privilege as a meme

bwahaha

yeah, if friends are talking about their student loans I'm not going to bust out "yo, my parents and some scholarships and a few bucks I saved funded all my college years, I'm sorry you guys didn't have that" and then peace out

all the justifications about parents working hard and her working hard - well sure! as long as you realize that lots of those people who you think are jealous meanies are probably working just as hard just to get by

xp you should save that for the comments section on an article about student loan debt

Next, when a friend talks about getting hassled by the police just for being black, I'm going to say that it's so awkward that a police officer has never looked at me with suspicion, even when I was guilty

"The Tell-Tale White Heart"

Stop making me feel like I am less deserving.

Like, maybe there's no level of whether you "deserve" a high-rise apartment and a doorman and nice suits, but you have them? Maybe you're... equally deserving as everyone else?

That lady just needs to get herself one of these:

http://i01.i.aliimg.com/wsphoto/v2/570290779_1/Lot-of-10-3-Blue-Glass-Turkish-font-b-Evil-b-font-font-b-Eye-b.jpg_250x250.jpg

xp

maybe that's precisely the cause of her unease - that underlying sense that she's won the lottery of life, and that the narrative of "i deserve this" is a means of ignoring that most people don't get what they "deserve"

nobody deserves anything, it's all just a roll of the cosmic dice, baby

well, it's mainly capitalism at work but the point stands

Obviously being poor or non-white around this writer is a microaggression

I think unconsciously flouting your privilege or wealth is irritating and she probably does this in ways that are imperceptible to her but obvious to all others, and this affectation where she pretends she is wearing hand-me-downs and lies is obvious to everyone, too.

So tired of the "rich people work hard" line. You know what, most adults (and too many kids) in the world work pretty damn hard but most of them are not in professions where that translates into considerable wealth so stfu about how hard your parents worked because it implies your less wealthy friends' parents just didn't work hard enough and maybe that's one reason why people think you're a whiny privileged asshole who has the brass fucking balls to act like you're somehow a victim.

"i earned this!" is one of the more insidious slogans of capitalism because while it is manifestly untrue about people with great amounts of wealth and privilege, it's the kind of rhetoric which appeals those toiling away in lower economic strata. it's like this evil mental jujitsu which binds the unimaginably wealthy to their blue collar underlings who really do have a precarious hold on what they've "earned."

she should really consider bragging about her brass balls instead of complaining about ppl not liking her

in other words, "I earned this" is basically how each social class pisses all over the one beneath it.

while identifying with the one above it.

I like this comment: "And for fuck's sake, you live in a country that ADORES rich people. It's not like you're running from the peasants who want to burn down the manor. No one's threatening to hang you from a lamppost. There is literally no situation in the world that could be better for you than the one you're in now. Do you see why complaining is ridiculous?"

even here, on thought catalog, she can find no peace, no respite

Don't Hate Me Because I Work
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I'm pretty sure you can be humble without pretending to be. I also have baby boomer parents. I also wear expensive clothes purchased with my own income. I also am debt free. So let your Gucci freak flag fly. Just remember, no matter how much pity you have for yourself and props you give to yourself for assuming that natural climb to upper-middle class, you're still a terrible human being and they are judging you as a person rather than your belongings.

I weep for those who will reflexively "like" such a thing.

Ach, the woman just sounds like an old-school preppie - and they don't spend money on anything but private tuition fees, anonymous charitable donations and real estate. The car will be an old beater of quality, a Volvo or Saab, and obviously they'll never go hungry or want for much. They're not materialistic because they don't use clothes or other portable possessions to signal status, but that in itself is a status an it's irritating to many observers.

An old college friend is from that background; her parents simply wrote a check for the entire four years' tuition in one go. At Sarah Lawrence, they offer parents the chance to pay for four years at a reduced price if you can swing the funds; the discount is arrived at by 4x the student's first-year tuition, which obviously goes up each year for the others. She claims all her college friends were financial aid recipients; hanging out with the obvious/nouveau rich kids was not her thing.

An old-school preppie such as you describe would never expose herself to such ridicule for the sake of saying what she only takes for granted.

A pro would have kicked off with a dubious anecdote about a strawman being mean to her at a party.

they don't spend money on anything but private tuition fees, anonymous charitable donations and real estate. The car will be an old beater of quality, a Volvo or Saab, and obviously they'll never go hungry or want for much

I'd never realized it, but this describes one of my childhood friends' parents to a t. Really nice architecturally interesting home in a well-regarded old neighborhood, used to have older volvos and I think in retirement actually started restoring _really_ old volvos, and generally not ostentatious.

it describes quite a few people i've known!

Then the kids move into squatter houses and start punk rock bands.

nah, the kid went to Harvard and works in business strategy for startups or something. blargh

*thinks about thirty-year-old Volvo my dad drives, is nonplussed by squatter house ventilation*

i didn't earn any of this shit that i have fwiw

hi-five, crut

also bruneau otm

I don't know any kids like that! All the ones who squatted in houses and played in punk bands either had really modest upbringings or had relatively non-ostentatious but generic suburban lives

An old-school preppie such as you describe would never expose herself to such ridicule for the sake of saying what she only takes for granted.

She's seriously breaching the code. This should merely be fuel for some self-deprecating humor over a good glass of wine, instead she's gone full-blown Millenial and bored us all publicly online. Her parents are probably rolling their eyes and chuckling.

Yeah, but the gulf between rich and poor hasn't been this wide since the Great Depression; her parents will have grown up in a more egalitarian time with less guilt and less oversharing generally. Also, if what went down in The Group is in any way accurate, back then, people who had money politely left paid employment to people who actually needed to work for a living. I wish the fuckers would do the same now - they're even richer.

uh i don't think she's nec /that/ rich

also i think inequality is increasing mostly because of hyperconcentration in the very top income shares (why you hear ppl talk about not just 1% but .01%) so even if they all gave up their jobs it's not that many jobs

My favorite part in that whole article for me was when she talked about the (pretty obviously imagined) look on her doorman's face when she received J. Crew packages in the mail (but they're "for work," if he only knew!) As though J.Crew is the Lamborghini countach of clothing, so unbelievably beyond the imagination of a simple doorman that he is embarrassed even to hold the package -- the first time he has ever even seen such a thing, of course.

she's probably always a jerk to her doorman and that's why he looks at her like a jerk

at the same time, I'm sort of annoyed that I even read the article, which I only know about because of Gawker, and which is just some dumb thought catalog piece

ding ding ding

the question I have for her, is, how much does she tip

Yes, they always leave that out, and its p important as a true indicator of wite ppl's inner guilt imo

dmac, how much do you tip

Exceedingly generously for here tbf, depending on the service and the race or gender of the server

ps will u check the last link i posted in the irish politics thread, id be curious for yr thoughts on the piece tbr

she tips the j crew deliveryman in paranoid asides

You're one to talk about dicks raining on the parade

wt actual fuck, posted that to whats happening our borad?

It was funnier in that context crut i promise