Trans/Genderqueer/Agender/Questioning Thread

#HowToSpotACisPerson has been a good one to follow today

https://twitter.com/search?q=%23HowToSpotACisPerson&src=typd

timely; my new office is casually proposing unisex toilets and everyone is o_O
Ally McBeal amirite

Unisex toilets, as in shared washing up area, and urinals out in a space that women have to use just provokes in me a deep, instinctive FUCK NO.

The only way unisex toilets really work for me is if they are entirely self contained.

But, this may also be due to my perceiving loos as a safe space for MH issues, and I do not want to have to explain to strangers why I am crying in the toilet if I am having a bad MH day.

shared basins ok but I prefer separate M/F areas for cubicles.
ours would be entirely self-contained cubicles (but not designated M/F at all) in a shared space ie no urinals

The urinals in the bathroom I described are hidden around a corner from the rest of the bathroom behind a sign that says "urinals", no one even would see them unless they specifically went over there. (Plus the stall doors are totally solid and not open air.)

I really like this on the #howtospotacisperson tag:

https://twitter.com/ixKylie/status/478619667888476160

Kylie Jack ‏@ixKylie 1h

I’m not into this #howtospotacisperson HT. As Ive said before, cis people should always disclose.

no one even would see them unless they specifically went over there.

Really not familiar with the WHOOPS MADE YOU LOOKIT MY DICK tactics of ~~~~****SOME****~~~~ str8 dudes much, huh.

I mean, true, if a dude really wants to show you his dick, he will do it to you on the street or in hallways or staircases or wherever, regardless! (Yes, I am speaking from experience.) But I would rather not give them the opportunity to do it in what I think of as my "safe space".

I really like this on the #howtospotacisperson tag:

https://twitter.com/ixKylie/status/478619667888476160

Kylie Jack ‏@ixKylie 1h

I’m not into this #howtospotacisperson HT. As Ive said before, cis people should always disclose.

― The Reverend, Monday, June 16, 2014 8:59 PM (29 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

not sure i get this one--a riff on 'trans people should always disclose'?

yes

Yes.

Branwell, I am sorry, you are right. This is my privilege as someone who is usually perceived as male speaking. :/

(Also it's a gay{-ish?} club, although that definitely does not mean there aren't sometimes noxious str8dudes there.)

Justin Vivian Bond has a longer explication of his defense of the word "tranny" in The Stranger's new trans-centered queer issue: http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/about-the-word-tranny/Content?oid=19946137

Wasn't the first one long enough?

I really don't have the time to read anyone whose first sentence is equating "can you be more sensitive with your language" with "OMG CENSORSHIP!!!!!11 ~CONSERVATIVE~!!!"

You got your shovel, you just keep digging, but don't expect me to watch.

Anyway kinda burying the lead there I guess; The Stranger's whole queer issue is about transgender rights:

http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/queer-issue-2014/Content?oid=19946096

Sorry to just do the 'link drop' thing; I don't really feel this is an area where I am qualified to comment. I am trying to learn tho & I appreciate this thread for how much I have learned from it.

Sorry, Crabbits, that "shovel" comment was directed at Mx. Justin, not at you, in case there was any doubt.

Oh no, I know! That said, I always have my shovel in hand for about the same reason.

eg constantly making mistakes and saying disagreeable shit
also for gardening

I somehow have little faith in an issue on transgender rights from a paper edited by Dan Savage.

And written by Albert Camus! #shoveling

who needs productive discussion about modes of interaction wrt gender identity when we can react and react to insensitive language.

I would argue that using insensitive language makes it difficult to have a productive discussion

agreed.

I just discovered this thread when I was trying to ctrl+f "Transformers."

A friend's take on tensions within LGBT activism, touching on the language debate in which Mx. Bond's essay takes part: http://prospect.org/article/45-years-after-stonewall-lgbt-movement-has-transphobia-problem

hiiiiiiii

https://fbcdn-sphotos-g-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-xaf1/t1.0-9/10251916_10202958359054705_8527134742160850902_n.jpg

Rad! (Is that CeCe with you, Rev?)

it is. I also danced with her for a moment :P

Amazing!

holy shit!!!!

we exchanged a couple of letters but you danced with her i'm so jealous

and watched her rap along to "Beez in the Trap" iirc

rev :D

http://lowerdens.tumblr.com/post/90448691182/on-pride

Can I please ask, in future, anyone who would like to participate in this thread, not to link dump?

Firstly because this is an emotive topic for those of us that are affected by these issues. Secondly because, as you can see several times upthread, some people have been using this thread not-in-good-faith.

If you have something to share, please can you explain what you are sharing - what it's about - and why you are sharing it? I really think that would be helpful in terms of generating respect and good faith, and it would lead to more productive discussions. Can I just ask you folks to do that? Thanks!

xp - Jana Hunter is really great, thanks for posting that.

http://bullybloggers.wordpress.com/2014/07/05/you-are-triggering-me-the-neo-liberal-rhetoric-of-harm-danger-and-trauma/

Mordy posted this Jack Halberstam blog entry in the creepy liberalism thread but I'm curious to what people in this thread think of it. I feel a bit of unease about the tendency towards individualism I sometimes see in queer circles and so a lot of what Halberstam says here resonates, but then his Gaga feminism thing doesn't really seem to account for the kinds of suffering that lead to that individualism seeming like a necessity. Maybe I think both sides are too positive about how self-construction can work? But I dunno.

I think Halberstam is right to call for more granular, intersectional analysis of marginalization and violence, which is why it's disappointing that his narrative about the spoiled queer kids of today seems to crudely efface experiential and material differences among LGBT youth for the sake of a tidy story about generations. On the whole, I agree with Natalia Cecire's reservations (see http://nataliacecire.blogspot.com/2014/07/on-neoliberal-rhetoric-of-harm.html). I'm also amused to see that Halberstam's essay has already spawned a Twitter parody, the work of the game designer and critic Merritt Kopas: https://twitter.com/halberslam.

I also rolled my eyes at Halberstam's use of Justin Vivian Bond's open letter: no one is stopping v from identifying as v pleases; what is offensive is when v casts other trans women as censorious and conformist if they don't want to accept being called what has mostly become a transmisogynistic slur.

(Credit where it's due: I see now that mattresslessness linked to Cecire's response first on the creepy liberalism thread.)

(i guess i picked the wrong week to order my first halberstam book, huh)

I've reached a point where, right now, I no longer have the emotional energy to read, digest, unpack, and respond to the ~latest outrageous thinkpiece~. It's work, and it's (often unpaid work, unlike the people who get commissioned to write the big ~thinkpieces~) work that marginalised people are expected to pick up and carry on top of the stream of bullshit that is living a marginalised life. (I mean, how's that for ~neoliberal~?)

I am glad, however, that other people have the time and the energy to sit down and unpick them. These are two other pieces which have been circulating in response. I have still not read the original piece, and may never find the energy to do so, but I on reading these pieces, they feel packed with good points.

On the failure of "Academia" to accommodate practices developed in Activism:

http://navigatethestream.tumblr.com/post/90947046597/another-anti-trigger-warning-article-has-come-and-im

On the failure of Halbermeschdude to actually understand the difference between Content Warnings and Trigger Warnings and the uses and meaning of either:

http://alicebreckless.wordpress.com/2014/07/07/trigger-warning-a-response-to-jack-halberstam/

thanks, I'll read all these later. And I'll also note for now that I kinda scanned the Halberstam piece before posting it here, noting the interesting bits about relating to race and class struggles and seemingly not noting the willfully outrageous pull-yr-socks-up tone, which I'm not at all down with.

I think Natalia Cecire already basically nailed the problems with Halberstam's essay, but Julia Serano has now weighed in, and has some interesting recollections about tensions within 90s queer and trans activism:

http://juliaserano.blogspot.com/2014/07/regarding-generation-wars-some.html

lol halberstam

Hardly an event would go by back then without someone feeling violated, hurt, traumatized by someone’s poorly phrased question, another person’s bad word choice or even just the hint of perfume in the room. People with various kinds of fatigue, easily activated allergies, poorly managed trauma were constantly holding up proceedings to shout in loud voices about how bad they felt because someone had said, smoked, or sprayed something near them that had fouled up their breathing room. Others made adjustments, curbed their use of deodorant, tried to avoid patriarchal language, thought before they spoke, held each other, cried, moped, and ultimately disintegrated into a messy, unappealing morass of weepy, hypo-allergic, psychosomatic, anti-sex, anti-fun, anti-porn, pro-drama, pro-processing post-political subjects.

i interviewed for a job phonebanking at an environmentalist n.g.o. and i was told repeatedly, in advance, on the phone, in person, in documents, 'this is a scent-free environment'

apparently that one really stuck in halberstam's craw too

yeah, I'm old enough to remember lotsa folk who were environmentally ill in the Bay Area (before the Todd Haynes "Safe" film) and I gotta say, I am with Halberstam here a bit, and perhaps that's my generational prejudice talking. But I clearly remember the slaying-the-gay-father dramas that went down as the hip radical queers of the 90s got rid of the bad-old-gays who were trapped in their essentialist paradigms, etc. and on one level, yes, useful theoretical work was being done, but on another level, there was a drama of self-serving "victory over the old folks" going on, in which Foucault was in, the Mattachine Society was out, and anyone who didn't use exactly the words that we used was guilty of various sins that we would police in order to pump up our own cultural capital and feel younger / cooler / more enlightened. And watching (and chuckling along at some of the jokes, admittedly) as young trans activists revile someone like halberstam on Twitter w fake/parody accounts kinda just takes me back and makes me rethink the Queer Nation / ACT UP era that I came out in, and wonder about what was going on then, and whether queer culture might do generational difference with more or less venom than other cultures? Elizabeth Freeman to thread here on "temporal drag", stat.

I've read the Cecire and Serano pieces, and yeah, they have some useful points, about the pre-emptive gensture of "overing"-via-Ahmed, etc. so I get those critiques- but I also see something going on in people's vicious Twitter reactions to Halberstam that seems to me to reveal an aggression and, yes, age-ist hostility that sits rather oddly beside the demand for a world in which everything be served up pre-labeled with trigger warnings, like a mom cutting the crust off sandwiches- these ostensibly sensitive people can be awfully cruel, apparently.

to be fair to crustless sandwiches, they are delightful.

The weird thing about this "generational war" idea is that I can distinctly remember having endless discussions about content/trigger warnings, deciding whether to use them, whether they were protection or censorship, deciding ultimately they were no more harmful and slightly more useful than film ratings systems... back in the 90s.

Side point: When you read someone acting "with aggression" on twitter, or elsewhere, kindly take a moment to think about how much defensive behaviour and aggressive behaviour can look alike when viewed from outside. When someone returns hostility for hostility, is that really "aggression"?

But really, I don't think this is the thread for all that.

ostensibly sensitive people can be awfully cruel qft

"People who have been treated cruelly their entire lives can sometimes return cruelty with the same cruelty they have learned at the hands of others" qft