I Lost A Coughdrop in His Asshole: The ILX Gays TMI Thread

picked the best moment to decide to start posting again, thx fellas

I wish I had some fun TMI to share! >: (

OH WAIT I DO!!

I ate my fuck buddy's ass the other day and then washed up afterwards and went straight to a dinner party, but 30 seconds after I left his apartment I realized that I'd forgotten to wash my face, and I was going to a dinner party where I would hug-and-kiss everyone hello with my whiskers smelling like ass!! How gauche!

Luckily I stopped at a bar on the way and got a shot and a beer and a good face-scrubbing in the bathroom and all was okay.

Can someone just schedule me for a foursome? I promise I'll show up.

I've posted in this thread 25 times.

will golf do?

kisses from new orleans y'all, i'm having the time of my life already <3

we're thinking of going to a leather bar down the road sometime this week. would be my first!

gee, that didn't seem particularly TMI

okay, i'll dish: we fucked like vikings. :D

Hm.

why do anonymous craigslist bjs still sound exciting and i'm 32 in a decent relationship.

i want to get laid more than once a month with someone who can relax enough to take and enjoy my dick.

monarghamy

i'm terrified i'll lose what i have if i open it up. which is: an hour or two of total contentment once or twice a week. and lots of unfulfilled ideals.

How far is it from SLC to Philly?

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that was a rough night. all you guys are rad. time to go convince myself everything is peachy. :). i need to have A Talk but i'm not sure if i go with a) i'm committed to you but i'm not getting enough sex and i want to open it up or b) it's time to move on. i love him but there are compatibility issues that are not being resolved. sorry for liveblogging relationship problems in the coughdrop-in-butthole thread.

i'm committed to you but i'm not getting enough sex and i want to open it up

this is 100% a reasonable discussion to have in a gay relationship imo and if he draws a line in the sand on that then you might have to move onto conversation b

j0rdan otm, that is some serious #realtalk and obviously your situation is prob complex and multi-faceted but at the end of the day, I think j0rdan's reduction is still otm: that IS a 100% reasonable discussion to have and it is a p crucial aspect of a relationship, especially if there as imbalance of desires.

i think that in a healthy relationship you should at least be able to talk about the notion of opening it up, if one person wants to

if one side explodes at the mere notion that's a problem imo, unless the other person is totally on the same wavelength

There isn't a single relationship I've endured in which the other guy hasn't balked at the idea. I think I'm Dracula or something.

balking at the idea is a fair reaction, i guess, but one must accept that they're giving the person who wants to open it up a reason to leave the relationship

good luck matt

j0rdan, if u and the bf are home do you want to go to the Bathsalts drag show at Don Pedro's on Mon night?

i'll ask him!

it's what all the young(ish) bklyn queers are doing apparently

obv not an expert on the gay aspect of relationships and def not an expert on the non-monogamy discussion but matt are you in love with this guy or do you just love him bc you've known him so long and you're somewhat comfortable? do you really want to be in the relationship bc of him or just bc it's hard thinking about life outside of it? you mentioned the sex thing but you also mentioned other incompatabilities - knowing when to end a relationship or when to just put extra work in is really fuckin hard, but i hope you can figure this stuff out and be happier bc you seem like an awesome guy who deserves a great relationship.

(also sorry for creeping on the gay thread, but it's not like any straights are posting interesting sex stuff on the regular tmi thread)

NO HETEROS ALLOWED IN THE ROOM!!

j/k we <3 just1n3 and that is also v sage, v otm advice

If you're into the guy you're with and see a distant future with him, you're surely gonna be going through a lot worse shit than a "baby I want more ass than you can give me" conversation. I wouldn't hesitate or even make it a big thing.

i would say "suggest a threesome" but it kinda sounds like boo is sort of lame at sex and that's part of the problem?

hehe a little bit. i had conversation b and i think we're both pretty relieved though it's hard and there's a lot of emotion. we've sort of been moving towards friendship anyway. we both still care about each other a lot.

thank you guys, j0rdan and justine and etc., for the feedback. it helped me stick with the right way to go.

i don't think he's lame at sex, but other incompatibilities and the resulting resentments have really affected his ability to have it.

did he lose a coughdrop in his...?

yes

good for you! ime it's hard enough leaving an abusive relationship with someone you hate, let alone letting go of someone you actually still care a great deal about, and who is a good person.

how does one respond when a dude you've previously hooked up with asks "what are you into?"

'remembering things'

ugh xp lol

i hate the question regardless

i tell them things I am actually into i.e. Love & Rockets comics, Almodovar, 80's techno, shakshuka, puns

same person also asked me if i have any more pics to trade -- dude you've just about seen all there is!

Maybe he meant "pics of trade."

after some soul searching and honest talk we're gonna hang in there. bewildering x-mas spirits.

gl

thanks

Had a pretty awesome afternoon hookup with a whipsmart younger man. Afterward when we did a couple shots of Jack he said to me:

"You drink like a pussy"

"You are so gay"

Hoping for fuckbuddy status.

also, I gave him a hickey, and i think he broke my shower nozzle

:-)

Long story about my crazy last couple of days that, I suppose, contains a minority TMI detail: I wound up in the hospital Thursday night with appendicitis, requiring immediate surgery (thankfully, it hadn't yet ruptured, so it was simply a matter of removing it). Earlier in the day, well before I had any clue that any of this was about to go down, my bf had talked me into wearing a yellow jock strap (this one, if the visual helps make the story funnier/more embarrassing) for, um, later. Once I knew that I was going to be having surgery, and hearing that he and my mom were both on their way to the hospital, I texted him with a list of things I wanted him to bring me from home, including some more conservative underwear, given what I knew about the revealing nature of hospital gowns. Unfortunately, the nurse had me change into the gown before the two of them arrived, so i thought the hell with it and shoved the jock in among my jacket and other clothing that they had given me to store my belongings. They finally show up just as I'm about to be wheeled into the OR, and I go in for surgery. The next day, after he picks me up from the hospital, he tells me that the nurse had handed my mom the bag with my belongings in it, and that there was a moment where, looking in the bag, my mom spotted the jock, and laughed. More an instance of TMI for my mom to receive, I suppose, but mildly mortifying for me nonetheless.

She probably thought "YESSSSSS"