Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

yeah i don't really get the 15 minute boost. i've done it a couple of times, see the visits bump up for a moment, and ultimately fail to see the point.

also idg why the 'local' matches swipey thing that' supposed to match you with local people on 'he/she likes you' basis keep matching me with people from everywhere

you live in DC so my guess would be its people who are from other cities visiting DC and have opened the mobile app since doing so-- i met a NYC girl in Chicago that way

lately the only people who rate me highly are people who are from way outside the city - for example, detroit

the swipey thing is pretty much a straight-up Tinder rip, right?

http://venturebeat.com/2013/06/13/okcupid-and-tinder-hook-up/

ah, makes sense

Should I meet up with a vegan artist who lives to create and write? Surely not? Even if his profile is not annoying (still my only major criterion) and he's kind of hot? I've answered his message asking whether a culturally impoverished steak enthusiast would really be ok. Also a bit freaked out at someone with a six-year-old daughter answering one of the kid questions (I forget which one) with 'I am indifferent to kids', although at least it's honest.

Culturally impoverished? I think you underestimate yourself!

I made an account. I seem to only be being visited by microsofties :(

tmi

xp - nah, I'm not a total ignoramus but by this guy's standards.... people who live for these things are regularly shocked at writers I have not read and movies I have not watched

only one way to find out really, and I suspect you're already a little excited :P

Maybe he's indifferent to other people's kids?

Emailed someone on a whim today. Hope springs eternal also I woke up cold twice last night and there was no one to send to scavenge for more blankets.

^^ my kind of motivation

imago, I'm always excited to see a non-annoying profile. He wrote back to convincingly say he didn't care what I ate or watched, so here we go again.

don't think I'm getting a second date with the lady I met from OK Cupid on Tuesday. no big deal, as I wasn't 100% sure if there was a connection beyond "hey cool we all like the same stuff".

I'm noticing that I use my OKCupid accounts and Match.com accounts to meet different types of people. Ok Cupid is where I go to meet the grungey folks like me for one.

soft serve cupid

One day on and already got a msg from a cute queer grrl :)

One question tho, it lets me block str8 ppl from my profile, is there any box I can check to ban theater gays?

heyooo

I read soft serve comment and thought it meant a DQ employee

got visited by someone who bragged about their fast-living and that they loved to play their music loud.

Get to favorite music: "Dave Matthews Band".

. . .

Reason #5,472...

i made an ok cupid profile last week and went on one date. it was fine; the person was nice and i really enjoyed learning about her career which sounded awesome and was in a field i know nothing about, but it was nerve-wracking so i deleted my profile. also, i couldn't find a way to write my own profile that didn't make me sound terrible. if you write in a way that seems "knowing", and half-mock the contrivance of it all, you sound like an asshole, but if you earnestly write about "what kind of person you are" or whatever questions it asks it makes you sound like you think it's cool to parade your favorite books and hobbies as a way to get people to love you.

yeah honestly I mean I read the profiles of everyone I contact, mostly to make sure there are no dealbreakers, but I have to communicate with someone on some level to know if we're compatible. any time I've tried to date someone whose tastes mirrored mine, it never worked out anyway.

taste is just a conversation starter imo

it's cool to parade your favorite books and hobbies as a way to get people to love you

board description or am I doing ILX wrong

(well, it's not working, so I'm doing ILX wrong)

i'd prefer that to the current board description

taste is just a conversation starter imo

― HOOS it because...of steen???? (BIG HOOS aka the steendriver), Sunday, October 13, 2013 6:00 PM Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

yeah, usually I use it as a lead-in to a conversation ("Noticed you liked xxx, what's your favorite part of xxx").

yeah, i'd like to have a casual attitude about stuff like the profiles and the compatibility score but still something in me is always silently screaming "i am not my preferences"! probably an overly romantic attitude.

although the main reason i deleted my profile was probably that i felt like an asshole ignoring messages from people i didn't find attractive.

it's kind of expected? I mean for probably every 11 emails I send on match.com, I get one reply.

I don't think there's a girl in Topeka bawling her eyes out right now screaming "WHY TREEZY DON'T WANT ME" simply cuz you clicked delete

ha. i have similar feelings but really it's just an amplified sense of what i find quite unpleasant about okc in general, namely that it kinda demands that you make quick judgements of people based on their looks, which is generally a kind of mode of being i try to steer away from.

xp lol

yeah merdeyeux otm.

agreed. I mean, obv it's important to be attracted to someone, but I don't bother wasting time if we're incompatible on fundamental levels (ie, they're very religious and want a religious man, or claim they want someone who is into yoga or some shit). people often are surprised when you quote something from their profile.

many xps to ljubljana

i feel like i've posted there too many times on various romantic threads already but:

when i met ytth, i was a waitress/sales clerk, making a second lame attempt at undergrad, really truly culturally (and intellectually) impoverished (and i'd just almost literally discovered the internet AND i'd never traveled), meat-eating and absolutely not into the outdoors or exercise of any kind.

ytth was/is a fluent french-speaking, vegan, grad-school dropout, who was really into mountain-biking and hiking and was well-traveled.

and it worked out! this isn't to say there is a greater or lesser chance of these things always working, just that if you feel a tug you might as well see where it goes, right?

Is Ytth a Welsh name or an abbreviation for a rare earth element?

is it eyeteeth without the eees

Oh like what happens to people who use meth. :-(

some of us were born without em, so always be sure to ask first imo

xp to ljubljana - i have to say, when i met just1n3, i was a grad school drop-out who forgot most of the french i learned in college, worked a really lame job and lived in a studio apartment where i had no friends in a city i didn't like. just1n3 knew about all these cool artists, was reading raymond carver and alice munro, and had tons of friends and a really active social life. plus, she lived in the cultural and intellectual capital of a far-off land, whereas i was stuck in a city full of retirees and drunk fratty college students. but it worked out! so definitely give it a shot, since there might be more there than it seems from first glance.

also xp: ytth is the name of a band i played in a long time ago. it's an acronym.

aww

OK totally sold you two <3

Er, I wrote back to him and he didn't reply!

reactivated my account, messaged a bit with a really cute girl with cool tattoos. when she didn't return a message for a while i decided that i must have written something terrible in my profile that she just saw and deactivated my profile. also one girl who i messaged a long time ago checks my profile a lot but has never responded to my message. what is that?

shit's too nerve wracking for me.

oh yeah also ok cupid always taunts me by showing me profiles of girls in nyc.

It shows me lots of women in San Francisco and Portland. Beginning to suspect it's just a front for a real estate company that only does business in large cities and wants you to move.

haha yeah. i mean, since college i've tried to swing a way to live in new york city and i think it's really dickish for ok cupid to remind me that i would have an easier time dating there.

It keeps showing me men in New Jersey and the Boston area so ymmv. Literally.

i don't think it's any easier in nyc! xp

I think it only shows you what you ask it to show you, fwiw - if you have your search paramaters set to "anywhere" or something that'll happen. Mines set to something like "within 25km" so I only get locals. LDRs can go fuck emselves Ive had too many already.