Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

My profile already says, "Don't message me unless you're committed to dismantling the patriarchy," I put that shit right out there. Come the fuck on.

i somehow found imago in the results of a 'girls who like guys' search i did. think i need an hour or two to recover from his profile.

― Merdeyeux, Saturday, November 2, 2013 7:24 PM (Yesterday)

if the hypothetical CardiacsPrincesse69xxx discovers ilx through lj's profile, i think it would be hilarious!

I found possibly my favorite profile ever, from a attractive young female butcher.

What I'm doing with my life: "grinding up meat and bones by day, getting my grind on at the club by night!"

The most personal thing I'll admit: "I have deep sexual fantasies involving my trade"

Ha, profiles inhabited by characters from early suede songs.

six visitors gave my profile a high ranking like tihs past weekend, only to find out they were all girls from Georgia cuz OKCupid recalibrated my location when I went to ATL this weekend. :/ oh well maybe that suggests I need to move! :)

did you use the mobile app while you were there? it's likely they just swiped right in the "locals" thing and never even saw your profile.

yeah that's what I think it was cuz I did use the local app.

question--is it weird to ask a woman on okc to go hear a band she likes? i have an extra ticket and figure what the hell (i've only been on the site for a couple weeks, sent a couple hi, how are yas, got nothin')

I wouldn't ask that as a first date, no. Because then you're not just seeing if you even like the person, you're the gatekeeper of this experience for them? Also frankly you both deserve to be on a date in which the other person is really trying to hear and see you and like, decide whether to do it again...not watching the stage.

tbh as a trial run for a relationship having them rather be focusing on something else isnt a bad shout

thanks folks--i thought it was a little weird so glad i asked...thanks again!

i dunno, i thought it was a pretty good idea
but as usual, all ppl are different and like different things. i also would rather see a band than talk to a stranger in more than 15 min bursts.

If you have a bad experience it could poison the well wrt band forever

how bad could it be? you're just going to see a band.

nothing ventured imo, but would go better if you'd "spoken" to her already

What if he developed a massive unrequited crush and also got food poisoning

don't listen to them Iago, i would love to go to the Cardiacs show with you!!

btw srs advice i thought it was a neat idea

:D matt!

you guys are nice...it's destroyer at bowery ballroom, btw!

hi bbz :)

If I'd gone to a show with that guy from the oth night instead of us talking for 3 hours until he got around to his punitive social policies, I might have had fun and made out w him or w/e and then felt like I was "in" something instead of being able to peace out as soon as I felt weird. That's just me! But I have substituted "shared experiences" for actually liking people a lot of times so for me it's important to keep it perspective and be paying attention.

i think it depends on whether she is relying on you for transportation. I mean, it's a show, so you give her her ticket, and if you don't hit it off, you can go separate ways whenever.

IMO go to the show and then just spontaneously start weeping during one of the songs for no reason, and she how she reacts

i think its a good idea!

i also would rather see a band than talk to a stranger in more than 15 min bursts.

otfm

i think it depends on whether she is relying on you for transportation. I mean, it's a show, so you give her her ticket, and if you don't hit it off, you can go separate ways whenever.

― sarahell, Monday, November 4, 2013 5:53 PM (14 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

well, it is new york, so if she just wants to split that's doable

i think its a good idea!

― homosexual II

you do? my idea? now i'm torn, i might very well give it a shot though! the concert is sunday, i figure i can wait until thursday to decide...the agony!

agree to get a drink before the show

Look if you don't want to talk to your date for more than 15 minutes, you shouldn't be on a date with them. Just saying.

tbf i am going to die alone

you guys crack me up, i'm loving this thread...drink before is crucial, if nothing's clicking she can just take off at any point

i'll go to destroyer at bowery ballroom hit me up

Crut, we can all die alone together it's okay.

not 15 min total, just short bursts

if she says no taek caek for sure

take him, dude

gr8080 otm - if the chat is excruciating you can just go watch the support, and if it isn't, you can ignore the support. Anyway if she hates the whole idea, she'll say no or won't respond. I personally hate the idea and would say no, for the same reasons as in orbit - but that's just us.

agree to get a drink before the show

― ᶓ͠סּᴥ͠סּᶔ ᶓͼ᷆ₓͼ᷇ᶔ (gr8080), Monday, November 4, 2013 3:13 PM (1 hour ago)

that's a good idea

here's my piece. just set it up for drinks only. if you can see you both get along and could have fun hanging out, suggest checking out the show like an hour or two in (if it's feasible, like, grab drinks near the venue or something 'hey there's this cool show going on, wnat to check it out?' or some crap like that). that way you don't put too many expectations on the date and you get to throw in a spontaneous element.

you know, it prob depends on the whole vibe of the night and the person's personality and your chemistry togehter. guess there's no one-size-fits all fun plan that'd work. every person and situation and night is different.

o you like destroyer? i must have missed that when i read your profile-- funny coincidence: i have here in my pocket 2 tickets to his sold-out show, taking place around the corner from here, just over an hour from right now.

p smooth

lol

yeahhhhhhhhh Destroyer date i don't know

o you like destroyer? i must have missed that when i read your profile-- funny coincidence: i have here in my pocket 2 tickets to his sold-out show, taking place around the corner from here, just over an hour from right now.

p smooth

― ᶓ͠סּᴥ͠סּᶔ ᶓͼ᷆ₓͼ᷇ᶔ (gr8080), Monday, November 4, 2013 8:55 PM (2 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

[Takes notes]

My latest OKC strategy was to try to hide every member I had no interest in, until I'd be left with only a small handful, forcing me to choose by process of elimination. Ultimately I ended up finally deleting (as opposed to just disabling) my account.

I did ATP as a first date with someone off OKC, just because it happened to be the only time we both had free and were both going. It was great!

...we're not dating now that said, thats bandmatecrush.

Guy I haven't met yet invited me to his restaurant/bar in Rockaway Park for dinner/drinks. Do I need to microchip my body parts before I go?

Uh so I'm doing this tonight actually. Leaving actual factual address with my roommate, not that he can even leave the house much less come rescue me. But if you never hear from me again, have them drag Jamaica Bay at the end of Beach 97.

omg did u survive

Good call. I meant to ask myself, as well.

Should we send out the hounds?

Here is a link of Jamaica Bay with the transit routes turned on: https://maps.google.com/?ll=40.60874,-73.883057&spn=0.145438,0.254402&t=h&z=12&lci=transit_comp

105 Precinct Police Department
92-08 222nd Street
Queens Village, NY 11428
(718) 776-9090

Oh, darn, they're closed on Sundays. And they got 1.8 stars on Google Reviews: https://plus.google.com/115980760423296789179/about?gl=us&hl=en

Boat owner, fisherman, professional executive chef, excellent wrists. I'll say there will be a second date.

yay!