Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

I'm so not photogenic, it really doesn't help my cause. the funny thing is they had a beta app once which let a random panel judge your pics, and all of my formal pics (dress shirt, tie, dress pants, etc) got the lowest scores, and the highest scored pic was a blurry one of me making a silly face in a bathroom at a bachelor party. go figure.

I did ask about how the tech side of gaming shapes the way you write your game narratives

Hahaha I have friends (such as N!) who if you asked that q you would get an equal large intake of breath, and "well, then" followed by half an hour of incomprehensible rambling. :)

Its when they dont even come up for air or stop if youre momentarily distracted that I find it irritating. Like an old friend the other week at a party, he was going on a GREAT length about his new virtual pinball table business concern but just kept talking even when someone else needed to grab my attention re the cooking or whatever. Gah!

The minute the question left my lips I knew it was risky.

I just started on OKC, and was wondering if there is an official message board or forum connected to the site? I only seem to find individual threads on reddit or whatever. Would be nice to have a place to chat with other OKCers other than just sending messages one on one....

I think there is (was?) a forum but they were kind of hiding it and trying to kill it off through neglect.

Oh wait: http://www.okcupid.com/forum

Yeah, thanks, Hawkindz...I had found that but it's just like when people update their profiles. Thanks, though!

is there any point to replying to messages from people you're not interested in? karma?

decency

manners

your little dot will change colors to yellow or green

the fortuitous discovery that you're interested in someone after all

ehh - non-response is part of the game. if I don't get a reply to an email I just move on. people don't need a protracted explanation of why you're not interested in them on these sites unless you actually start dating and it fizzles out.

preserving your reputation among people who know the person you're not responding to

practice

frequent flyer miles

reply to 9 get the 10th free

if you wait a week to reply to someone, is that just as bad?

half the time I forget to reply until that many days has passed

I stopped talking to a guy once and then picked it back up a full 4 months later, having realised he was more interesting than Id given credit. We ended up dating on and off for most of last year and now hes my dearest friend.

If you do, just don't lead them on! The difficulty with this is that replying itself is sometimes enough to lead someone on.

if you wait a week to reply to someone, is that just as bad?

― ᶓ͠סּᴥ͠סּᶔ ᶓͼ᷆ₓͼ᷇ᶔ (gr8080), Tuesday, October 29, 2013 6:38 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

This just prompted me to send a work email that I'd forgotten about

semi-related, i don't think people should complain about feeling "led on" unless they like, pick up their whole life in response to a marriage proposal that the person later drops or something.

instead of replying I just deleted my profile, wonder how that will be interpreted

"holy God, he found me so hideous he decided never to date again? time to cut me wrists, it tis"

don't think it's necessary to respond to folks you're not interested in. i don't expect them in response to the messages i send out.

i recently reactivated my okc acct and it's started to become this outsized presence in my life. i keep tweaking my profile and answering questions. i should just let it sit for a while...

sshhhhhiiiiiiiit

http://www.theonion.com/articles/funloving-laidback-woman-with-a-bit-of-a-nerdy-sid,34395/

but how does she feel about beards?

do you want to be her beard

fuck, I reversed that, mods please delete this thread

got dumped by online dating lady via text message whilst on the bus this morning, after one (what I thought to be a) good date. Got off the bus, who should I walk past but the dumper herself. Don't think she noticed me, if she did she's a good actor :-/

that's not dumping but unlucky chum

it is both

yeah using the word "dumping" in a broad sense here; "let me down" I suppose I could have said. Whatevs.

On reflection I realised that I had seen her walking near my place of work before, so not impossible I will run into her again. It's like something from Curb Your Enthusiasm.

dumping implies more than one date! this is simply depositing.

thx for vocabulary check, very helpful

anyways, weirdness of the coincidence today has been compounded by another girl I've been in touch with who turns out to be a student at the university I work at. I'm pretty sure I walked past her yesterday evening on leaving work. So the two people I'm romantically interested in turn out to hang around at or near where I make a living.

this, in a city of 7m people.

Are you sure you're not in a movie

sliding neils

ha

lol the thought had crossed my mind! A really boring version of The Truman Show

maybe the girl from the bus binned you because she wants to date the other girl

l'enfer, c'est les autobuses

xp haven't quite reached the stage of causing women to give up on men yet, but give it time

i'm in the wrong country

profile search for 'pynchon' confirms this

has ILX made me spiritually American?

just look for someone with similar affectations for long-winded writers and search for 'joyce' or something

looking for someone who shares your exact tastes and not just someone who is similarly enthusiastic about their tastes that are of a similar intellectual level seems pretty choosy