Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

i like the sound of you more than the sound of him.

do they have hobby lobby where you are, might be a good place for date #2

you can do some gluing, other hobby things

I lamely tried to point out that I am happy to do lots of different things from time to time.

Sounds v reasonable - I think you said you went to the odd chamber opera so you can drag someone that would be up for that and understands your other commitments.

re: drinking. Meet quite a few who don't, mostly because they are health concious (v much into yoga). Completely fine - people shouldn't do what they don't have to.

ahem

I think people who actually use the phrase "do you have any hobbies?" are generally horrible.

Can't people just ask others what they like or like to do?

I think I mentioned it on ilx but a friend went on a date and one of the first thing he was asked is the hobby question and he very nearly just peaced out of there

ok cupid is my hobby duh

boy i love the weirdness of this thread

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a1xjcyyuDM0

lol gr80

*pulls 1/48 scale messerschmitt from purse*

I think he also thought I didn't ask enough questions re his percussive guitar playing. Nothing against it! But no questions.

― ljubljana, Thursday, March 20, 2014

find me a man who is like "ask me about my percussive guitar playing" and i will find a you a bullet dodged

My eyebrows shot up when he asked about hobbies, and I started laughing at "Do you even have time to date??" DO YOU EVEN LIFT BRO?

Well, I just realized I don't have time to date you, clearly.

The date question is overbearing. The hobby question is fine. Hobbies are great.

I think this guy was basically trying to figure out if you were some kind of crazy workaholic, and doing it in the most stupid, obnoxious way possible

Yeah, his reaction to the hobby question's answer isn't sympathetic. It should be clear that ljub does enjoy a broad range of 'culture shit' and can aptly participate in his own discourses

ha i kind of like that guy. he asked, and you both figured something out pretty quickly.

the hell is 'percussive guitar playing' tho

Hobbies: Turning dreams into...reality

xp:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dMONzLf8VvA

first thing I think of

first thing I think of is Newton Faulkner, should probably stab the part of my brain that makes that connection.

oh, I see he goes on to use actual percussion instruments in this one. just the slappy stuff at the beginning, is what I'm talking about.

ha i kind of like that guy. he asked, and you both figured something out pretty quickly.

yeah devils advocate here, it really is a bummer when you meet someone you like a whole lot and really would like to date but their schedule only allows seeing you once or twice a month, maybe he's been down that road too many times and has learned to spot it early now

just asking "do you even have time to date?" is a kind of terrible way of addressing it but its a valid concern imo

find me a man who is like "ask me about my percussive guitar playing" and i will find a you a bullet dodged

^otm tho

board description vote+

"I am happy to give up half of my hobbies for tlc"

keller williams, newton faulkner. thanks for the tips, guys.

really.

http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/03/the-problem-of-trespassing-on-niche-dating-sites/283988/

ha i kind of like that guy. he asked, and you both figured something out pretty quickly.

Yeah, if he'd done it slightly differently it would have been ok! I mean, of course I'd take more time off if I was dating somebody, but I'm rarely going to be able to stop work for the entire weekend, so if that's a problem...

find me a man who is like "ask me about my percussive guitar playing" and i will find a you a bullet dodged

I tried not to think this thought, but I'll admit I failed.

That's a dude that's going to buy a Chapman stick one day.

Hey cmon dont diss the stick.
http://www.stickcenter.com/Interview/Levin/levinstickx.jpg

^^^ Is that Moley?

haha!

Has anyone here used Hinge? It's like Tinder but there has more Facebook connections. It seems more "serious" than Tinder. I met someone through there last week and it went super well!

Ugh, "there has" sorry about that.

was this the thread where people were talking about people who don't drink? i don't drink btw, but why would that make people think twice or w/e?

dating

thanks

people often use drinking as a social lubricant to make conversation and the physical intimacy of dating easier

on the other hand, some people really use bargoing and the like as an actual activity, rather than having a beer while doing something else, so not having a drink brings attention to the fact their conversation sucks

i don't give a shit if other people drink

my roomie did in college and i played beer pong sober w/ him and my friend and his friend. a lot of my friends still do drink and i go out to eat with them while they are.

signed, a guy who doesn't want to think about the quality of his conversation and likes drinking

they feel self-conscious when you don't drink

that's cool! your friends are not self-conscious about it and accept you (and themselves) as friends should

people who drink who care about people who don't drink probably have a problem with their drinking

we're a very judgey society

it's true

i don't know how many of my friends don't drink at the point. one i think

it depends on whether you mean having a drink or two after work or wine with dinner, having a couple at the bar, or people who _drink_

I think it's only the latter group you wouldn't have much in common with

maybe! i'm still relatively sheltered so i guess i wouldn't know