Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

maybe you just hate women and American women don't like that

on the nose

can't we just let these poor misogynists misoge

patenting misogecoin now

it's not just that there are misogynists on okc... actually the medium is the misoge

Nice

Always makes me sad to think about how I might have blocked/hid a potential soulmate on OKC because she had put "Little Miss Sunshine" in her favorite movies

that's a great movie

*blocks*

I briefly dated someone who had a Harry Potter poster and liked TGI Fridays

Were you both 15?

I'm not on OKCupid, and the movie's not out here yet, but I used a phone app to suggest to a girl that we see Grand Budapest Hotel in May, and she said yes

braggin 2014

I kind of refuse to date someone who refuses to ride a bike

can't believe you'd diss ned/morbs like that

the question is, do you have the guts to actually put that in your profile? NO BIKES, NO LIKES

I did for a while but I like to change it up--it used to say, "You should like to ride bikes, do things, and eat foods" but then I realized I was obliquely referencing my exes of that year and it felt too reactionary.

hmmmmm.

Your exes didn't like to eat foods?

One of them literally had nothing in his fridge except bean sprouts and two avocados and like three eggs--ever.

He also complained about being fat a lot. Body dysmorphic disorder is a thing, y'all.

bean sprouts and two avocados and like three eggs

lol i read this and was like "damn that sounds like a great meal"

it doesn't sound unreasonable if you get a little more specific like "go out to dinner occasionally" and "leave the house", "do things" and "eat food" sounds kinda funny

I have dated some...different people. That I probably should not have.

Ugh one morning that guy served me a mango for breakfast. Y'all might be into that but they make my mouth numb and I am HANGRY in the morning.

lol

thats real

I kind of refuse to date someone who refuses to ride a bike

can't believe you'd diss ned/morbs like that

c'mon mook, she doesn't like movies unless they have magic in them, either! :)

a mango is not a breakfast

I only really ever make breakfast on special occasions and there's no way I'd be comfortable doing so for a guest if I hadn't pre-planned. I think I'd probably offer to go out to eat or possibly you'd get a granola bar or yogurt if you're lucky.

I messaged someone who okcupid sent me a link to because I thought I saw her at a concert last week. So, uh, I asked if she had been to any concerts lately. She confirmed she was at that show and said something about how she's going to bonnaroo this year and I haven't messaged back yet. Is messaging "oh that's nice" after four days bad?

What was the show?

Cibo Matto, that part was ok

i think it's ok. don't make a thing of it. people are busy!

yeah, but busy at... oh wait, you mean for me

I thought you were trying to excuse her interest in bonnaroo

It's not all Phish and the String Cheese Incident anymore.

now featuring… a monogamous/nonmanogamous setting?

friend percentage is also history

I've always been kind of curious, and would not mind hearing opinions about, the extent to which listing one's sobriety may or may not ward people off. While I've determined I'm undateable in any case, whether by being cursed or by natural repulsion, I get paranoid that people automatically give me a pass upon seeing "Drinks: Not at all." While it doesn't help that I'm not conventionally "fun" in general, I wouldn't be surprised if mid-20s people care that much about drinking.

Or rather, if not drinking becomes automatically associated with judgemental prudishness?

You could be right, but I think it's simpler: most of the stuff people that "youngins" seem to do involves drinking due to lack of imagination

Also: people in their 30s, 40s, and older.

I admit I'll give pause to non drinker - but I'm not judging them. I assume they're gonna judge me! :/

^that

imo you should have a witty explanation/reference to your sobriety in one of your essays to put ppl at ease

"nope, i don't drink. i'll buy you one though." or something

yeah that'd work nicely

xpost: smooth!

I've gone on dates with a couple OKC folks who were in the "not at all" drinking category, and I admit I usually want to know why before I proceed but it will not ward me off! If they are on the wagon and therefore cannot be around drinkers or hang out in bars, that is kind of problematic for compatibility with my lifestyle because I am a sometimes lush. The biggest stumbling block is how I would introduce them to my OKC-skeptical friends, who also all drink.

friend percentage is also history

It's still there on the app.

I've noticed that a lot of people in my area show up in the app but not on the website proper, especially people who show up as high matches for friendship. I'm not sure why it is but it makes me feel like there is some funny business going on.

I'd much rather date a non-drinker than a drinker. I drink maybe 3-4 drinks a month.

Date last night was by far the most promising since moving here. Jury was out on chemistry but potential was there and conversation was fun and relaxed. He explained early on that he'd fairly recently gone from 12-hour work days to a normal working day, and talked about the fun stuff he was doing. Then he asked whether I had any hobbies, and I said no, and this was clearly a deal-breaker for him! He couldn't believe I don't play a musical instrument, regularly hike, play sport, paint, or whatever. I lamely tried to point out that I am happy to do lots of different things from time to time. Then he asked whether I had weekends off. I said not exactly (what grad student has 'weekends off'?!) and he asked point blank 'do you have time to date?' I blurbled something about fitting it in when it happens. Things went downhill from there.

hobbies, who has hobbies

I think he also thought I didn't ask enough questions re his percussive guitar playing. Nothing against it! But no questions.