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― Doritos Loco Parentis (Hurting 2), Thursday, 29 May 2014 19:37 (nine years ago) link
"Tweeps".
― back-up duck (doo dah), Thursday, 29 May 2014 20:09 (nine years ago) link
https://www.google.com/search?q=%22nostalgia+inducing%22
― macklin' rosie (crüt), Thursday, 29 May 2014 21:59 (nine years ago) link
"at the end of the day..."― omar little, Friday, May 4, 2012 10:24 AM (2 years ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
― omar little, Friday, May 4, 2012 10:24 AM (2 years ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
this fucking phrase not getting enough love hate
― display name changed. (amateurist), Thursday, 29 May 2014 22:05 (nine years ago) link
He says at ... 5:05 pm CDT.
― pplains, Thursday, 29 May 2014 22:05 (nine years ago) link
i know someone who says "there you go" after anyone makes any declarative statement. what the fuck is that?
― Iago Galdston, Thursday, 29 May 2014 22:44 (nine years ago) link
appreciative of spacetime obv
― dn/ac (darraghmac), Thursday, 29 May 2014 23:12 (nine years ago) link
"Just saying," at least as a sentence unto itself. All over Facebook.
― clemenza, Thursday, 29 May 2014 23:32 (nine years ago) link
Kid talk--don't know if I actually hate it but I do always call attention to how silly it is: "Can I verse you?" (as applied to a game of badminton or checkers or whatever). "You mean you want to write a poem about me? Sure, go ahead--immortalize me."
― clemenza, Thursday, 29 May 2014 23:37 (nine years ago) link
"Can I verse you?" (as applied to a game of badminton or checkers or whatever).
Is this some sort of http://i156.photobucket.com/albums/t1/CheckMyVitals/Posting/canada.gif thing?
― pplains, Friday, 30 May 2014 00:29 (nine years ago) link
No, I've heard kids say that.
― petey p. pizzagarten (how's life), Friday, 30 May 2014 00:41 (nine years ago) link
http://languagelog.ldc.upenn.edu/nll/?p=4029
― 1staethyr, Friday, 30 May 2014 01:07 (nine years ago) link
"creating change"
change happens all by itself you assholes
― Οὖτις, Friday, 30 May 2014 15:58 (nine years ago) link
- mlk
― balls, Friday, 30 May 2014 20:46 (nine years ago) link
"What is this? Grand Central Station?"
― how's life, Sunday, 1 June 2014 20:07 (nine years ago) link
"Can I verse you?"
Heavens! Then I might become well-versed in the subject.
― put 'er right in the old breadbasket (Aimless), Sunday, 1 June 2014 20:15 (nine years ago) link
― how's life, Sunday, June 1, 2014 3:07 PM Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
Oh, but how I waited my whole life to get to New York, putting a friend on a train to Poughkeepsie, and saying...
Beeps came home and told us how her school was going to pre-empt classroom teaching on a Friday and let the kids enjoy hot dogs, inflatable jump tents and face-painting. I say to Sunny because I'm a hilarious dad, "Oh, those kids are going to have a field-day with that one."
― pplains, Sunday, 1 June 2014 22:24 (nine years ago) link
nice
― ₴HABΔZZ ¶IZZΔ (Hurting 2), Sunday, 1 June 2014 22:25 (nine years ago) link
"sorry for your loss"
― nurse with attitude (get bent), Sunday, 1 June 2014 23:59 (nine years ago) link
^^^ yes, and predictably I struggle with what else to say if it's someone I don't know well. 'I was so sorry to hear about X' or just 'I'm so sorry' if the context is right is what I usually feel like saying.
― ljubljana, Monday, 2 June 2014 00:24 (nine years ago) link
what i said on twitter:
Does anyone feel uncomfortable with the phrase "I'm sorry for your loss"? Well-meaning but kinda the lorem ipsum of sympathy.
It also feels loaded in a weird way, on both sides, like the speaker is burdened ("sorry") and the recipient's "loss" is imbued with meaning
― nurse with attitude (get bent), Monday, 2 June 2014 00:39 (nine years ago) link
I send grieving family members the board game SORRY™ except instead of the board and pieces when they open it up, they find a note I've written that simply says "This is me, because of your loss."
― pplains, Monday, 2 June 2014 00:41 (nine years ago) link
Then I go to class reunions and tell old friends there that I'm sorry for their gain.
― pplains, Monday, 2 June 2014 00:43 (nine years ago) link
so wry for your loss xp
― estela, Monday, 2 June 2014 00:45 (nine years ago) link
although I agree on that phrase, I can't think of anything to say to grieving persons, particularly ones I'm not very close to, that doesn't sound strained and uncomfortable.
― ₴HABΔZZ ¶IZZΔ (Hurting 2), Monday, 2 June 2014 01:04 (nine years ago) link
i wrote a card for my cousin when her husband died suddenly but then i didn't like the awkwardness of my wording so i didn't send it and i intended to get another card but i didn't and then she was killed in a car crash a few weeks later and ever since then i don't worry so much about what i say as long as it's something.
― estela, Monday, 2 June 2014 01:12 (nine years ago) link
:O
― ₴HABΔZZ ¶IZZΔ (Hurting 2), Monday, 2 June 2014 01:38 (nine years ago) link
Sorry for your loss.
― ₴HABΔZZ ¶IZZΔ (Hurting 2), Monday, 2 June 2014 01:39 (nine years ago) link
<3
― estela, Monday, 2 June 2014 01:44 (nine years ago) link
I've spent years advising students to drop this "the passing of my grandfather" twaddle.
― guess that bundt gettin eaten (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 2 June 2014 01:45 (nine years ago) link
"I was sorry to hear about your father" is almost as bad. It has this overtone of "Oh yes, you mean theah...dying business. Unfortunate, that."
― ₴HABΔZZ ¶IZZΔ (Hurting 2), Monday, 2 June 2014 01:47 (nine years ago) link
"I'm sorry" will suffice.
― guess that bundt gettin eaten (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 2 June 2014 01:48 (nine years ago) link
or better: a hug.
http://pixel.nymag.com/imgs/daily/vulture/2013/04/29/Joan-Hug.o.jpg/a_560x375.jpg
― balls, Monday, 2 June 2014 01:50 (nine years ago) link
I also hate saying "I was sorry to hear about..." because it's like "By the way, you probably weren't thinking about your loved one's death at just this moment, after grieving for the prior three weeks, but I need to remind you of it so that I can discharge my duties."
― ₴HABΔZZ ¶IZZΔ (Hurting 2), Monday, 2 June 2014 01:50 (nine years ago) link
i never remind anyone of death, everyone will be reminded soon enough
― balls, Monday, 2 June 2014 01:51 (nine years ago) link
Valar morghulis
― 龜, Monday, 2 June 2014 01:54 (nine years ago) link
lol
― balls, Monday, 2 June 2014 02:02 (nine years ago) link
Moment of silence.
― Jeff, Monday, 2 June 2014 02:02 (nine years ago) link
I still have in my drafts folder this long heartfelt email I wrote to a co-worker whose husband and nine-year-old granddaughter were killed by a drunk driver. I never sent it because every sentence begins with "I feel this way...." Or I want you to know..." In the end, I was just who cares what the fuck I have to say anyway. "Oh, pplains feels badly about two of my family members perishing on the Interstate on the same night. That improves things."
― pplains, Monday, 2 June 2014 03:59 (nine years ago) link
...I can't think of anything to say to grieving persons, particularly ones I'm not very close to, that doesn't sound strained and uncomfortable.― ₴HABΔZZ ¶IZZΔ (Hurting 2), Sunday, June 1, 2014 6:04 PM (2 hours ago)...ever since then i don't worry so much about what i say as long as it's something.― estela, Sunday, June 1, 2014 6:12 PM (2 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
― ₴HABΔZZ ¶IZZΔ (Hurting 2), Sunday, June 1, 2014 6:04 PM (2 hours ago)
...ever since then i don't worry so much about what i say as long as it's something.
― estela, Sunday, June 1, 2014 6:12 PM (2 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
― riot grillz (contenderizer), Monday, 2 June 2014 04:07 (nine years ago) link
Oh yeah, I know. I mean my post had an implied "and therefore I just say the canned shit" at the end of it.
― ₴HABΔZZ ¶IZZΔ (Hurting 2), Monday, 2 June 2014 04:21 (nine years ago) link
When I was a freshman in college, my favorite English professor's mom died, and I was super intimidated by the guy because he was this towering bearded genius classic English prof dude, so after a lot of deliberation I picked out this blank card with a stark ansel adams B&W photo of a bunch of birch tree trunks or something and wrote something like "I offer my deepest sympathies in your time of grieving." I felt very proud when he thanked me for the card, as though I had demonstrated some kind of superior class and taste in my card choice and condolence method. It was an almost Hannah Horvath-like moment of self-involvement.
― ₴HABΔZZ ¶IZZΔ (Hurting 2), Monday, 2 June 2014 04:26 (nine years ago) link
lol dying
i hope you're sorry for my family's impending loss.
― estela, Monday, 2 June 2014 04:33 (nine years ago) link
If you feel a need to console someone and wish to offer a sincere expression based in shared humanity, then don't fret over the wording, just be awkward if you must. If it's real, it's ok.
If your condolences aren't meant sincerely, but are just a matter of rote fulfillment of some vaguely felt social duty, then you'd best not venture on offering them, because that is how they'll come across and nobody needs to be the object of your empty gesture when they're in grief.
― put 'er right in the old breadbasket (Aimless), Monday, 2 June 2014 04:42 (nine years ago) link
Estela,
I hereby reserve the right to express my deepest condolences to you and your family at an as-yet undetermined and hopefully distant time. I am truly sorry in advance.
― ₴HABΔZZ ¶IZZΔ (Hurting 2), Monday, 2 June 2014 04:44 (nine years ago) link
after a lot of deliberation you picked out this blank card with maracas.jpg
― estela, Monday, 2 June 2014 04:55 (nine years ago) link
I really thought that by thanking me he was trying to telegraph some kind of message to me like "I knew all along you weren't one of these run-of-the-mill mouthbreathers who picks out hallmark cards with loose pink cursive script," rather than just "It was nice of one of my students to think of me when I am very sad about the death of my mother." It seems so delusional to me now.
― ₴HABΔZZ ¶IZZΔ (Hurting 2), Monday, 2 June 2014 05:01 (nine years ago) link
See, I too tried to send that tree trunk pic as a condolence card once, but the family of Sonny Bono got real up in arms over it.
― pplains, Monday, 2 June 2014 13:20 (nine years ago) link
I used to get really jammed up about how to express sympathy like this but then at my last job, for whatever reason, a lot of close relatives of my coworkers (and some of my actual coworkers) died, to the point that it made sense to buy a box of sympathy cards and keep them at my desk, so I got a lot of practice, I guess. But it helps that I generally really AM sorry for this person's loss. Like really sincerely sorry, even if it's not someone that I eat lunch with every day or anything. It sucks when people you love die! That's an easy place to get, empathetically, I think. Then saying a simple, "I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts" doesn't feel canned at all, because I am sorry and they are in my thoughts.
The only sentiment I am careful to avoid is "I am sorry to hear about the loss of ______" because that sounds like what I'm really sorry about is that I had to hear about it, and not that the bereaved is going through a period of loss and grief. "I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your great aunt, because that reminds me of my mortality and the inevitable demise of every one and everything I love, and now I am super bummed out."
― carl agatha, Monday, 2 June 2014 13:27 (nine years ago) link