Anyway, listen to them if you want, but don't make a big deal about it to your gf.
― Sarah McLusky (coco), Tuesday, 5 October 2004 20:45 (nineteen years ago) link
by no means am i making a big deal out of this to anyone, aside from starting this thread. i guess the larger question is about emotional ownership of music, yeah?
― Yanc3y (ystrickler), Tuesday, 5 October 2004 20:46 (nineteen years ago) link
― Sarah McLusky (coco), Tuesday, 5 October 2004 20:49 (nineteen years ago) link
― MindInRewind (Barry Bruner), Tuesday, 5 October 2004 20:54 (nineteen years ago) link
― Yanc3y (ystrickler), Tuesday, 5 October 2004 20:57 (nineteen years ago) link
― firstworldman (firstworldman), Tuesday, 5 October 2004 21:07 (nineteen years ago) link
― Penelope_111 (Penelope_111), Tuesday, 5 October 2004 21:08 (nineteen years ago) link
― Yanc3y (ystrickler), Tuesday, 5 October 2004 21:09 (nineteen years ago) link
― firstworldman (firstworldman), Tuesday, 5 October 2004 21:10 (nineteen years ago) link
― Alex in NYC (vassifer), Tuesday, 5 October 2004 21:11 (nineteen years ago) link
― Yanc3y (ystrickler), Tuesday, 5 October 2004 21:12 (nineteen years ago) link
― firstworldman (firstworldman), Tuesday, 5 October 2004 21:14 (nineteen years ago) link
I tossed all the ones she made me after she don' pissed me off for the last time.
― still bevens (bscrubbins), Tuesday, 5 October 2004 21:18 (nineteen years ago) link
Ha, this is why I was thinking of adding "... and it's important to have a large music collection so that songs with emotional baggage can get buried and lost amongst all the others".
There was a Slowdive song that I associated with a particular gf, but at the end of the day (i.e. years later), the song didn't mean anything to her, it only meant something for me. Since it's "my" song, then I get sole ownership over whatever feelings I have, whereas with one of "her" songs, the feelings seem shared, and those shared experiences aren't necessarily what you want to think about after a breakup.
― MindInRewind (Barry Bruner), Tuesday, 5 October 2004 21:25 (nineteen years ago) link
― pfeffernuesse (Jody Beth Rosen), Tuesday, 5 October 2004 21:37 (nineteen years ago) link
― Gravel Puzzleworth (Gregory Henry), Tuesday, 5 October 2004 22:13 (nineteen years ago) link
― Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Tuesday, 5 October 2004 22:18 (nineteen years ago) link
It completely blew me away. That thing where you said like i didn't wanna be with her anymore but i still want to be reminded of her and the way she felt for me and vice versa, I dunno if that's what I was going for but that's completely what I got. I seriously considered making someone, anyone, the exact same mixtape in the same order just so they could hear it, because I couldn't understand how I'd missed the fact at the time that every song on it was so rich and magical and sad and hopeful and lost. It wasn't like a nostalgic pain-pleasure, it just sounded unambiguously amazing, all these songs that'd grown so much by becoming full of someone I no longer resented for like being in bands and not liking dance music and whatever.
But, yes, the guilt was there.
― Gravel Puzzleworth (Gregory Henry), Tuesday, 5 October 2004 22:26 (nineteen years ago) link
― joseph pot (STINKORâ„¢), Tuesday, 5 October 2004 22:36 (nineteen years ago) link
― Douglas (Douglas), Wednesday, 6 October 2004 00:18 (nineteen years ago) link
― Allyzay Science Explosion (allyzay), Wednesday, 6 October 2004 01:30 (nineteen years ago) link
― Rickey Wright (Rrrickey), Wednesday, 6 October 2004 03:07 (nineteen years ago) link
― Allyzay Science Explosion (allyzay), Wednesday, 6 October 2004 03:13 (nineteen years ago) link
― Gold Teeth II (kenan), Wednesday, 6 October 2004 03:27 (nineteen years ago) link
― Rickey Wright (Rrrickey), Wednesday, 6 October 2004 03:33 (nineteen years ago) link
― Velveteen Bingo (Chris V), Wednesday, 6 October 2004 11:03 (nineteen years ago) link
― Towelette Pettatucci (Homosexual II), Wednesday, 6 October 2004 11:29 (nineteen years ago) link
― Colonel Poo (Colonel Poo), Wednesday, 6 October 2004 12:49 (nineteen years ago) link
If a current girlfriend/boyfriend minds you making a mix for an old one, then you have some issues to sort out regarding your relationship with either the new partner or the ex - if you're solely friends then jealousy should be irrelevant.
― emil.y (emil.y), Wednesday, 6 October 2004 13:48 (nineteen years ago) link