I don't know if I can date anyone who's into rap music ironically
― 龜, Friday, 3 April 2015 15:33 (nine years ago) link
I hear you there
― mh, Friday, 3 April 2015 15:35 (nine years ago) link
lol dayo
― Nhex, Friday, 3 April 2015 16:11 (nine years ago) link
I would agree if "ironically" modified "date"
― the increasing costive borborygmi (Dr Morbius), Friday, 3 April 2015 16:14 (nine years ago) link
strongly considering redoing my bio using nothing but fall lyrics
you won't find anything more ridiculous than this new profile
― mookieproof, Friday, 3 April 2015 16:48 (nine years ago) link
initial message should def. be "hey there fuckface"
― erry red flag (f. hazel), Friday, 3 April 2015 17:38 (nine years ago) link
lol
― Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Friday, 3 April 2015 17:43 (nine years ago) link
haha
― goole, Friday, 3 April 2015 17:44 (nine years ago) link
too much romantic here
message for ya! message for ya!
― mookieproof, Friday, 3 April 2015 17:48 (nine years ago) link
:D
― Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Friday, 3 April 2015 18:40 (nine years ago) link
Became a recluse, bought a computerSet it up in my homeElusive big one
― ^^^ NOT METAL (GOTT PUNCH II HAWKWINDZ), Friday, 3 April 2015 23:12 (nine years ago) link
nsfw-ish:https://41.media.tumblr.com/c7008efe0de87b0b4ae877e3446a62c3/tumblr_nhqu34gSGg1rsxqqio1_1280.jpg
― painfully alive in a drugged and dying culture (DavidM), Sunday, 5 April 2015 21:35 (nine years ago) link
bold choice
― deej loaf (D-40), Tuesday, 14 April 2015 02:16 (nine years ago) link
They call me.... Tim.
http://images.fanpop.com/images/image_uploads/Tim-monty-python-and-the-holy-grail-591629_800_441.jpg
― 'come around to your house and fuck your ho' (paraphrase) (Bananaman Begins), Tuesday, 14 April 2015 06:42 (nine years ago) link
Ah wait someone already did that in response to same picture pierre menard to thread
― 'come around to your house and fuck your ho' (paraphrase) (Bananaman Begins), Tuesday, 14 April 2015 06:43 (nine years ago) link
I spent an evidently not-small amount of time organizing my profile so that it lists "things I like" in ascending order of sentence length, and then lists "things I dislike" in descending order, so that the two lists are symmetrical. I don't know if this comes off as bored and pathetic, hyper-OCD crazy, or else looks cool?
I'm also starting to question my technique of hiding profiles I'm not interested in. While hiding people I decidedly don't intend to message or hypothetically respond to makes browsing matches a zillion times easier, I just checked and have apparently hid over 2500 profiles (!) which seems pretty sad in a pathetic and bored, hyper-OCD way. Ugliness and awful personality aside, I think this may also explain why I never get any messages or profile views. Ugh, how am I so bad at using this site?
― ed.b, Thursday, 23 April 2015 21:14 (nine years ago) link
they should sell an a-list service of filtering out ppl who lived in brooklyn for x years but now are 'back'
― j., Tuesday, 2 June 2015 16:20 (eight years ago) link
http://www.vox.com/2015/7/6/8900487/race-multiracial-dating-study
― 龜, Monday, 6 July 2015 20:47 (eight years ago) link
just came across a profile that was just too suspiciously long. dumped it into Word for a count: just shy of 20k words
― goole, Tuesday, 7 July 2015 02:12 (eight years ago) link
what are people even doing out there.
daaaaamn
I'm back out there. Reopened an account I closed last year, really need to clean it the hell up. You'd think my self-presentation would be a little more stable across less than a year but ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
hopefully some stories for the thread denizens soon
― Upright Mammal (mh), Tuesday, 7 July 2015 02:29 (eight years ago) link
update: deleted all the vague boring semi-twee personal shit and changed my username
― Upright Mammal (mh), Tuesday, 7 July 2015 21:54 (eight years ago) link
Not to Upright Mammal, I hope.
― nickn, Tuesday, 7 July 2015 23:04 (eight years ago) link
it's good
― Upright Mammal (mh), Tuesday, 7 July 2015 23:45 (eight years ago) link
museum of the poor souls in purgatory
― los blue jeans, Sunday, 16 August 2015 02:36 (eight years ago) link
so you signed up
― a poetic ODE to FORNICATION (GOTT PUNCH II HAWKWINDZ), Sunday, 16 August 2015 07:53 (eight years ago) link
promising 5.5 hour first date, now living the cliche of who contacts whom next. Feeling like it should be him as he messed up timing of date 1 and then start time of rescheduled date 1.
― ljubljana, Monday, 31 August 2015 14:31 (eight years ago) link
It SHOULD be but he will doubtless mess that up too so save yourself the anxiety of waiting.
― mick signals, Monday, 31 August 2015 15:39 (eight years ago) link
yeeeeeah maybe on Wednesday or so? date was Friday.
― ljubljana, Monday, 31 August 2015 20:03 (eight years ago) link
So. Date was Friday and he suggested a second date at the end of it, specifically, coffee and a walk. I texted him on Monday (did not hold out any longer despite above bravado) to suggest a location. Now it is Wednesday.
All his previous communications about timing screw-ups have been very effusive and apologetic, so it seems a bit out of character to just disappear. There's always the Lost Phone Possibility, but nah. He has (of course) looked at OKC since Friday, so he hasn't fallen under a bus. Is it even possible to just straight up not notice a text?
I guess it's more likely that he is a gaslighting fool. If I haven't heard by the weekend, would it be too demeaning to write and say 'I'm taking the silence as 'I'm no longer interested', correct?'
― ljubljana, Wednesday, 2 September 2015 12:26 (eight years ago) link
yeah don't write that
― johnny crunch, Wednesday, 2 September 2015 12:57 (eight years ago) link
yeah :/ almost impossible to get the tone right.
― ljubljana, Wednesday, 2 September 2015 13:10 (eight years ago) link
Technology enables people to be new and exciting types of asshole, expressing any emotion about it is a sign of weakness. Welcome to our shitty future.
― We Boo... The Cross (GOTT PUNCH II HAWKWINDZ), Wednesday, 2 September 2015 13:10 (eight years ago) link
ljubljana - make your own plans for the w/end if you can, assuming the worse. If he gets back you can always put him back a week later.
― xyzzzz__, Wednesday, 2 September 2015 13:30 (eight years ago) link
Yeah, I'll definitely make my own plans in the meantime. I'm just wondering whether it's even possible that people actually manage to miss texts.
― ljubljana, Wednesday, 2 September 2015 13:31 (eight years ago) link
may be possible but essentially no
― johnny crunch, Wednesday, 2 September 2015 13:34 (eight years ago) link
No.
Also this person can always log on via a laptop and email something.
― xyzzzz__, Wednesday, 2 September 2015 13:43 (eight years ago) link
a fool imo
― mookieproof, Wednesday, 2 September 2015 13:53 (eight years ago) link
^
yeah. ugh, frustrating.
― JuliaA, Wednesday, 2 September 2015 13:58 (eight years ago) link
yeah. you are all OTM. I may message something for closure purposes in order not to imagine myself in a dating sitcom where he thinks I wasn't interested enough to contact him (he was kind of effusive about me at the end of the date, I didn't know what to say back and just said yes, it would be nice to meet again). But in all overwhelming likelihood a fool.
Setting up another date to distract myself.
― ljubljana, Wednesday, 2 September 2015 14:37 (eight years ago) link
not you -- him!
― mookieproof, Wednesday, 2 September 2015 14:49 (eight years ago) link
effusive is sometimes lovely! but...i've become cynical about this. sometimes that kind of enthusiasm can be a weird manipulative thing.
effusive & also flaky? yes, write this guy off.
hope new dates are less confusing/frustrating.
― JuliaA, Wednesday, 2 September 2015 14:52 (eight years ago) link
the effusiveness isn't reliable. when I'm nervous I do that and it's a reflex; totally unrelated to how I actually feel.
― erry red flag (f. hazel), Wednesday, 2 September 2015 15:17 (eight years ago) link
this sucks ljub, i'm sorry.
i have to say, tho: "so it seems a bit out of character to just disappear." i dunno about that; it's in-character for anyone to just disappear. the "rules" as they have been drilled into me are that after only 1 date nobody owes anyone any communication.
― goole, Wednesday, 2 September 2015 15:36 (eight years ago) link
This guy only just sounds flaky. Which, you know, even though he's into you and you're into him, would you even be prepared to put up with this kind of shit?
― just1n3, Wednesday, 2 September 2015 16:07 (eight years ago) link
I'm the kind to miss texts if they pop up while I'm doing something and I already have another one unread so my Unread indicator doesn't trigger anything for me.. but I'm a total flake
― she started dancing to that (Finefinemusic), Wednesday, 2 September 2015 18:04 (eight years ago) link
I was in a similar situation a couple months ago, wherein after an endless string of obviously "ehh" dates w/ various people I met thru OKC, I actually had a really fun one wherein there was some uh anecdotal evidence to suggest I was safe in assuming we'd have another, then when I texted her I got no reply ever. I asked multiple friends independently if a followup text would be at all warranted and received multiple independent HELL NOs so I left that shit alone. It STILL kinda bugs me tbh
― the naive cockney chorus (Simon H.), Wednesday, 2 September 2015 18:18 (eight years ago) link
The other bit of recent OKC fun that has led to my latest long break - about 1.5-2 months ago I started msging with this girl who seemed almost cartoonishly cool, and after a volley of unusually long messages I asked if she'd be down for a meetup, and she said sure but she didn't even know my name! So we exchanged names, and then...just kept talking. Reliably messaging back and forth every 2-3 days, in longform (by OKC standards). Then after a while I brought it up again and she said she'd be moving to a new place and visiting family for the following week or so, but definitely when she gets back. I figure I should wait to see if she actually cares enough to message when she returns. Then she does indeed send a message upon returning, like clockwork, but again makes no mention of a meetup. After a couple more messages it becomes clear that she expects a third ask? Or to keep avoiding the idea forever?
I uh disabled my acct instead. I foresaw no good end.
― the naive cockney chorus (Simon H.), Wednesday, 2 September 2015 18:26 (eight years ago) link
you were right
― Nhex, Wednesday, 2 September 2015 18:29 (eight years ago) link
i've had two incidents on the site where i struck up a convo with a really cool looking person who seemed initially enthusiastic about meeting but when it came time to nail down times & places clammed up and then eventually deleted (or blocked me, i think it looks the same). i suspect phishing? or something shady? i suppose it's hard to differentiate it from run-of-the-mill pre-dating inertia, but in both cases they were "new to town" or the similar users section was all women from some other part of the country. i've been off it for a while now, that was def a reason.
is it me or is this site basically dying? being killed by tinder? i've peeked in every now and again with a friends' dummy account and the userbase seems way smaller and more stagnant than what i remember when i first tried it.
― goole, Wednesday, 2 September 2015 18:35 (eight years ago) link