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two key quotes that jumped out at me from that lecture:
"In this paradox between love and desire, what seems to be so puzzling is that the very ingredients that nurture love - mutuality, reciprocity, protection, worry, responsibility for the other - are sometimes the very ingredients which stifle desire.
Because desire comes with a host of feelings: jealousy, possessiveness, aggression, power, dominance, naughtiness, mischief. Basically most of us will be turned on at night by the very same things that we will demonstrate against during the day... if everybody was fantasizing on a bed of roses, we wouldn't be having such interesting talks about this. We think love comes with selflessness and in fact, desire comes with a certain amount of selfishness, in the best sense of the word."
"Erotic couples understand that passion waxes and wanes like the moon: it has intermittent eclipses. But what they know is how to resurrect it because they have demystified one big myth: the myth of spontaneity. They understood that whatever is going to just happen in a long-term relationship already has. Committed sex is premeditated sex; it's willful, it's intentional, it's focused and present."
three weeks pass...
one year passes...