― jesus nathalie (nathalie), Sunday, 24 October 2004 14:44 (nineteen years ago) link
― mark p (Mark P), Sunday, 24 October 2004 14:53 (nineteen years ago) link
― kjh, Sunday, 24 October 2004 17:19 (nineteen years ago) link
― Kissing Time At The Pleasure Unit (kate), Monday, 25 October 2004 07:20 (nineteen years ago) link
― PinXorchiXoR (Pinkpanther), Monday, 25 October 2004 09:38 (nineteen years ago) link
― Kissing Time At The Pleasure Unit (kate), Monday, 25 October 2004 09:39 (nineteen years ago) link
― PinXorchiXoR (Pinkpanther), Monday, 25 October 2004 09:43 (nineteen years ago) link
― the surface noise (slight return) (electricsound), Monday, 25 October 2004 10:05 (nineteen years ago) link
― PinXorchiXoR (Pinkpanther), Monday, 25 October 2004 10:07 (nineteen years ago) link
― Starry (hello chickens), Monday, 25 October 2004 10:16 (nineteen years ago) link
(but yeah, any happy relationship that requires no work at all is either between incestuous identical twins or is a lie)
― Markelby (Mark C), Monday, 25 October 2004 10:44 (nineteen years ago) link
― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Monday, 25 October 2004 13:04 (nineteen years ago) link
― M.O.M.U.S. (Barima), Monday, 25 October 2004 13:45 (nineteen years ago) link
clonie!
― manthony m1cc1o (Anthony Miccio), Monday, 25 October 2004 13:47 (nineteen years ago) link
that'd be the creepiest ever.
― ken c (ken c), Monday, 25 October 2004 13:49 (nineteen years ago) link
― Alba (Alba), Monday, 25 October 2004 13:59 (nineteen years ago) link
Good luck to you, whoever you are.
― luna (luna.c), Monday, 25 October 2004 15:13 (nineteen years ago) link
So then I asked, "So you do want to move out, right?"and started to bob her head like "yeah sure" but her lower lip began to tremble and this crack in the facade was immediately followed by crying.
So, I think this will be the talk that stops this kind of behavior in the future. We both realized that we just had a vicious cycle thing going but in both of our heads we were thinking, "what's his/her problem?"
I came up with some really "gay" solutions that just might work. The first part is something my dad used to do: a kiss when we leave and a kiss when we come back, so that when we walk in the door we don't misinterpret a bad mood as "I hate you for some reason." Secondly, she has to stop the silent treatment stuff and tell me what's wrong. We agreed to that so she knows we can't slide into old habits. And thirdly, the obvious: don't go to bed mad (or at least try).
We're basically just trying to avoid miscommunication, not entirely quashing our right to be angry with each other once in a while. When we started talking about what the hell the problem was, it became obvious that she thought I didn't like her. She probably thought this because I would come home to the silent treatment so often, I just stopped pussyfooting around her. So, she'd be in a bad mood one night and we'd go to bed annoyed with each other. Then, I'd come home the next night expecting her to still be a rag and kind of snubbing her.
But, after we discovered the problem, it took away all the feelings of "fuck this bullshit" that I had for the relationship. So now, obviously, I won't be using LavaLife and I'm right back to feeling like I'm in a sold, meaningful relationship again. We have so little drama, but I guess there's bound to be a few snags here and there.
Thanks for your helping me think this through during those crucial hours on Saturday. I'm really glad you all weren't saying "fuck that noise" and rather encouraging me to talk it over with her.
― Mr. Clean Break, Monday, 25 October 2004 19:48 (nineteen years ago) link
― Sarah McLusky (coco), Monday, 25 October 2004 19:53 (nineteen years ago) link
― Mr. Clean Break, Monday, 25 October 2004 21:24 (nineteen years ago) link
― Michael White (Hereward), Monday, 25 October 2004 21:41 (nineteen years ago) link