no boys allowed in the room!!!!

oh i missed that somehow, sorry.

Maybe whoever sent off the specimens got it all wrong at his office.

As much as docs like to blame stuff on front office, the front office is THE LLC (i.e., the doc's) responsibility. He/she is responsible for the front office staff and the management of the practice. Nice try with the "blaming the office staff" (not directed at your case specifically, tera, just in general). That is 100% bullshit because this is YOUR staff and YOU are responsible for their performance. "But I didn't go to med school to learn how to run an office" does not exempt you from having your company run well.

I get soooooo pissed at the blame-the-office-staff thing. You are the CEO and/or partner in your practice, take fucking responsibility and fix it, or accept that YOU are incompetent.

2.5 weeks, still bleedin. not pregnant. blood tests n ultrasounds in my near future. yay.

:(

I hope everything is okay! Also maybe take an iron supplement you poor thing.

Oh bummers Trayce. Hope everything gets resolved quickly.

otm. safe travels, and cosign iron supplement

Its got worse in the last 24 hours. I feel ok, but pretty sore and a bit run down. Doc gave me a scrip for some med that will make my blod clot more. I want a 2nd opinion from the pharmacist or something before I take it tho. Wouldnt a clotting med be bad for a smoker?

Good idea on the iron tho. I might make mysef a big steak for dinner.

oh man, i have no idea how to answer that question but i wish you the best of luck.

on a completely different note, i have been looking through my diaries. i started with a particularly bad one because i honestly couldn't remember what had really gone down during that period of my life, and then i went back to the first one, which started in 1986. that's the one where i saw dirty dancing and it affected me lol profoundly. my writing is huge and loopy and childish, but i was definitely going through some...hormonal changes.

then i read that whole thing, which took me from 7th gr through 10th gr. then today i found the one after that, which contained a detailed description of my first make out. i don't know if i feel old or disembodied or confused or what, but reading my goofy childish handwriting and trying to digest that i am that same person is making me feel suuuuuper weird.

i dunno, the whole thing is a bit much. not sure why i am putting myself through this?! i was an exhaustive cataloguer of my life and its details because i knew that no one else would remember all the things i wanted to remember (or care), so i guess what is kinda making my head spin is that in some visible-only-to-me ways, i haven't changed at all.

Oooh sometimes I hate reading old diaries and things. I found some stuff in a drawer cleaning up on the weekend and it was me writing whiny letters to an ex that I never sent. Made me feel gross bringing it all up again.

I have all my old diaries but I don't know why. I don't want to read them and they are taking up valuable space. I can't bring myself to get rid of them, though.

Don't get rid of them!! I kept mine because someone has to care about my life and that person is me! This is why I wrote everything down in the first place iirc.

If you want to store them you can store them safely in my basement and you have my solemn word that I will not go anywhere near them.

Aw that is a kind offer! You are making me reconsider getting rid of them. Not bc of the storage solution - just bc of your enthusiasm for their preservation.

save every signpost from the road to agatha.

Please please do not discard!! I will hold them in the back of a closet for you until you want them -- we're not going anywhere! That's your life and you can't discard it. I insist!

Im glad the horriblest bit of my life didnt get journalised.

me too

Even my brain's kindly wiped a certain section of about a year. Good brain.

...well that was erm, interesting!

what what?

lots of deleted shitty image posts

ohhhh. Thanks, roxy, for sparing me/us whatever it was.

and a temp ban

solid work. this thread is a treasure, no shit.

why like once a week does a man post in this thread

i saw that there were images but i was on my phone and didn't care to see what they were
why is a good question

Who was it?

I am wondering that myself, but loathe to give whoever it was any more of the attention he clearly craves.

I just want to know who I can safely ignore going forward. PM me!

well i wanna know too
i know the person's fake username but i doubt a random googler would register an account and img spam this thread

color definition point of "beyond "color, eg a transient that has been temporarily banned.

its luriqua

lol

to get us back to discussing ourselves i will start with discussing me: i have to see a rheumetologist to further narrow down what disease i have (lupus or MCTD or...??), but i don't have insurance :/ my doc at school called me today to say that the rheumatologist they refer to requires a downpayment before he will see someone without insurance. i hope its not insane.

*rheumatologist

Oh man, that just makes me so angry, the whole insurance thing.

Have you looked into buying insurance through the HCA at all?

i havent. i definitely need to explore some options.

Not to sound like a mom lol but if you're facing the possibility of managing a chronic health condition, you really should get some coverage. I worry about you!

thx mom :x

haw

So a few weeks ago I was in a public performance art piece that involved almost 500 ppl and all participants were organized around gender justice issues. There were a small number of men but it was woman-centered and the total participants were overwhelmingly women. It took place on a residential block so the local residents had to be cultivated to be on board w it even though they were a tiny minority.

Yesterday we had a follow-up "debriefing" mtg and a disproportionate number of men attended it (which is partly bc it was a cold Sunday night and not enough women came and the location was extremely convenient for the residents but not the participants) and yet the men were BY FAR more likely to have comments, speak up, and hold the floor for longer. With ZERO apparent consciousness that they were not the center of the event OR the follow-up.

So just in general, the fact that men are always trying to post in this thread reminds me of how irritated I was last night, but that's what always happens...somewhere it stops even being surprising.

All the things that irk me about gender injustice, I try to keep just as much in mind about racial justice ish because I live/work in a community of color with women of color and our work, which is around street harassment, involves inspecting Black masculinity and cultural standards. I keep quiet a lot even though that's not my nature at all, AND IT'S NOT THAT HARD. I mean it's work in the sense that I have to be conscious of it and not feel "free" to make other ppl listen to my ideas all the time, but it's not, like, IMPOSSIBLE. Dudes, take note.

Not to make myself sound good at it because I have messed up and been insensitive and put out phrases or ideas that aren't cool because I'm just not mindful of them, and luckily my group (I think?) respects my effort/intent and forgives me and still values my involvement. It's not all-or-nothing, it's a learning process. All that's asked of people is to be aware and try to do better.

So, like, w/r/t ilx dudes and my date from the other night and guys I talk to in general, you don't have to be all the way there with how you prioritize gender issues in your life. But you do have to SHUT UP AND SIT DOWN and not demand that things be about your feelings all the time.

fuck yes! well said

god, im dealing with something like this today. a (ostensibly liberal, activist ally-type) dude trying to intimidate me and another woman into silence.

Yeah, multiple of the men who were holding the floor last night also dropped their "activist" qualifications into the conversation! It's helping me understand the controversy around the word "ally" and how ppl sometimes act like it's a label that, once you achieve it, just stays with you like it's your resume, instead of being a *state of being* that you have to work at with your actions, forever.

How are you feeling as you deal with that? Are you getting support from a wider circle? You don't have to share anything more specific but if you want to I'm interested.

Hearing this a lot, particularly with respect to a Breaking Bad thread wherein some of ILX's MOST PROMINENT AND IMPORTANT FEMINIST DUDES just would not stfu and it just drives me nuts. I mean preaching white male privilege as a feminist authority when you are a white male is nagl when you are harping on and on and just not fucking shutting up and sitting down. OH THE IRONING.