ILX Parenting 5: I'm a big kid now

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She's had a balance bike since she was three but she never got the hang of it and hates it. She loves her scooter, but has asked for a bike for this birthday. I think she wants training wheels so we'll probably start off with them I guess.

Immediate Follower (NA), Monday, 6 July 2015 17:45 (five years ago) link

She can be really brave about some things and really cautious about other things. I really don't want to buy her a bike and then have her not use it because she's too scared to learn to ride without training wheels.

Immediate Follower (NA), Monday, 6 July 2015 17:45 (five years ago) link

I think we took my big kid's training wheels off at 6. I had mine taken off at six, and after about 10 minutes had an accident that kept me afraid of bikes for a whole year.

how's life, Monday, 6 July 2015 17:49 (five years ago) link

We told her day care to stop making her sleep at nap time because there won't be naps when she starts kindergarten in September. So after several days of no naps, she got so overtired, especially in the afternoon. She threw a huge fit on Saturday because we were going to go to Dairy Queen and she wanted to try Dairy Queen but also wanted to get ice cream from the ice cream truck, and it didn't matter that the ice cream truck wouldn't be coming because it was a holiday, because we could go to the store where the ice cream truck gets its ice cream because she really wants to try the Sour Patch Kids ice cream that the ice cream truck has etc etc. She had another fit this morning about getting dressed so I had to eventually physically restrain her so I could dress her. Really hope she gets used to the lack of naps soon.

Immediate Follower (NA), Monday, 6 July 2015 17:56 (five years ago) link

Seems cruel that there's no naps in kindergarten. Or high school. Or work.

from batman to balloon dog (carl agatha), Monday, 6 July 2015 17:58 (five years ago) link

I feel like if Evie wants training wheels, there's no harm in using them. Contrary to Papa Agatha's opinion, I don't think training wheels will make her inherently weak.

from batman to balloon dog (carl agatha), Monday, 6 July 2015 17:59 (five years ago) link

Fun fact: my dad actually did that thing where he threw me in the deep end of the pool because while I could hold my own in the shallow end, I was scared to go over my head. That one ended up okay. I swam back out and I still love the water to this day but I haven't spoke to my father in 15 years so.

from batman to balloon dog (carl agatha), Monday, 6 July 2015 18:01 (five years ago) link

V learned how to ride without training wheels at 6 1/2 iirc. getting her to even try it was a total nightmare but she got it within a day or two.

Οὖτις, Monday, 6 July 2015 19:52 (five years ago) link

I learned to ride on training wheels but the famous story in my family is that a few years later my little sister decided she wanted to ride, so she just got on my bike, tried to ride, and kept trying & falling off in the front yard until she figured it out

which was rad!

but it had the added effect of bumping my sister up to John Wayne status and made me feel like a lame for learning on training wheels lol

difficult-difficult lemon-difficult (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 6 July 2015 21:55 (five years ago) link

I had your little sister's experience. I got a bike for xmas when I was 5 and spent the entire day banging myself up out in the street until I finally got it right. No John Wayne status though. That shit was just expected. Not the funnest way to spend xmas.

smoochy-woochy touchy-wouchy, (sunny successor), Tuesday, 7 July 2015 18:09 (five years ago) link

the same balance bike was used by boy 1 & boy 2 and they both graduated to a pedal bike at age 3

i am philosophically opposed to scooters which is kind of absurd

transparent play for gifs (Tracer Hand), Tuesday, 7 July 2015 20:52 (five years ago) link

Haha I feel the same about scooters.

I'm def pro balance bike for under 5s

smoochy-woochy touchy-wouchy, (sunny successor), Tuesday, 7 July 2015 21:20 (five years ago) link

Haha I feel the same about scooters.

I'm def pro balance bike for under 5s

smoochy-woochy touchy-wouchy, (sunny successor), Tuesday, 7 July 2015 21:20 (five years ago) link

Aidan went the balance bike, riding pedal bike at 4, Molly totally prefers the scooter, goes painfully slow on the balance bike and is rapidly reaching the point where she's too big for it (she's 4) so I'm starting to wonder whether she'll want to go down the stabiliser route

vickyp, Thursday, 9 July 2015 09:50 (five years ago) link

my kiddo has had a pretty horrible day, 2-hour each way car journey that he was mostly awake for and fed up. Tetchy all day. Now keeps rolling back to front in bed! First time he's done it and a bit unsettling for me... been turning him back each time but it's weird how he's suddenly doing it.

kinder, Thursday, 9 July 2015 20:59 (five years ago) link

is it time to start a new thread yet? this one's over 5000 posts...

in other news, as much as I love Kraftwerk, I am really sick of listening to Man-Machine twice a day, need to get my son obsessed w some other album

Οὖτις, Thursday, 9 July 2015 21:02 (five years ago) link

Has he gone through a Kings of the Wild Frontier phase yet?

I Am Curious (Dolezal) (DJP), Thursday, 9 July 2015 21:05 (five years ago) link

ha I should try that. I seriously have no idea why he glommed onto Man-Machine, it feels totally random. He flails his little arms like he's doing the robot when he wants to listen to it.

Οὖτις, Thursday, 9 July 2015 21:17 (five years ago) link

I second the call for a new thread.

from batman to balloon dog (carl agatha), Thursday, 9 July 2015 21:54 (five years ago) link

:/

Jeff, Thursday, 9 July 2015 23:39 (five years ago) link

I had a hunch and tried to get my littlest one into Bow Wow Wow one day, but she didn't go for it.

how's life, Thursday, 9 July 2015 23:41 (five years ago) link

I thought Shonen Knife would be a little kid's dream band, was wrong about that

as verbose and purple as a Peter Ustinov made of plums (James Morrison), Friday, 10 July 2015 02:15 (five years ago) link

worked for us, my daughter loves Shonen Knife

Οὖτις, Friday, 10 July 2015 15:48 (five years ago) link

am attempting to wean son off of Man-Machine and onto Ten Ragas to a Disco Beat, so far so good

Οὖτις, Friday, 10 July 2015 15:48 (five years ago) link

The first time Stet played Oxygène to F it blew his mind.

Madchen, Friday, 10 July 2015 15:52 (five years ago) link

This one's also popular.

Madchen, Friday, 10 July 2015 15:53 (five years ago) link

So... anybody have any tips on how to ameliorate the total shit show that brushing teeth/putting on clothes has now become? I basically have to put the poor child in a leg lock, then hold her arms down with my forearm to brush her teeth, and putting shirts is clearly torture as she has become screamingly ideologically opposed to clothing in general.

from batman to balloon dog (carl agatha), Friday, 10 July 2015 16:09 (five years ago) link

She had another fit this morning about getting dressed so I had to eventually physically restrain her so I could dress her.

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Immediate Follower (NA), Friday, 10 July 2015 16:17 (five years ago) link

So no.

Immediate Follower (NA), Friday, 10 July 2015 16:17 (five years ago) link

Get her dressed while she's still sleeping.

Jeff, Friday, 10 July 2015 16:18 (five years ago) link

Charts have worked to help us encourage some behavior. A list of things she needs to do (brush teeth, get dressed, etc.) and if she does a good job on all those things for a week or two, she gets a reward. I don't know if this is "good parenting" though because the desired behavior often tapers off once the reward is given and the chart is no longer being updated.

Immediate Follower (NA), Friday, 10 July 2015 16:19 (five years ago) link

Ivy's too young for charts, or reasoning such as, "You can't go to daycare without a shirt on. We are not hillbillies."

from batman to balloon dog (carl agatha), Friday, 10 July 2015 16:25 (five years ago) link

F was totally refusing to have his teeth brushed until I changed up how we did it. Now I take him through to the bathroom and hold him in my arms while we do it at the sink like grown-ups. Now he comes toddling over to me at bedtime doing the "brush teeth" sign and looking excited.

He also went through a phase of hating getting dressed; I think a big part of that is because apparently when teething lying on your back makes it much worse. Trying to keep him upright as much as possible during dressing definitely seemed to help.

stet, Friday, 10 July 2015 16:28 (five years ago) link

Now that you mention it, Ivy does better at teeth brushing when we do it in the bathroom. Although she has screaming shit fits whenever I try to wash her hands and face so I don't know.

from batman to balloon dog (carl agatha), Friday, 10 July 2015 16:35 (five years ago) link

huh dunno Judah loves gettin his teeth brushed. have yet to use actual toothpaste but it's clear he just wants to do what his big sister/parents do which is stand in front of the sink, look in the mirror, etc.

Οὖτις, Friday, 10 July 2015 16:35 (five years ago) link

P-q

UYD: Oxys, Percs, Vics, Addys, Rit-Dogs and Xannys (sunny successor), Saturday, 11 July 2015 23:11 (five years ago) link

how do i make it sleep for 3 consecutive hours

an asteroid could hit the planet (Sufjan Grafton), Wednesday, 15 July 2015 00:09 (five years ago) link

Still not entirely sure you do.

Nora did 7:30 to 11:30 last night, then until 1:30, then approx 4am, then 6:45. That's a good night. She's in her own room now.

Hey Bob (Scik Mouthy), Wednesday, 15 July 2015 08:23 (five years ago) link

my sympathies.

both my boys have discovered headphones. much hilarity at the broken acapella singalongs. "but the chair is not my son!!"

transparent play for gifs (Tracer Hand), Wednesday, 15 July 2015 08:55 (five years ago) link

that's how that song goes, though

...what?

I Am Curious (Dolezal) (DJP), Wednesday, 15 July 2015 13:13 (five years ago) link

F has done one of those sudden physical and mental leaps that leaves you looking at him going "who has taken my baby and left this broadly similar kid in his place?".

Pro: he seems to be sleeping massively better. Con: I can see the terrible twos brewing.

stet, Wednesday, 15 July 2015 13:16 (five years ago) link

Yesterday when I was FaceTiming with my wife and kids, J started saying "book" and began crying when my wife gave him the wrong one. Meanwhile, D gave the phone a fist bump when I asked him for one. These are astonishing little dudes IMO.

I Am Curious (Dolezal) (DJP), Wednesday, 15 July 2015 13:18 (five years ago) link

Oh man, that's adorable.

outis made a new parenting thread btw. ILX Parenting 6: "Put Some Goddamn Pants On Before You Go Outside!" is a thing I say now

how's life, Wednesday, 15 July 2015 13:26 (five years ago) link


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