Having plenty of money and a roommate who cleans, I guess.
― Orson Wellies (in orbit), Tuesday, 25 November 2014 18:49 (nine years ago) link
Let me just tell you many of my childhood daydreams were based on Star Wars. I was not Princess Leia in them tho. I made up my own character so there would be an even balance of girls & boys (Luke, Leia, Han, me--obv).
― Orson Wellies (in orbit), Tuesday, 25 November 2014 18:50 (nine years ago) link
It was difficult to reconcile my dreams of being able to do magic and fly, courtesy of all my fairy tale & fantasy reading, with the Christian teachings against witchcraft. I was somewhat concerned that I was sinning in my imagination. But Star Wars was fine.
― Orson Wellies (in orbit), Tuesday, 25 November 2014 19:00 (nine years ago) link
i have long reality-avoiding daydreams all the time and the storylines last for weeks and then are retired. lol. i have done this since i was a kid! how much time have i lost to daydreaming? i kind of treat it as an indulgence now and moderate it accordingly. i'm so glad to read other adults talking about daydreaming!
― jello my future biafriend (roxymuzak), Wednesday, 26 November 2014 19:53 (nine years ago) link
It was difficult to reconcile my dreams of being able to do magic and fly, courtesy of all my fairy tale & fantasy reading, with the Christian teachings against witchcraft.
― Orson Wellies (in orbit), Tuesday, November 25, 2014 7:00 PM (Yesterday)
omg when I was a kid I would fantasize about trying to resist satan if he showed up to tempt mei was v v afraid of getting possessed by the devil but my dad told me it can only happen if you permit himi would practice saying no to him in my daydreamsthe only one where i felt really nervous was the devil offering to let me have a pet dogi wasn't sure i could resist
― never say goodbye before leaving chat room (Crabbits), Thursday, 27 November 2014 00:03 (nine years ago) link
also i remember my friend telling me that she liked to daydream about having both her legs broken and a man touching her and her not being able to resisti was unable to figure out why it made me uncomfortable but it did
― never say goodbye before leaving chat room (Crabbits), Thursday, 27 November 2014 00:04 (nine years ago) link
Rememmmmmber when we were joking about making a set of guidelines for finding a therapist?
http://www.blackgirldangerous.org/2014/12/going-therapy-qtpoc-without-harmed-erased-baffled-therapy-horror-stories-may-heard/
You should not have to teach your therapist about race, gender, class, etc. This is something they should know or recognize they don’t know and make effort to learn. If you find yourself continuously spending time in session explaining basic things about your identity that can be learned about in a book, find someone else. Conversely, if the therapist is spending a lot of time telling you about themselves, particularly when it does not further your own insight, this is a sign of poor boundaries. You are there for you, not them. Seek support elsewhere.
― Orson Wellies (in orbit), Monday, 1 December 2014 16:15 (nine years ago) link
the only one where i felt really nervous was the devil offering to let me have a pet dogi wasn't sure i could resist
― never say goodbye before leaving chat room (Crabbits), Thursday, November 27, 2014 12:03 AM (4 days ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
Abbs I seriously love you so much.
here is my definition of a certain kind of late bloomer, based on personal experience & some observation- everyone else has had their period & you haven't- everyone around you has had their period & you haven'tit's a pretty brutal combo
― pilate is my cogod (Crabbits), Saturday, 6 December 2014 00:43 (nine years ago) link
ok I said the same thing 2x >:(first item should beeveryone around you does not believe in santa but you still do even though all the evidence is against it
― pilate is my cogod (Crabbits), Saturday, 6 December 2014 00:44 (nine years ago) link
that was me too
― difficult-difficult lemon-difficult (VegemiteGrrl), Saturday, 6 December 2014 00:49 (nine years ago) link
and me
― Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Saturday, 6 December 2014 13:37 (nine years ago) link
i didn't get my period until i was 15 and at 13 i saw a medical thing on tv where a girl who hadn't had hers was diagnosed XXY upon the discovery of a testical. i walked around for two years paranoid I was going to grow balls.
― Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Saturday, 6 December 2014 13:38 (nine years ago) link
I got mine at 15 too but I didn't believe in Santa...is that a euphemism I don't understand?
― La Lechera, Saturday, 6 December 2014 14:48 (nine years ago) link
It's no picnic getting your period early, either.
Speaking of, I just got my first period since April 2013. I was so hoping for menopause. Rats.
― carl agatha, Saturday, 6 December 2014 20:14 (nine years ago) link
:(
― difficult-difficult lemon-difficult (VegemiteGrrl), Saturday, 6 December 2014 20:17 (nine years ago) link
if i haven't posted here about how I got my period for the first time the day before my 10th birthday, and I was having a bunch of friends from my new school over for a slumber party ... anyway that was very traumatic
― Mistah FAAB (sarahell), Saturday, 6 December 2014 21:28 (nine years ago) link
holy shit dude
― difficult-difficult lemon-difficult (VegemiteGrrl), Sunday, 7 December 2014 00:25 (nine years ago) link
I thought I was an early starter but I think I was 11 rising 12?
At least you had a 10th birthday party... unlike some.
― Branwell with an N, Sunday, 7 December 2014 06:04 (nine years ago) link
if it makes you feel any better, I had to cancel my 40th because i was sick, also too sick for plan B which was to see one of my bffs play with David J at a book signing
― Mistah FAAB (sarahell), Sunday, 7 December 2014 10:07 (nine years ago) link
Aw, I'm sorry. That sounds rub!
(But haha I wasn't talking about me, I was talking about my number-one hate-crush, never mind. Failed joke.)
― Branwell with an N, Sunday, 7 December 2014 11:12 (nine years ago) link
― La Lechera, Saturday, December 6, 2014 2:48 PM (Yesterday)
naw, like you know santa, mythical deliverer of gifts and good-hearted guy, is probably fake because empirical evidence + everyone says so – but you still "in your heart" believe he's realmaybe I just mean "not having outgrown the magical thinking of a child"
― pilate is my cogod (Crabbits), Sunday, 7 December 2014 14:45 (nine years ago) link
my parents had to break the news to me that santa was not real when I was 11I cried and criedI still didn't really believe themor maybe I did, but I didn't want toI was honest about it with my peers, too – another piece of bully fuel just handed to them
― pilate is my cogod (Crabbits), Sunday, 7 December 2014 14:47 (nine years ago) link
when i was 11 kids in my class chased me around the playground all recess yelling that he wasn't real & laughing at me
a girl named julie who was pretending she was my friend that day tried to console me this way: "santa died a long time ago. his brother does it all now"
which still makes me lol
― difficult-difficult lemon-difficult (VegemiteGrrl), Sunday, 7 December 2014 15:42 (nine years ago) link
Kara Blakeley told me Santa wasn't real on the school bus. She was a mean girl.
― Orson Wellies (in orbit), Sunday, 7 December 2014 15:49 (nine years ago) link
I don't remember ever believing that Father Christmas was in any sense "real". My parents have told me that quite early, my brother sat me down for an urgent lesson in being disabused of such romantic notions, the most salient lesson of which was: "adults lie!"
I can, however remember a family conference, aged not more than 7, during which my parents begged us not to disillusion our younger cousin, who "still believed." I remember thinking her parents were very cruel to deceive her that way.
(I was not an un-magical child; I still believed in hobbits, piskies, G-Force, and the Closet Monster. I just remember being shocked that adults could lie so systematically to a young child, seemingly for their own amusement.
― Branwell with an N, Sunday, 7 December 2014 16:22 (nine years ago) link
That said, at that age, my parents still believed in Marx, so YMMV.
― Branwell with an N, Sunday, 7 December 2014 16:24 (nine years ago) link
I learned about the tooth fairy first when I began to suspect something was amiss and asked my mom if tooth fairy was my old babysitter that my dad used to screw and my mom was like *beat of angry silence* "No. It's me. I'm the tooth fairy."
I clung to Santa another year or so but it was pretty halfhearted.
Anyway not because of that, which was probably awful for my mom at the time but cracks me up now, but we're not going to do Santa with Ivy. Neither of us are big Christmas celebrants to begin with so we're keeping the whole thing low key in the home.
― carl agatha, Sunday, 7 December 2014 16:24 (nine years ago) link
Santa comes to her daycare and you bet your jolly red butt I'm getting a picture of her on his lap, but we'll just tell her he's a made up Christmas character that people like to cosplay as for the holidays.
― carl agatha, Sunday, 7 December 2014 16:26 (nine years ago) link
My boyfriend works in a group home for developmentally delayed adults and one of the guys there, in his 50s, still believes in Santa. He also believes that if anyone in the house is awake at midnight on Christmas, Santa won't visit.
― pilate is my cogod (Crabbits), Sunday, 7 December 2014 16:38 (nine years ago) link
Tooth fairy --- Easter bunny -- for me were nbd to find out they weren't realsanta is really a lot like god though, an omniscient, jolly, caring, guy who delivers covetable goods!more relatable than god, probably, as you can make cartoons about him and it isn't blasphemous iconography
― pilate is my cogod (Crabbits), Sunday, 7 December 2014 16:41 (nine years ago) link
having to accept him not being real at the time it kinda felt like idk, the difference between technicolor Oz and sepia-toned Kansas
like
ok now christmas is just THIS i can't have THAT anymore?why?
luckily I had younger siblings so at least at home I got to play along with them for another few years, and that made it a bit easier to swallow. It wasn't like grouchy teenagers who just get money in the morning & bolt as soon as christmas dinner is done with (which is how a lot of my friends were at the time and I didn't want that)
― difficult-difficult lemon-difficult (VegemiteGrrl), Sunday, 7 December 2014 18:04 (nine years ago) link
idk
that makes me sound like a horribly deluded child but it was just a nicer feeling that a jolly magic fellow delivered your presents rather than mum hiding them in the crawlspace and staying up til 4am putting dollhouses together and whatnot
now i kind of feel like the opposite is kind of touching in its own weird way
― difficult-difficult lemon-difficult (VegemiteGrrl), Sunday, 7 December 2014 18:06 (nine years ago) link
I don't remember when or how I found out Santa wasn't real, and it wasn't a huge deal for me. What was a huge deal was when mum and dad said they wouldn't be doing a Christmas stocking any more, for either me or my younger brother. I was a proper teenager, I think! - around 15 - but it took all the fun out of Christmas for me, and I remember being really sorry for my brother who was around 11. The 'big presents' were nice and all, but the stocking was full of tiny, inexpensive, carefully chosen, unpredictable wrapped gifts (in a chopped up pair of mum's tights left on the foot of the bed in the small hours - I can still remember how the presents felt through the tights!) That was the most exciting thing ever, even when I knew it was mum and dad.
― ljubljana, Sunday, 7 December 2014 18:14 (nine years ago) link
Christmas stocking is the best part! Our compromise with our Christmas-enthusiast parents is that Ivy will have a Christmas stocking and they can buy her whatever will fit in it.
― carl agatha, Sunday, 7 December 2014 21:12 (nine years ago) link
It's hardly a compromise for me because yay Christmas stocking!
― carl agatha, Sunday, 7 December 2014 21:13 (nine years ago) link
My mom made my stocking for my first Christmas and I still have it! I just found it tonight, actually.
http://i57.tinypic.com/vder07.jpg
― Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Sunday, 7 December 2014 22:12 (nine years ago) link
My mom told me the Easter Bunny wasn't real when I was maybe 9 and I immediately asked about Santa to which she replied, "I'm not ready to talk about Santa yet" so I basically knew. I also kind of suspected before then because we always opened our presents on Christmas Eve like it's customary to do in Germany. We had Christmas dinner every year with my parents' friends and then went to mass. The dads would stay behind a little and put out all the presents so they'd be there when we got home from church. At some point I started wondering why I was the only kid who Santa came to a day early.
― Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Sunday, 7 December 2014 22:14 (nine years ago) link
I know I've posted in this thread before about my mom and her practical gift-giving -- but let me tell you, Santa probably would've had a more magical, heart-warming aura, if "he and Mrs. Claus" didn't give me things like mechanical pencil lead, a toothbrush, file folders, a mini-stapler, and white cotton underwear. There's only a certain amount of suspension of disbelief possible, even at a young age, when your mom will exclaim, "Wow, Santa is amazing! He somehow knew that I was out of scouring pads!"
― Mistah FAAB (sarahell), Monday, 8 December 2014 00:34 (nine years ago) link
loool wow
― difficult-difficult lemon-difficult (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 8 December 2014 01:37 (nine years ago) link
haha that's incredible
― pilate is my cogod (Crabbits), Monday, 8 December 2014 02:16 (nine years ago) link
Ha!I still get a stocking if I stay at my parents' on xmas eve, which I have most of my adult life.
― kinder, Monday, 8 December 2014 10:26 (nine years ago) link
this is not on topic but i just wanted to report that i had three girlfriend hangouts in one week and they were all extremely enjoyable!! in hangout 1 we drank tea and gossiped, in hangout 2 we ate dinner, listened to records, and did our nails and in hangout 3 we went to a giant grocery store, made foods for our friends while listening to records, and then delivered the foods. it was really pleasant and satisfying to have multiple conversations with irl people who i feel totally comfortable around and there was no typing required.
thank you, friends
― vigetable (La Lechera), Monday, 8 December 2014 15:35 (nine years ago) link
That all sounds so nice. I have a new girlfriend at work and she's awesome. :)
― Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Monday, 8 December 2014 15:40 (nine years ago) link
it's just really nice to relax and lol and talk about girl stuff
― vigetable (La Lechera), Monday, 8 December 2014 15:53 (nine years ago) link
:D
― Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Monday, 8 December 2014 16:07 (nine years ago) link
goddamn yogurti want to hurl curdled yogurt at someone i just don't know who yet
http://i.imgur.com/1xsq5Ew.jpg
― vigetable (La Lechera), Saturday, 13 December 2014 17:12 (nine years ago) link
SO mad that fb is showing me this shit. Into that dress though.
― Orson Wellies (in orbit), Saturday, 13 December 2014 17:27 (nine years ago) link
ads suck in general, but i still blame the yogurt industrylike i don't know and don't care what jennifer hudson did that was so shocking but i doubt it had anything to do with yogurt
ugh
anywayother than this i feel pretty great!
― vigetable (La Lechera), Saturday, 13 December 2014 17:34 (nine years ago) link
Oh, feelings, why are you complicated?
For the first time in... well, forever, really. Someone I have ~feelings~ for has confessed that the feelings, complicated and impossible though they might be, are, well, mutual.
There are so many Big Important Reasons we shouldn't pursue this. (The usual: age, gender, location.)
I feel kinda sick, and nervous, and terrified, and I have that 'OMG I'm going to throw up' feeling that is generally a pretty good indication that I'm falling in love (or something like it). But also giddy and excited and ????
Um, help?
― Branwell with an N, Saturday, 27 December 2014 09:10 (nine years ago) link