dataset by username just to check. guy is obviously a p.o.s. & the ramifications of this/seeming lack of oversight by his academy are rly horrifying i think.

i think he was doing the "research" on his own as an amateur; his degree program is in an unrelated field. or something.

back on here, seems like there are way more spam bots now eh

q:

did 'kiddo'/'kiddos' start being used in possessives / as a direct object ('my kiddos' / 'i have a kiddo'), rather than being used as a term of address to one's kids, as a form of dating profile evasive maneuver? i don't see it so much elsewhere but it seems like the norm on this kind of site now.

Waitamo, that data scraper dude's excuse was 'tough tits, data is already public", but it isnt, unless things have changed. Most people have their profile set to only be visible to others with OKC logins. Not to the ehole world.

I think kiddo is more of a general (American) English usage these days. My co-worker refers to her daughter as "the kiddo" like, daily. She's not on OKC, either.

So...when you get friendly, polite messages from people you're just not interested in based on their profile, the preferred response is:

a) Ignore the messages.
b) Engage with what was said, but add that you're not interested.
c) Just say you're not interested.
d) Other.

I've gotten a few of these and don't want to be mean, but I also don't want to spend a bunch of emotional energy on people I don't at least find kind of cute to begin with :/

imho nobody is ever even slightly obligated to respond to messages on dating sites. i get the impulse sometimes, and every so often i do send what i hope is a polite no-thank-you, but basically if you were obligated, the obligation would be endless. you don't know them and you don't owe them anything, and i feel most of them would understand the same etiquette if the positions were reversed.

that's probably reasonable. lol, honestly this kind of thing can be more anxiety-producing for me than actual dates.

http://nymag.com/thecut/2017/02/hater-dating-app-will-match-you-based-on-mutual-dislikes.html

perhaps the partner of my dreams also hates being awake, being sober, and leaving the house

Hater should have its own thread imho

I posted that link a minute before you on another thread.

oh wait, mine was to a vice article about the same thing n/m