Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

decency

manners

your little dot will change colors to yellow or green

the fortuitous discovery that you're interested in someone after all

ehh - non-response is part of the game. if I don't get a reply to an email I just move on. people don't need a protracted explanation of why you're not interested in them on these sites unless you actually start dating and it fizzles out.

preserving your reputation among people who know the person you're not responding to

practice

frequent flyer miles

reply to 9 get the 10th free

if you wait a week to reply to someone, is that just as bad?

half the time I forget to reply until that many days has passed

I stopped talking to a guy once and then picked it back up a full 4 months later, having realised he was more interesting than Id given credit. We ended up dating on and off for most of last year and now hes my dearest friend.

If you do, just don't lead them on! The difficulty with this is that replying itself is sometimes enough to lead someone on.

if you wait a week to reply to someone, is that just as bad?

― ᶓ͠סּᴥ͠סּᶔ ᶓͼ᷆ₓͼ᷇ᶔ (gr8080), Tuesday, October 29, 2013 6:38 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

This just prompted me to send a work email that I'd forgotten about

semi-related, i don't think people should complain about feeling "led on" unless they like, pick up their whole life in response to a marriage proposal that the person later drops or something.

instead of replying I just deleted my profile, wonder how that will be interpreted

"holy God, he found me so hideous he decided never to date again? time to cut me wrists, it tis"

don't think it's necessary to respond to folks you're not interested in. i don't expect them in response to the messages i send out.

i recently reactivated my okc acct and it's started to become this outsized presence in my life. i keep tweaking my profile and answering questions. i should just let it sit for a while...

sshhhhhiiiiiiiit

http://www.theonion.com/articles/funloving-laidback-woman-with-a-bit-of-a-nerdy-sid,34395/

but how does she feel about beards?

do you want to be her beard

fuck, I reversed that, mods please delete this thread

got dumped by online dating lady via text message whilst on the bus this morning, after one (what I thought to be a) good date. Got off the bus, who should I walk past but the dumper herself. Don't think she noticed me, if she did she's a good actor :-/

that's not dumping but unlucky chum

it is both

yeah using the word "dumping" in a broad sense here; "let me down" I suppose I could have said. Whatevs.

On reflection I realised that I had seen her walking near my place of work before, so not impossible I will run into her again. It's like something from Curb Your Enthusiasm.

dumping implies more than one date! this is simply depositing.

thx for vocabulary check, very helpful

anyways, weirdness of the coincidence today has been compounded by another girl I've been in touch with who turns out to be a student at the university I work at. I'm pretty sure I walked past her yesterday evening on leaving work. So the two people I'm romantically interested in turn out to hang around at or near where I make a living.

this, in a city of 7m people.

Are you sure you're not in a movie

sliding neils

ha

lol the thought had crossed my mind! A really boring version of The Truman Show

maybe the girl from the bus binned you because she wants to date the other girl

l'enfer, c'est les autobuses

xp haven't quite reached the stage of causing women to give up on men yet, but give it time

i'm in the wrong country

profile search for 'pynchon' confirms this

has ILX made me spiritually American?

just look for someone with similar affectations for long-winded writers and search for 'joyce' or something

looking for someone who shares your exact tastes and not just someone who is similarly enthusiastic about their tastes that are of a similar intellectual level seems pretty choosy

America seems to have, in general, a greater wealth of people into High Art & avant-garde music rather than yr usual drippy indie bollocks

haha I'm not looking for an exact taste-match! just giving an example

America seems to have, in general, a greater wealth of people into High Art & avant-garde music rather than yr usual drippy indie bollocks

Nah, they're just pretentiously listing things as signifiers, but having an online romance with a Britisher would definitely be in that realm of signifiers.

haha otm

i think britishers seem a bit less inclined towards the big list of things you like thing than americans are.

I'm certainly not going to list all the books and movies and music I like. But yes, it's definitely an american thing

most british profiles have a small list of things, and they all have bloody neil gaiman on it

etc

I also think that signifiers are quite important in this context! How else can you convey your Aesthetics except by writing-style (which most profiles keep fairly mundane too)