people make no effort not to be annoying
― conrad, Wednesday, 7 May 2014 09:39 (nine years ago) link
right thread
right, conrad
― pick it up for ripple laser (onimo), Wednesday, 7 May 2014 09:47 (nine years ago) link
Oh good, another morning tea where we all have to bring something. 'Please make something, don't just buy it.'
Fuck this, I have a baby and no time and can't cook and don't want to socialise.
― ornamental cabbage (James Morrison), Friday, 16 May 2014 03:44 (nine years ago) link
"i made you a chart of all the fucks i give" (holds up blank sheet of paper)
― set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 16 May 2014 04:18 (nine years ago) link
Dear boss, please stop talking like Yogi Bear ("Hey, hey, hey!").
― back-up duck (doo dah), Friday, 16 May 2014 11:21 (nine years ago) link
Are you sure he's not talking like Fat Albert?
― carl agatha, Friday, 16 May 2014 11:36 (nine years ago) link
Oh good, another morning tea where we all have to bring something. 'Please make something, don't just buy it.'Fuck this, I have a baby and no time and can't cook and don't want to socialise.
Oh man I am super irritated on your behalf. That's so presumptuous and smug.
― carl agatha, Friday, 16 May 2014 11:41 (nine years ago) link
― carl agatha, Friday, May 16, 2014 7:36 AM (1 hour ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
Yeah, he has already referenced Boo Boo Bear and picnic baskets. O_o
― back-up duck (doo dah), Friday, 16 May 2014 13:21 (nine years ago) link
two dudes were dressed up like red green for some kind of event yesterday, walked past in the cafeteria
― goole, Friday, 16 May 2014 15:37 (nine years ago) link
one day at work on Halloween I was in the midst of training a girl and we were already running behind and I looked up to see a giant Pacman chasing a giant ghost whiz by my room. No way in Hell I was able to focus on training after that.
― getting strange ass all around the globe (Neanderthal), Friday, 16 May 2014 21:33 (nine years ago) link
You set a work meeting with me a week ahead of time at 2PM at a worksite I did not otherwise have any reason to go to. I arrived there at 2PM on the appointed day, ready to get down to biz, and saw no sign of you. I asked around and no one had seen you, but I was patient and assumed you were just running a bit late. After a few minutes, I texted to see where you were at. Still patiently waiting. About 15 minutes later you text me:
Hi. I sent you an email this morning, seeing if you still wanted to meet..since I didn't hear, I'm in the middle of working on a project now.
Reaaaaally? You emailed my work email a few hours in advance to check if I was still in and took a lack of reply to mean no? I don't even fucking work during the mornings! I work in fucking TEEN PROGRAMMING. Kind of hard for me to work with teens outside of school while they're in school. I work in the afternoon and evening. I haven't been in to work to check my email. My meeting with you was my first work business of the day.
I text back saying that I'm not available to check my work email during the morning and if you need to change plans on short notice, you need to TEXT me. You reply back:
I communicate via email. You must adjust to change.
What the fuck is this? 1997? No, I don't need to adjust to change, YOU need to adjust to change if you're so hidebound to an inefficient means of communication. It ain't like you don't have my number. And MAYBE, just MAYBE, assume that if we've said we're on, that we're still on unless one of us has said otherwise? And really, just go fuck yourself. Don't dick me around like that. I took time out of my schedule to go all the way out to meet you for nothing.
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― The Reverend, Tuesday, 20 May 2014 22:24 (nine years ago) link
you will respect mah communications modalitah
― j., Tuesday, 20 May 2014 22:32 (nine years ago) link
since I didn't hear, I'm in the middle of working on a project now.
this is incredible.
bullshit!
― goole, Tuesday, 20 May 2014 22:35 (nine years ago) link
this is also a pretty insane thing to say
― goole, Tuesday, 20 May 2014 22:36 (nine years ago) link
yeah wow @ that
― set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Tuesday, 20 May 2014 22:37 (nine years ago) link
This isn't even an old woman. She's like mayyyybe a couple years older than me?
― The Reverend, Tuesday, 20 May 2014 22:44 (nine years ago) link
holy shit
― woy wogers (darraghmac), Tuesday, 20 May 2014 22:47 (nine years ago) link
!!! Is she a peer or a boss? If a peer at least you can mentally write her off, maybe? If a boss that you have no choice but to deal with, this would drive me insane with rage. Rude and thoughtless bosses make me completely lose it.
― ljubljana, Tuesday, 20 May 2014 23:10 (nine years ago) link
Yeah you dont use that tone with people you have a business relationship with, be it colleague, customer, or ESPECIALLY superior. Christ on a broken crutch.
― the Bronski Review (Trayce), Tuesday, 20 May 2014 23:38 (nine years ago) link
Peer, who I need to work with on a specific project as she's the only one with the expertise and availability to pull it off. It's alright now, we've both apologized to each other.
― The Reverend, Tuesday, 20 May 2014 23:58 (nine years ago) link
both!
commend yr control tbh
― woy wogers (darraghmac), Wednesday, 21 May 2014 00:01 (nine years ago) link
I did get kind of snippy with her after her initial response.
― The Reverend, Wednesday, 21 May 2014 00:21 (nine years ago) link
Email is pervasive. Honestly I feel the expectation nowadays is that if there was an email, and you failed to see it, the outcome is entirely your fault. Just check your email, seriously. Nobody will ever understand your reasons for not having read an email, they just expect that you've read everything.
― fields of salmon, Wednesday, 21 May 2014 00:29 (nine years ago) link
Eh, I disagree. My work is very email intensive but it is well understood across the company that if something is truly time sensitive or urgent you need to pick a phone and call.
― nitro-burning funny car (Moodles), Wednesday, 21 May 2014 00:31 (nine years ago) link
Pick up a phone, that is...
― nitro-burning funny car (Moodles), Wednesday, 21 May 2014 00:32 (nine years ago) link
I miss occasional messages until it's pointed out because my filters need work and I get SO MUCH EMAIL at work and I have time-intensive activities that don't involve being an email processing machine.
― a strange man (mh), Wednesday, 21 May 2014 00:33 (nine years ago) link
Phone nothing, we have an internal instant message server
Sure, but someone may not be able to get IMs either.
― nitro-burning funny car (Moodles), Wednesday, 21 May 2014 00:42 (nine years ago) link
If someone can't get instant messages or emails, they can't get a phone call. It's the same device! In fact a phone call is less likely to be received anyway since it's a synchronous, exclusive mode of communication. Multiple email and IM conversations can occur at the same time, making it more efficient in some ways (except when you need to explain something complicated).
― fields of salmon, Wednesday, 21 May 2014 00:49 (nine years ago) link
That's all possible but it means that your phone is set up to ring or vibrate for every email and IM that comes in. If I had my phone set up that way and monitored it 24/7, I'd be a basket case. Expecting people to constantly monitor these things outside of work hours is unreasonable. (I get that plenty of businesses still expect this anyway)
― nitro-burning funny car (Moodles), Wednesday, 21 May 2014 00:54 (nine years ago) link
I have to be on a work computer to see my work email. I had not been at work. I realize that I could set up my phone to receive work emails when I'm not at work but I do not want to receive work emails when I'm not at work. I only even check my personal email about once a day, usually.
― The Reverend, Wednesday, 21 May 2014 01:03 (nine years ago) link
It's the same device!
lol not during my work day it's not
― a strange man (mh), Wednesday, 21 May 2014 01:47 (nine years ago) link
Email may be pervasive but if you're last minute changing a booked appointment, you call the damn person. They are likely on route for one thing.
― the Bronski Review (Trayce), Wednesday, 21 May 2014 02:06 (nine years ago) link
I worked with a guy who used to ignore all kinds of stuff then turn up at meetings and say
"email is not a form of communication"
― pick it up for ripple laser (onimo), Wednesday, 21 May 2014 08:09 (nine years ago) link
If someone can't get instant messages or emails, they can't get a phone call. It's the same device!
― kinder, Wednesday, 21 May 2014 09:25 (nine years ago) link
It all depends on your work culture/expectations. Where I work, you could and would cancel via email bc the firm issues Blackberries or will set up work email on your personal smart phone and the expectation is that you check it during regular business hours (and beyond). Nobody would text work communications. It doesn't sound like that's the expectation where Rev works and this peer is being tone deaf and unproductively defensive about it.
I'm glad you all made up, though!
― carl agatha, Wednesday, 21 May 2014 10:59 (nine years ago) link
carl otm. where I work, we have corporate emails go to our phone, however we have to log into a specific program to get them, and many of us opt not to when we're not in the office as it takes a while to d/l them. But we also have instant message programs too. I would have missed that email message too, in Rev's instance, but could have received a phone call/text etc.
Likewise, if a meeting is already scheduled and agreed to, the default assumption should be that if the other party has not said otherwise, that the meeting is still on. You can certainly reconfirm, but do it the day before, not the morning of. and if you do happen to send an email the morning of and get no reply, the default assumption should be "we are still a go", not "oh ok guess he changed his mind, time to make other plans".
I would have been pretty snippy in that situation myself.
― getting strange ass all around the globe (Neanderthal), Wednesday, 21 May 2014 13:49 (nine years ago) link
not to belabor this but the method of comm doesn't really matter here -- if you have a meeting on the books, you can't throw out a message saying 'hey is this on?' and then assume it's off if you don't get a reply. a date's a date.
― goole, Wednesday, 21 May 2014 16:34 (nine years ago) link
Yeah, if something is not explicitly cancelled, it's on!
― a strange man (mh), Wednesday, 21 May 2014 16:35 (nine years ago) link
otm
― getting strange ass all around the globe (Neanderthal), Wednesday, 21 May 2014 16:42 (nine years ago) link
Not always true. Sometimes meetings are scheduled far enough in advance that they get redundant as the date approaches. Eg a meeting designed to answer a particular question.
― fields of salmon, Wednesday, 21 May 2014 21:40 (nine years ago) link
Right, but if someone was a mediator of that meeting and didn't know the question was addressed, they're going to show up! This isn't some tree falls in the forest shit. The meeting is a meeting as long as at least one person attends, and if it wasn't clear to all involved that it was off, then you didn't cancel the damn meeting.
― a strange man (mh), Wednesday, 21 May 2014 21:52 (nine years ago) link
I have specifically gone to a meeting room to say "hey, we got this figured out, thanks for showing up" because it was realized at the last minute we didn't need it! No need to be a dick.
― a strange man (mh), Wednesday, 21 May 2014 21:53 (nine years ago) link
Yeah true. Listen I go to a lot of meetings and listen politely even though the ship has already sailed. I'm just saying if everyone goes "is this still happening?" There's a better chance everyone will go "ah fuck it" and we all get an hour back.
― fields of salmon, Wednesday, 21 May 2014 22:00 (nine years ago) link
Yeah, but The Rev's original point was that he has no expectation of checking his work email outside of the work environment and that lady is a jerk for assuming he would
― a strange man (mh), Wednesday, 21 May 2014 23:16 (nine years ago) link
like, here's the deal, I have a work email account I only check at work, or from my work laptop. If they gave me a phone, I would check work email on it. I can have my own phone connected to work email, but a) I'm not required to, so why not keep my time my own and b) they require that they have the ability to remote wipe my iPhone via a corporate profile I'd have to load.
So unless someone knows I'm working off hours, which I'd only do if absolutely necessary, assuming I'd know about an email or calendar update removing a meeting that is done outside of my office hours is dickish. And I'm on salary. If I was hourly, fuuuuck having work email to check when I'm not getting paid.
― a strange man (mh), Wednesday, 21 May 2014 23:19 (nine years ago) link
You all live in the 1990s don't you.
― fields of salmon, Thursday, 22 May 2014 01:43 (nine years ago) link
I'm sorry you're at beck and call for work 24-7, that is very 2014 and a living hell imo
btw "working in 2014" isn't a universal good
― a strange man (mh), Thursday, 22 May 2014 02:16 (nine years ago) link
There is no fucking way anyone is ever getting me 24/7 for work. Fuck that shit right off. I dont care how much you pay me.
― the Bronski Review (Trayce), Thursday, 22 May 2014 03:38 (nine years ago) link