privilege as a meme

ha well put

"stop opressing us" - a curious teen

tbf teens probably are oppressed but it's just that everyone agrees they fucking deserve it

i do think forapper does have some decent comparison points to make tbh but i'm not sure how that phenomenon plays out here

mostly i'm kinda astounded anyone thought girlfag would be a useful term in fostering respect & understanding

I'm only attracted to otherkin btw.

I dunno if I'd say "more attracted", but I'm definitely more interested in queer women than straight in part because they're much more likely to understand my own queerness. The "alienation from the role you are expected to occupy in a romantic relationship" definitely plays into that. Plus, I'm totally down with a lot of the gender presentations, etc. queer women display that your average straight guy might find offputting. Otoh, the idea of identifying as a "guydyke" makes me vomit.

I definitely have a tendency to like slightly "tomboyish" or less "girly" girls, and I don't even identify as queer or think of this as a particularly queer thing (although your explanation makes perfect sense). I always just thought of it as preferring women who can escape the pressure of "performing" their gender role all the time and thus seem more, idk, real? My male friends sort of fit this as well.

like i understand that there is a lot of space for various & sundry queernesses in nominally heterosexual people / pairing but come on these ppl are all teens, right?

― your authentic guitar playing self (elmo argonaut), Tuesday, September 3, 2013 6:56 PM (1 hour ago)

this is a conclusion i often come to w/ the a/demi/unicornsexuals, etc -- most of these people are kids with crazy hormones and access to a community of other kids with crazy hormones

I saw an actress referred to as not overly feminine in an article and almost choked laughing because she doesn't seem at all masculine, at least in a non-gender normative way to me. People are weird.

come on these ppl are all teens, right?

― your authentic guitar playing self (elmo argonaut), Tuesday, September 3, 2013 6:56 PM (2 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

like isn't this just another expression of the unrequited everything of teen life

― your authentic guitar playing self (elmo argonaut), Tuesday, September 3, 2013 7:04 PM (1 hour ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

this is true ime/u of almost everything you find on tumblr that is funny or weird and stupid and why imo its better to marvel at it as pure teen lyfe instead of disparaging it as dumb social justice otherkin whatever

teen sexuality is kind of its own thing, it's like a really sensitive mic with the input level set way too high

I think some of this weird sexuality extends though. Som people.... never change

max otm

teen sexuality is kind of its own thing, it's like a really sensitive mic with the input level set way too high

― #fomo that's the motto (Hurting 2), Tuesday, September 3, 2013 9:06 PM (1 hour ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

haha kind of a truth bomb

we're assuming some people really never mature past 'weird teen lyfe' and that explains a lot, yes?

stuff happens when you're a teen & sometimes you never get over it

that girlfag/guydyke wikipedia article is especially bunk because poppy z brite is an actual trans man and mary renault was a lesbian

http://31.media.tumblr.com/b49137c0c5b618952f1f66edf6a6ccd0/tumblr_mt86xxhsPe1rnkmu0o1_500.png

OTM

omg at TEACH ME

that's the one that makes me reach for my revolver

hey elmo... teach me

What is the "you're probably a rapist/pedophile" one?

also what is "people probably aren't ready for this yet?"

^ this guy's such a D5

fun privilege game

oh the rapist one is queer-specific i get it

not sure I understand the other one

"the topic you're bringing up is too controversial right now, wait for things to die down or for people to magically agree with you on their own before you bring it up again" is the subtext there

yeah that's kind of a classic going way back

oic, like "The south can't handle integration yet" for the internet era

lol the other day someone said, "He's not a malintentioned person, but..." and three of us present all rolled our eyes/made that face at the same time.

"not being a douchebag to minority X is too much to expect from primitive earthlings at this point in time"

xposts my father-in-law used that as his trump card when he tried explaining why he was opposed to gay marriage and none of his other rationales held up; "the economy's terrible, why are we doing this NOW?"

Perhaps it is easy for those who have never felt the stinging darts of segregation to say, 'Wait.' But when you have seen vicious mobs lynch your mothers and fathers at will and drown your sisters and brothers at whim…when you see the vast majority of twenty million Negro brothers smothering in an airtight cage of poverty in the midst of an affluent society; when you suddenly find your tongue twisted and your speech stammering as you seek to explain to your six-year-old daughter why she can't go to the public amusement park that has just been advertised on television, and see tears welling up in her eyes when she is told that Funtown is closed to colored children, and see ominous clouds of inferiority beginning to form in her little mental sky…when you take a cross-country drive and find it necessary to sleep night after night in the uncomfortable corners of your automobile because no motel will accept you…when…your wife and mother are never given the respected title 'Mrs.'…when you are forever fighting a degenerating sense of 'nobodiness'—then you will understand why we find it difficult to wait. There comes a time when the cup of endurance runs over, and men are no longer willing to be plunged into the abyss of despair.

the subtext seems like basically "gosh all this strife and *politics* are really unpleasant for me to hear about."

Needed a 'stop teaching me' tbf

more from the Letter From Birmingham Jail:

I must make two honest confessions to you, my Christian and Jewish brothers. First, I must confess that over the past few years I have been gravely disappointed with the white moderate. I have almost reached the regrettable conclusion that the Negro's great stumbling block in his stride toward freedom is not the White Citizen's Counciler or the Ku Klux Klanner, but the white moderate, who is more devoted to "order" than to justice; who prefers a negative peace which is the absence of tension to a positive peace which is the presence of justice; who constantly says: "I agree with you in the goal you seek, but I cannot agree with your methods of direct action"; who paternalistically believes he can set the timetable for another man's freedom; who lives by a mythical concept of time and who constantly advises the Negro to wait for a "more convenient season." Shallow understanding from people of good will is more frustrating than absolute misunderstanding from people of ill will. Lukewarm acceptance is much more bewildering than outright rejection.

I had hoped that the white moderate would understand that law and order exist for the purpose of establishing justice and that when they fail in this purpose they become the dangerously structured dams that block the flow of social progress. I had hoped that the white moderate would understand that the present tension in the South is a necessary phase of the transition from an obnoxious negative peace, in which the Negro passively accepted his unjust plight, to a substantive and positive peace, in which all men will respect the dignity and worth of human personality. Actually, we who engage in nonviolent direct action are not the creators of tension. We merely bring to the surface the hidden tension that is already alive. We bring it out in the open, where it can be seen and dealt with. Like a boil that can never be cured so long as it is covered up but must be opened with all its ugliness to the natural medicines of air and light, injustice must be exposed, with all the tension its exposure creates, to the light of human conscience and the air of national opinion before it can be cured.

as it ever was

http://thoughtcatalog.com/2013/being-privileged-is-not-a-choice-so-stop-hating-me-for-it/

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wtf is with people thinking they have to chime in when they DON'T have problems

polite thing is to stfu, imo

privileged people have real problems getting used to being de-centered

that is some prime guilt avoidance going on.

guilt is a useless emotion

ask any psychopath

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wflNtNou7sk

re: crüt's linked article

Kate, the author, contends that people hate her for her privilege, and goes on to explain how she lies to everyone about it, conceals it, feels paranoid about the "look" she gets from a delivery person, and so on, but never once gives us evidence that she was ever treated hatefully by anyone. No anecdotes of being spat on, no quotes of being called hateful names. Nothing.

What is it we're doing that she's pleading with us that we stop doing?

envying her

STOP JUDGING ME SILENTLY IN YOUR MIND.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hz8ul-gmLyA

bwahaha

yeah, if friends are talking about their student loans I'm not going to bust out "yo, my parents and some scholarships and a few bucks I saved funded all my college years, I'm sorry you guys didn't have that" and then peace out