"Can I say you're my girlfriend on Facebook?"

ach, what the hell. i'll chuck my request in too ;)

kenan, you are now in my myspazzy hall of fame. i sent you an initiation message.

hall of fame shame

er. i don't, really. there are subtleties and niceties, but it's all one big swirling vortex round grimly's social sphere.
Aye, and you're probably the only person I know like this, tbh. Still, there are subjects you'll only talk about with certain people, surely? But there's no way to reflect that with FB.

Flickr does this quite well with its per-picture friends/family/public thing, whereas with FB it's either on or off - your friend can see your wall or they can't. You can't have everyone but your boss see "killing my boss" as a status, for a stupid example.

if a subject is only for the ears/eyes of certain people, why would you even consider putting it on facebook?

gareth, myspazz comments are hardly any less inane!

http://www.myglitterz.com/comments/weekend/6-22_02.gif

stet: yes, you're dead on -- i'd like a degree more subtlety with my FB privacy. unless i'm getting it wrong, all i can do is set up one limited profile and then say, right, these people can see that.

which isn't ideal: what i'd like is to be able to set up, say, three different limited profiles for three different people. it is a bit all-or-nothing right now.

like i say, though: ultimately, it's a public forum. so yes, there are going to be some things that even i wouldn't say, no matter what privacy options i might be offered. i mean, you and me, we know to our cost how damaging it can be when the wrong information gets into the wrong hands, perhaps because you someone decides, in a move of unprecedented madness, to paste a private e-mail onto the pasteboard next to page two of a newsp ... ah, never mind :) :) :)

GF what you can do is make sure that when you're searched as an individual or they send an email they can't see your status or any other info, not even your friends. Also please to give more info re. pasteboard screw up!

I've got mine seriously limited but as TH pointed out, I'll still be in stats searches etc. I'm liking this at the moment, it's a lot better than Myspace anyway.

Apparently it's bad form to delete messages on your own wall but I think I might make an exception in the case of a uni mate who's scrawled YES TO GET THE NEW RADIOHEAD STUFF JUST GO TO BIT TORR....etc etc.

Yes pls more info on pasteboard.

yes, i can imagine radiohead's lawyers have been poised over your profile for weeks now, just waiting to ... umm ... sorry, why would you be remotely worried?

:)

unless radiohead's lawyers have never heard of bittorrent. or the new album.

(as for the pasteboard thing: no fucking WAY.)

Radiohead's lawyers live in my broom cupboard.

Actually I was more bothered about the wife sending me public gifts. He's new, please excuse.

Haha, yes I did think re: pasteboard actually I think I don't need to know...

I am pushing for a graffiti application to be added to the new production system, so I can draw cocks on the pasteboard of grimly's pages.

why has facebook suddenly exploded in popularity in the last 2 weeks?

it's all down to us.

Facebook was always insanely popular with people of my age group. Even non-uni students are more likely than not to have an account; I've been able to track down and reunite with virtually all my primary school friends at the mere click of a button. There's been a recent explosion of non-university, non-school-leaver accounts, so now pretty much all demographics are covered (except, for some reason, 'parents'), but since early 2005, it's been pretty much compulsory for students.

Yeah exactly...I know it's been popular always.

But in the last two weeks this thread has been revived here and I've got about 6 friend requests on it. And then read on a blog "So I finally signed up for Facebook".

WHY?

HIVEMIND. I dunno, I signed up 2 weeks ago because some friends were bugging me to (as I said upthread), but it seems I am part of some huge general trend.

Waitaminute. Radiohead leaked?

"studio mixes"

I only know this because of someone's fb status...

It's like Day of the Triffids - we'll all go blind because of this.

I "poked" the one old schoolfriend who I wish I'd kept in touch with and he responded by friending me. Which led to me writing a summary of the last 17 years of my life in an email to him at 1:30 this morning. I finished by 1:32, obv.

hehe....it is kinda creepy the way it has everyone's full name.

I got friended by someone I met for about 2 minutes in a bar with friends a few weeks ago and the people she was with are all in the main picture with full names.

Ah right. Cheers Zoe.

You get a couple of web and press articles on Facebook just because MySpace talk getting boring. Then other papers and magazines see this and jump on bandwagon. All in turn convincing more people out there to join it which in turn prompts more media coverage. I think this is the only reason for the explosion - we've seen it work this way with other things before.

southall hasn't posted his social networking meets ID cards scare stories on here has he? he should. they're very scary.

hehe....it is kinda creepy the way it has everyone's full name.

I know. Makes me wonder I made ILE group closed cause of 90 procent of the *applicants* I didn't know their name!

Which led to me writing a summary of the last 17 years of my life in an email to him at 1:30 this morning. I finished by 1:32, obv

hahahah: i said exactly the same thing to the dude from school, ie: "how am i going to condense 15 years into one e-mail? er ... worryingly easily, i fear."

the place is filling up with my cousins now. it's quite worrying.

guys i got a facebook invite from Darramouss

I was thinking about this while bored the other day - if ILX was deleted tomorrow, how many people I really like here would I stick in touch with? Probably not many, outside London, and maybe not all of them.

This is partly why the "if I really liked them I would have stayed in touch with them in the first place" line doesn't quite hold for me. It happens time and time again that, when the context for friendships vanishes, many of the friendships themselves don't migrate or adapt. Maybe the really close ones but that's about it. Especially when you drunkenly lose your phone and all your numbers once a year like I do.

Where Facebook has been so successful is creating a context for a lot of old/dormant/current friendships to migrate to, and possibly stick there. Far more than MySpace/Friendsreunited/anything else.

Especially when you drunkenly lose your phone and all your numbers once a year like I do

once a month more like and that's generous. did you lose it at glasto?

I agree. I lost touch with a some people just from having lived in 7 cities and moved house many times within an 8-year period. I've been surprised at the lack of awkwardness when re-acquainting myself with a couple of people. There's been no excuses made for why we lost touch. I think a lot of my awkward feeling of 'oh no not them' when I see some old friends pop up on fb is nothing to do with me not liking the blast-from-the-past thing but my own guilt about failing to even say hi for years and years.

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its glastonbury not glasto, chiz chiz more champers what?

abbreviations are not the sole privilege of the leisure classes

my Uni friend Giles said so.

Pompey fans to thread.

Actually, no, Pompey fans fuck off.

abbreviations are fine

just not 'glasto'

what's wrong with champagne?! i mean champers dahling

It is not real ale and doesn't come with with free flat cap and ferret.

all of those are really bad things though

Idea of drinking champagne >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> actually drinking champagne. Most overrated boozestuff ever except possibly cider.

Not in the tipsy topsy world of 696.

people rate cider?

girls in flat caps=quality

- real ale makes you fat and doesn't taste nice, give me pimm's any day
- flat caps are for old men, i do not like old men
- ferrets are ugly and smell and bite

Where do you stand on ferrets, 696?

I rate cider over champagne.

i would never stand on a ferret, ed

id kick a horse in the face though, if you paid me £20

Is that John Willie's 'os? The one what won the the Grand National?